posted April 24, 2025 05:02 AM            

I'm in ☺️ I will get back with your reading during today.

My situation: I met G not so long ago and at first the whole connection seemed like as if I found the person I was looking for. Since then, a few things turned out about him that make me question if he is indeed a genuine person I should invest in. He triggered my distrust and anxiety and right now I'm in the middle of the unknown not knowing if his past and current behaviour has even darker things. He has a very calm and stable side I really like, but then, he is in the wrong social circle having immature 'friends' who influence him in a bad way. They behave in toxic ways.

posted April 24, 2025 06:18 AM            

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Originally posted by LilyIris07:
What is J’s issue with me? Why is she trying to get me into a relationship, or having negative opinions or controlling energy towards me and my job/relationships?

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Star
4 of Pentacles
9 of Swords
5 of Swords

Confirmation
Altered View
Narcissism

To simply put I feel the energy from the cards that J possibly sees you and your life outstanding, I think she is pretty aware that you are shining in every type of situation and it makes her threatened somehow. What she does not see behind all you have is the effort and the hard work, she might think things fall into your lap. J probably clings onto old habits which are triggered and might cause her anxiety or overthinking. Unfortunately, J seems to have this lose-lose mentality which is also clarified by Narcissism - tries to manipulate you into situations where you might fall.

Some keywords to think about:

Narcissism - Manipulation, Control, Infidelity, Disregards Boundaries, Ego-Centric, Entitlement, Selfish, Rule-Breaker

posted April 24, 2025 06:55 AM            

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Originally posted by Emsie:
Star
4 of Pentacles
9 of Swords
5 of Swords

Confirmation
Altered View
Narcissism

To simply put I feel the energy from the cards that J possibly sees you and your life outstanding, I think she is pretty aware that you are shining in every type of situation and it makes her threatened somehow. What she does not see behind all you have is the effort and the hard work, she might think things fall into your lap. J probably clings onto old habits which are triggered and might cause her anxiety or overthinking. Unfortunately, J seems to have this lose-lose mentality which is also clarified by Narcissism - tries to manipulate you into situations where you might fall.

Some keywords to think about:

Narcissism - Manipulation, Control, Infidelity, Disregards Boundaries, Ego-Centric, Entitlement, Selfish, Rule-Breaker

Altered View - Seeing Things Differently Than They Are, Past/Conditioning Influencing Situation, Re-Evaluate

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posted April 24, 2025 06:55 AM            

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Originally posted by Emsie:
Star
4 of Pentacles
9 of Swords
5 of Swords

Confirmation
Altered View
Narcissism

To simply put I feel the energy from the cards that J possibly sees you and your life outstanding, I think she is pretty aware that you are shining in every type of situation and it makes her threatened somehow. What she does not see behind all you have is the effort and the hard work, she might think things fall into your lap. J probably clings onto old habits which are triggered and might cause her anxiety or overthinking. Unfortunately, J seems to have this lose-lose mentality which is also clarified by Narcissism - tries to manipulate you into situations where you might fall.

Some keywords to think about:

Narcissism - Manipulation, Control, Infidelity, Disregards Boundaries, Ego-Centric, Entitlement, Selfish, Rule-Breaker

Altered View - Seeing Things Differently Than They Are, Past/Conditioning Influencing Situation, Re-Evaluate

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posted April 24, 2025 07:00 AM            

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Originally posted by LilyIris07:

Thank you for your reading! I’ll get to yours in a bit I find it interesting because if anything, she’s the one with the glamorous life, she’s got the boyfriend, a nice apartment and a very good job - she’s a bit older than me. I’m not established in any sort of way and I’m still figuring things out - so I don’t really fully understand.

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posted April 26, 2025 01:15 AM            

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Originally posted by Emsie:
Hi,

I'm in ☺️ I will get back with your reading during today.

My situation: I met G not so long ago and at first the whole connection seemed like as if I found the person I was looking for. Since then, a few things turned out about him that make me question if he is indeed a genuine person I should invest in. He triggered my distrust and anxiety and right now I'm in the middle of the unknown not knowing if his past and current behaviour has even darker things. He has a very calm and stable side I really like, but then, he is in the wrong social circle having immature 'friends' who influence him in a bad way. They behave in toxic ways.

My Q: What is going to happen within our connection between us, do we have a future together and a potential for making the effort and him changing his ways for the better?

