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sisterchasingmoon
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posted February 05, 2003 02:11 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sisterchasingmoon     Edit/Delete Message

Goodmorning All,
I am having a hard time this morning, due to the dream I had. Yesterday my Aunt passed away. Last night in my dream it was my Mother.In this dream she was not in a small hosptial bed, she was in a big king size bed I remember her having when I was a child.
Here my Mother was, in this bed slowly slipping away from me and I am in the bed with her in my jammies all curled up next to her ready for sleep. My Aunt that passed away is there with us. She is very much alive and trying to instruct me on how to make my Mother comfortable.I didnt listen to her. All I wanted to do was go to sleep and thats exactly what I did. The end of the dream was, me waking up and looking over to check on my Mom and she had passed. There was my Aunt, busy around the room getting things taken care of. The last image I saw before bitting my bottom lip so hard it woke me up, was seeing myself sitting in this bed with such a confused look on my face.
Now why in the world would I have such a terrible dream ? Anyone have any thoughts on this? I would love to hear from you.
Love & Light,
Melissa

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Evergreen
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posted February 06, 2003 03:50 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Evergreen     Edit/Delete Message
Hello sister. I'm sorry about your Aunt passing away.

Dreaming of death is not necessarily about foreseeing a real physical death.

Death symbolizes also a transition, a change. And it is not unusual to have dreams of death when one also experiences the presence of death in daylight.

Maybe you fear that your mother will die too, or have touched the thought of how painful it will be when your mother passes on, and then playing out this in a dream.

I feel it is less about your mother and more about your inner transition; growing away from your childhood and your mother, and this process being scary for you because you have a hunch you have ignored something. Here you ignore your aunt instructing you on how to make your mother comfortable in her deathbed. you choose to fall asleep and when you wake up it's too late, your mother has passed on.

Maybe you're trying to tell yourself that you should pay more attention to your childhood/mother before moving on. Your aunt being busy and not dead despite you knowing she just died could tell you that this dream has nothing to do with real death.

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sisterchasingmoon
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posted February 06, 2003 02:59 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sisterchasingmoon     Edit/Delete Message
Evergreen,
Thanks for your words of wisdom. Im not sure how important this is but I forgot to mention that everything in the room was white. When I say everything I mean the walls, floor,clothing and bedding. This was all there was in the room. No furniture other than the bed.
Also, my Mom keep telling me that she was thirsty and needed a glass of water. I WOULDNT GET HER ONE !!
WHY? My gosh to think she needed my help and I wouldnt help her. You know throughout the whole dream, I never spoke a word.
Well, maybe these added things mean something more, maybe not. Just thought I would throw them out here.
Have a wonderful day !
Love & Light,
Melissa

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Evergreen
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posted February 06, 2003 07:40 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Evergreen     Edit/Delete Message
Hi again sister. Er, I don'n have any GOOD idea what all-white means. We often associate all-white with Heaven. Or another state of consciousness or being. Or it could be that the focus is not on things, nick-nack, colors and the surroundings, but solely on the persons in your dream.

Your mother asking you for water (life force, emotions, subconsciousness...) and you not giving it to her... seems to me you are cutting her out, not being willing or able to give her what (you feel) she needs from you. Or are you on some level afraid that you don't care enough for her? Are you a good dutiful daughter who also know you have to live your own life separate from yhour mothers expectations of you?

Your aunt being alive despite her recent death, your mother dying and you falling asleep; makes me wonder who is really living their lives here??

I had a period of dreaming the opposite; where my mother was the passive one I asked for help, and she ignored me. I interpreted it as kicking myself in the butt; grow up, help yourself, use your own resources, don't lean on your mother, she can't be there for you forever!

In this aspect, it seems that you know you are going to detach, but is not quite comfortable with how this might affect your mother??

ANYONE: Some other input?? HELP??

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Mystique
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posted February 06, 2003 09:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mystique     Edit/Delete Message
Hello

Melissa am I correct in understanding this was your mom's sister?
If so, since this dream occurred the night of your aunt's passing on, it might be showing your aunt visiting you and guiding you to comfort your mom....your mom asking you for a glass of water and you not responding might show that you feel unable to comfort her/nurture her the way you perceive in your dream she would have done...the scene with you sleeping in the kingsize bed from your childhood she used...
shows how you would turn to her for nurturing when you were little...now she needs that same care...you might feel you are not able to help her in the same way or you don't know how to.
Melissa, I could be way off here if she is not your mom's sister or was not that close with her if she was not, I am not sure!

Many times when a loved one passes on they visit someone who is not as emotionally distraught so that this person will be able to give the message or know how to comfort the one who is suffering the most. Not that I am belittling your pain in any way whatsoever! I think you understand what I mean though

I started off with a completely different interpretation and just deleted it all because I felt that this was a visit from your aunt guiding you in some way!

See what you think, but I definitely agree with Evergreen this is not a dream about another physical death. So don't worry sweetheart okay! A big warm hug to you and God's blessings on you and your family to guide you and comfort you during this time!
I believe your aunt is very happy now...maybe just a little worried about you guys in how you cope with her passing on, and that is why she appeared to you, to guide you!


Love
Mystique

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sisterchasingmoon
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posted February 06, 2003 10:54 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sisterchasingmoon     Edit/Delete Message
YOU TWO ARE WONDERFUL

She is my Mom's sister. The three of us were very close. When I was a teenager,my Mom took a job in a different town. This was in the middle of school, and she didnt want to take me out. I moved in with my Aunt and her family. From this point on she became a second Mother to me more so than Aunt.
Even in adulthood before I moved out of state I went to have coffee with her almost weekly. Stubborn old bat being the Capi that she was but how I loved to listen to her tell me stories about my Mom...LOL

I think you are right about me not being able to comfort my Mom ! I just moved away from her in November and the plane tickets from Alaska to California without notice are over a thousand dollars. Sadly I had to call Mom and tell her that I couldnt be there with her.

With My Aunt taking care of my Mom in my dream, maybe her visit to me in this manner was letting me know not to worry that she will take care of Mom since I cant.

Okay Im rambling now! Thank you so much, both of you. You have lifted my spirits more than I can express. I only hope that I can do the same for both of you in the future
Love & Light,
Melissa

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Ra
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posted February 09, 2003 10:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ra     Edit/Delete Message
Welcome to the site, Melissa!

Thanks Evergreen and Mystique!!!!
Fantastic!

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