posted March 11, 2004 12:48 AM         

i had a dream a few hours ago. i was about to embark on a writing task for an elderly gentleman. i'd spoken with an unknown person in the dream about the task. i was told by this unknown person he was too old to meet me any place other than his home.

when i arrived, there he was lying in the bed in the bedroom. the blanket was all the way up to the top portion of his head.

a young lady stopped me from going in the room to speak with him; she said he was asleep. i insisted that i speak with him and began to tell her about why i was there.

she walked me a few feet to another room where another man was lying on a couch, taking a nap. she awakened him and told him i was there.

i discover the man on the couch is an ex lover of mine...the man i was to write a story about is his father. the woman who greeted me is a friend of my ex lover's and was apparently his current love interest.

i never met my ex lover's father. in addition he's deceased and has been since the mid to late 70's. i did not meet my ex until 1987. i never spoke with the elderly gentleman. i only spoke with my ex and his new love.

i'm a bit confused by this dream and am looking forward to some insight.

thanks for reading...

posted March 11, 2004 04:42 AM         

My first reaction is that you already know what it means. Do you have any ideas?

Why was your ex there? Has he been in your life, or in your thoughts lately?

What were your feelings during the dream?

Did you feel the young lady was lying to you about the old man, or not?

I will give it some thought when I get a chance.

posted March 11, 2004 11:21 PM         

Q: My first reaction is that you already know what it means. Do you have any ideas?

A: i was thinking that because of the way i treated my ex, his father was asking me in a way not to leave him. he's a very controlling man (capricorn; i'm a virgo) and i do not like it when he tries to control me, my actions, and inactions.

it is apparent he loves me dearly, but i left my marriage a few years ago; i did not trust my husband. he gave me lots of reasons not to trust him. therefore, i do not trust my ex or anyone, intimately, for that matter...not anymore. he aslo (my ex) gave me reasons to distrust him as well.

therefore, i did not lend my whole heart in the relationship and i told him he was not getting it. i was a bit cold once i began to remove myself from him emotionally. he's 60 years young; i'm 35.

Q: Why was your ex there? Has he been in your life, or in your thoughts lately?

A: i think about him all the time! i can't get him off my mind, it seems. however, i still do not know why he was there.

Q: What were your feelings during the dream?

A: i was feeling great about the writing task, but i began to feel very distrustful about my ex and this woman who i thought was just a friend. perhaps, subconsciously, i've always thought my ex and this woman were being intimate...not physically, but emotionally.

i also felt confused about why the elderly gentleman was later revealed to be my ex's father. in addition, i never spoke with the elderly man...i never saw his face.

Q: Did you feel the young lady was lying to you about the old man, or not?

A: no, not at all. in my experiences with her in the conscious realm, i've experienced her to be truthful.

thanks for challenging me to delve a bit deeper about this dream. i called my ex yesterday after i had the dream and explained it to him. later that night, i called him back to tell him i love him.

our relationship suffered because of the communication difficulties. however, i love him nonetheless, but am reluctant about giving him all the love i'm capable of giving at this time...and all the love he deserves.

posted March 12, 2004 02:03 PM         

I will have a closer look at the dream now. Hopefully I can post something later tonight.

posted March 13, 2004 05:04 AM         

Writing is important to you? Do you write for a living? I get the feeling it it something you enjoy, and something you also take seriously. Symbolically, it represents communication. So, what we have here is a situation that you take seriously which involves communication, and a situation that you are willing to pursue, to expend extra energy for (must meet at man's house). But there is a problem, you are not able to communicate, and you suspect the reason is interference by another woman (young lady stops you). This could be part of the problem, but it seems that your inherent mistrust is also a part.

I speculate that your ex's father symbolizes a reason for your ex's controlling ways. Perhaps your ex is controlling because he was controlled by his father. The dream could be saying that this control issue could be "put to rest", but there must be a mutual understanding of each other's past experience and how it affects the present.

What do you think?