posted October 02, 2007 05:37 PM         

Anyways... Good luck! I suppose all you can do is go for it. What else is there to do really? Either you get out there, tell her how you feel and wait for the response or you'll never know (like me).

posted October 04, 2007 05:27 AM         

Here's an idea or two:

*Do you have school dances?
Ask her to the dance (or) have a friend ask for you...

Little Known Secret:
Girls this age will find it almost impossible to say "NO" and then this event will provide an opportunity to get to know one another.

*Do you share any classes with her?
Accidently,[purposely] end up her partner with school projects, research, etc.

*Do you own pencils/pens/paper, etc.
Be there immediatly to lend her these items when she comes up short handed.

*Thinking up more...

Please remember to breath, and just relax.

posted October 04, 2007 06:32 AM         

Try and make friends with one of her friends and then work your way to speaking to her, that's probably the safest option, or compliment something about her and move on to conversations. like: her clothing; Hey, that shirts really cool... reminds me of "fill in the blank" (or) ask her what she uses in her hair to make it always look so perfect/cute? At this age, her friends liking you is the key to her liking you.

If she's in your class after class ask a question about class walk next to her and talk then you will become more comfortable around her.

Get her to notice you - say: "good morning" and stuff like that to her with a really nice smile and if it's really nice weather and you're walking past her or standing near to her just say: "Wow, this day is beautiful!" and she will most like nod and get to know you a little ... then you talk to her more and more over the time and then ask for her mobile phone number or icq/msn number or so on ...

Causally ask her to help you with something, like directions or the time of an event...

Just happen to bump into her in the hall and help her pick up her books.
At this point apologize to her; and introduce yourself!

Ask her a question?
Examples:
If you run into her at the mall:
watch and wait a bit, she will stop at something (perfume, cosmetics, dress etc.)
Go to the same section, looking at things and go near to her (just casually), pick up something from that section and just ask some thing general about that item like "Do you know what would be a great perfume for my mom's present?" or someting cheesy like that.. then start from there and the rest of the conversation depends upon her answer. [You will sound sweet and considerate]

If you see her sitting
Grab lunch, soon as you see this girl sitting all by herself in the cafeteria or somewhere where she's sitting down and you can set your food at, simply ask: "Hey, do you mind if I sit here?" From that point on the girl is going to expect for you to say something. She won't sit there ignoring you.

·If she has been absent from school on a particular day offer to help her out.·

Enter into a common discussion with her like movies, books, the latest event in town, the TV program she views, preparation for an exam, college planning etc.

If you see her In the Library:
Find out which book she has borrowed. Ask for the same book at the library. On this pretext you can approach her and ask her politely when she would be returning the book? Explain to her how coincidental it is that you are looking for the same book. This is an easy way to at least break the ice.

If this girl happens to drop a folder, leave behind a book or any other belonging take the opportunity to return it to her. If it's raining offer her your umbrella or raincoat. That's another wonderful opportunity!!

If she has participated with a dance or a song group you can always say - "Congratulations! I think your group was great ... let me introduce myself. I am Ashish"

If she was in the quiz and her team had won then you should have no problem. Just go and congratulate her. If not you can always say - "Hi! I'm Sam, I think we are in science together"

Good luck to you!!!

posted October 04, 2007 03:09 PM         

I also have a son 17 years old who takes the time to talk to me about things like this. His friends also come to me for advice as I am considered "The Cool Parent"

I was very popular while attending school but never allowed myself to become a snob.
Many boys your age are frightened to approach girls they like because of a fear of rejection. Those same girls however, generally appreciate all the attention they can get, LOL!

Just remember to relax and breath....

posted October 06, 2007 10:07 AM         

Khaine, Just take a shot at it and talk to her. As Yourfriendinspirit told you just about any of those suggestions of talking to her are good.

What have you got to lose? Things that are meant to be will be. If she isn't responsive to you then you just have to accept that it wasn't meant to be.

If you don't talk to her you will always regret that you never tried to approach her and let it slip by. If she isn't responsive to you at least you will know you tried and it just wasn't meant to be.

At your age lots of girls will come and go in your life. Lots of opportunites. Some will work out for you and others won't. It's all a part of life. But you never know what might have happened if you never try.

It's the fear of rejection that we all face in life at all ages. I am quite sure that she faces the same fears. For all you know she may have liked you for all those years too and she was also too afraid to approach you.

My advice is to just give it a shot. Then at least you know you tried if it doesn't work for you. And keep in mind that the right girl will come along one of these days. What's meant to be will be.

Good luck. Maybe you can just tell her that you are bit shy but that you like her and would like to get to know her. Lots of girls like guys who are shy. I always did. Ask her out to a movie or something. The worse that can happen is that she will say no. That's not the end of the world.

Then just keep in mind that there are plenty of other girls that you will find attractive as time goes on who might say yes.

Hope that was helpful in some way. Best of luck to you!!!