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Hello! I’m so sorry for my late response

So I got the two of pentacles, the ten of cups in reverse, justice and the seven of wands. So, I do feel like someone is holding their ground, I’m not sure if it’s signaling being stuck in their ways or if they just don’t see the issues you exactly. There’s some indecision, especially because things are a little bit out of alignment at the moment. I think with justice and the seven of wands, you need to make it clear what you want, demonstrate that and then hold your ground. I also pulled the ten of swords, the page of pentacles, the the moon and the three of pentacles… so there may be some reflection or introspection going on from both your sides, and there is some hard work being put into it, some stability - with the ten of swords I feel like it’s definitely triggering some things, and this is where perhaps you need to go within to release these things through the hard inner work. The ten of swords could also be indicating that these are caused from inside your head, and perhaps they may release after some of this introspection. I feel like this is for both of you in a way, G is also assessing their own stuff and wanting to smooth it over. I think you guys may try to work it out, but there may be decisions made where one of you walks away. I’m not sure if it’s you or him, because I got the six of pentacles, five of pentacles, queen of swords, the tower, judgement and the eight of cups. So after trying to make it work, realizing perhaps you aren’t on the same page one of you (perhaps you) may realize we gave it our best but this is not for us.

posted April 26, 2025 09:57 AM            

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Originally posted by LilyIris07:
Hello! I’m so sorry for my late response

So I got the two of pentacles, the ten of cups in reverse, justice and the seven of wands. So, I do feel like someone is holding their ground, I’m not sure if it’s signaling being stuck in their ways or if they just don’t see the issues you exactly. There’s some indecision, especially because things are a little bit out of alignment at the moment. I think with justice and the seven of wands, you need to make it clear what you want, demonstrate that and then hold your ground. I also pulled the ten of swords, the page of pentacles, the the moon and the three of pentacles… so there may be some reflection or introspection going on from both your sides, and there is some hard work being put into it, some stability - with the ten of swords I feel like it’s definitely triggering some things, and this is where perhaps you need to go within to release these things through the hard inner work. The ten of swords could also be indicating that these are caused from inside your head, and perhaps they may release after some of this introspection. I feel like this is for both of you in a way, G is also assessing their own stuff and wanting to smooth it over. I think you guys may try to work it out, but there may be decisions made where one of you walks away. I’m not sure if it’s you or him, because I got the six of pentacles, five of pentacles, queen of swords, the tower, judgement and the eight of cups. So after trying to make it work, realizing perhaps you aren’t on the same page one of you (perhaps you) may realize we gave it our best but this is not for us.

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Hi LilyIris07,

Many thanks for the reading. This is indeed the current situation, indecision as there are still blindspots I'd need to have confirmation on. I'm not even surprised about seeing the indecision as right from the start he seemed like a great guy and I felt his stable and calm energy, but at the same time I have quite a few dealbreakers and e.g. partying and occasionally using drugs over 30 is not gonna cut it for me.

We haven't been on a date yet, but I think we both know that the attraction and the feelings are there on both sides (he literally can't stay away from me for a long time)

Another dealbreaker for me in general for any guy is the core values regarding sexuality. I would like to have a partner who shares similar/same values like me (not doing one night stands, hookups and casual sex)

This is something I'd still need to ask from him. So far, he told me only that he is very picky and cautious when it comes to dating and getting into connections (he has natal Saturn/Venus which also confirms that), but my inner Queen of Swords is constantly telling me that this doesn't mean anything until I get the truth from him. At this point, I'm not entirely sure if partying for him involved only drinks and sometimes drugs, or even hooking up with random girls.

Btw, my lifestyle used to be similar to his for a long time and I also have Saturn/Venus in my natal chart, so attending parties and concerts didn't involve one night stands at all, only having fun and letting the steam out. He told me that there was someone he met once or twice before me who told him that she wouldn't have tolerated drinking and 'partying' at all - I responded that for me it's on the border of acceptance if there is moderation involved, so I wouldn't require full blown abstinence as I'm not abstinent, either.

A few weeks ago he told me that he didn't even like partying at all, but he can't say no. I assume it might be some kind of people pleasing the other guys in the circle and he goes against himself and his good judgement basically...

posted April 26, 2025 11:00 AM            

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Originally posted by LilyIris07:
Thank you for your reading it definitely resonates - do you mind doing one more? I’m asking about someone named M, and where exactly this situation is going between us; and how we feel about each other?

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Sure, we can do another one. I will be back soon with yours.

posted April 26, 2025 11:13 AM            

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Originally posted by LilyIris07:
I’m asking about someone named M, and where exactly this situation is going between us; and how we feel about each other?

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2 of Swords
Ace of Cups
Page of Cups
Knight of Pentacles

8 of Swords