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posted June 14, 2006 05:12 PM         

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To cut a long story short, there's someone who doesn't like me even though they don't know me. I've tried to be nice but they won't be nice back, and I've even seen them talking about me (AND perving at my boyfriend to top it all off!). I can't avoid this person so I'm wondering if there's some way to make them just go away! Not a harmful spell or anything like that, maybe just a way (which could be a spell) to get them to get a new job or even move away, or something like that where no harm is done...

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posted June 20, 2006 02:46 AM         

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Hi Gem I read this when you first posted and I wanted to ask you if you knew the story of the Monkey's Paw... and I even Googled the story and was going to post the link to you but I wasn't sure if you would want to read the entire story and I hadn't had time to "Cliff Note" it for you.
It's basically a Be Careful What You Wish For, You Just Might Get It story, and it touches on the complications that can come from seemingly innocent spells.
Everyone who is interested in Wiccan will say to add a "harm to none and free will to all" clause at the end of your wish/spell, but I prefer the standard "prayer" route, basically asking that I tap into the infinite knowledge and wisdom Source and then take the steps that will bring me to my greatest good and the greatest good for all involved.
I often have trouble with deeply meaning the "greatest good for all involved" part when it comes to people I feel are causing me harm.

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posted June 20, 2006 04:02 AM         

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True, I know what you mean... for this reason I've only done a couple of spells in my life, otherwise I just pray. An alternative could be that I ask for protection from harm projected at me by this person?

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posted June 21, 2006 02:37 PM         

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That’s what I do, but some might say that this acknowledges that they even have the power to harm you in the first place. Since your thoughts create your reality, it would be best not to give them that power to harm you in your own mind. This is all easier said than done though, so again, when I’m lost in the darkness and thinking these crazy things, I try to remember I am connected to the source and can have All the protection I need at any time... it's all within, I am safe, life is good, what am I meant to learn from this situation?, why does it bother me?, how can I find peace in this situation without trying to change the other person? etc.
But as I said, if it's REALLY important to me, I try to control it the most. It's better to center yourself and connect to All Intelligence and All Wisdom, listen to the Answer and then take the steps toward resolving things in a healthy and peaceful way, then let things go and trust that things are working beyond what our conscious mind is aware of... and for the greatest good. Whenever I doubt this, I look at my life and see how much better it has always been over the years even with challenging times.
I don't want to distress you, and as a Libra I like to start from the extreme of each side and then let the scales slowly balance while I explore both extremes and everything in the middle, but an example in your situation could be that this girl is put here in your life to show you how much faithfulness etc you can expect from your man in the future. If he "fails" the test in your eyes, it will help you to decide if this is what you want for a lifetime, before you spend the next 1/2 a decade with him and THEN find this out about him later. People's true character is revealed in adversity and all that jazz...
Or (opposite scale swing) this could demonstrate how much you can trust him to take your feelings into consideration, how much you can trust him to "make himself unavailable" to this person's advances if you feel they are inappropriate etc.
I don't have a clear idea of what this person is actually doing, but I'm guessing with what I've got. I hope you find a few seeds of truth somewhere in this that you can use.

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posted June 21, 2006 03:48 PM         

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Great advice! It's always good to come here and hear a 'voice of reason'. I'm sorry to say this about anyone but this person really turned into a skank recently and has tried to flirt with my man on purpose while I'm right there... this really gets me riled up! But if it has a reason as a 'test', then I am happy with the results... he is extremely attractive to women and I find myself dealing with this a lot, yet he always does make himself 'unavailable' to them - thank goodness for that airy, aloof quality he throws out in these situations (although then, because he doesn't respond, the women usually end up frustrated and mad... with both him AND me!)...

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posted June 22, 2006 12:21 AM         

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Well, this is an awesome situation then! Whenever she does this you can just sit back and smile and watch him ignore her. You can bask in the peace of his respect toward you. When you are alone you can hug him and tell him how trustworthy he is, and how proud and lucky you are to have him. You can tell him you appreciate how respectful he is to you in those situations and let him know without a doubt that you think he is a wonderful person with integrity and honor. You are very blessed.

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posted June 22, 2006 05:32 AM         

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Yes, you're right about that - his "I'm SO unavailable" approach makes people think he's snobby, and in some cases it just makes them try harder, but for me I guess it is a blessing. Very loyal, and definitely thinks that married men should not flirt (although, we're not married)... who's to say what will happen in the future, but you're right I should show him that I appreciate him more often. I think my Scorpio moon needs to relax about this stuff - as we were talking about in the Intuition vs Paranoia thread... oh how much I love these forums, the people here are so good for my personal growth!

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posted June 23, 2006 03:13 AM         

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OMG. Just as I start to relax (I was even friendly to her to try and 'defuse' any situation), he was friendly to her today... now this makes me uneasy! I didn't say anything though. I guess I'll have to sit back and watch the situation and try to keep it in perspective. I don't want my jealous side to come out!

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posted June 23, 2006 03:20 AM         

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He was just taking your lead, don't worry about it...
more tomorrow! zzzzzzzzzz

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posted June 23, 2006 05:51 PM         

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Hello:
I am from Mexico and there is no way to get Gooberz for me. I´ve got no credit card. And the book does not exist here. I only have cash. How much would it cost to send it to me from USA? Would someone do that for me? I would send back the money to the the person who´d do me this special favor. But at first I gotta know how much cash it takes. Thank You everybody.
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posted June 23, 2006 07:04 PM         

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Yeah that's what I thought, MM... the only thing is I need to whack my Scorpio moon on the head and tell it to shut up!

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posted June 24, 2006 02:39 AM         

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If it was me I wouldn't be "nice" to her. I would just make brief eye contact with her enough to let her know that I don't like how she is disrespecting me, and then feel satisfied that the one who counts is being respectful to me. And I would let the Gemini know how respected and peaceful I felt when he didn't encourage her.
Scorpio Moon must be tough. I have a Pisces friend with Scorp moon and Aries Asc. She is married to a Taurus buddy I have had since high school. He is very dependable and would never cheat on her but he was still seeing another girl (Sag with Pisces moon and Scorp Asc) when he first met Pisces and he wasn't finished wrapping things up with this first girl when Pisces decided they (Pisces and Taurus) were in love and comitted (about 2 hours after they met) and she is unable to let this go. She feels he betrayed her etc. and it seems she doesn't let a day go by that she doesn't think about it and let it affect thier relationship. There is a little more to it and I'm not saying he is completely innocent, but my goodness, it's been almost 7 years and she just lets this ONE thing eat away at thier marriage.
Anyway... blah blah blah. But although I can't totally relate to being a Scorp, this particular situation illustrates the seething and not letting go aspect I have heard about. Everyone is jealous, but as a Libra I can forgive (and forget hehe) minor things. Someone has to really be out of line for me to hang on to it.
As I said, he must have been following your lead. It probably confused him that you were being nice to her.

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