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Topic: Caught in the act!
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future_uncertain
Knowflake Posts: 76
From: ohio
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted October 26, 2004 04:52 PM
 
Okay, hope this isn't too taboo for this sight, but a friend of mine had this dream and I was wondering what it means. He and his girlfriend are, uh...*busy* at his house and his mother catches them. They keep moving from room to room only to be caught again and again. Any ideas? He found this dream somewhat disturbing... Thanks,
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future_uncertain
Knowflake Posts: 76
From: ohio
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted October 26, 2004 07:14 PM
Okay, first of all, by "sight" I meant "site," (and I'm an English major...) But I'm going to take a stab at this. My interpretations skills aren't that great except when I'm interpreting my own dreams. But... here's what I think:This guy is very close with his family and while they're a very fun-loving bunch, they pretty much pretend the subject of sex doesn't exist. My guess is that he has some guilt in regard to his sexual feelings toward his girlfriend.(?) But the interesting thing is that they keep doing it again and again, so perhaps on some level he is trying to overcome this guilt.(?) LOL... I have no idea, just trying to help him out a little bit. He's almost 30, btw, so it's not like this whole sex thing is new to him. Help!
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iAmThat
Knowflake Posts: 312
From: Edison, NJ, USA
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted October 26, 2004 07:38 PM
I am not an expert. But appears this friend has lots of room in his house. And he has thought of hiding in one of those rooms and be *busy*. Apparently he is afraid he would be caught and he just does not wants to be embarrased in front of his parents. This guy respects his parents. IP: Logged |
pixelpixie
Knowflake Posts: 4611
From: Ontario, Canada
Registered: Aug 2003
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posted October 26, 2004 09:37 PM
Sex is both thrilling and peaceful.....
Getting caught having sex is thrilling. But also unsettling. Especially by someone you love... differently.
It is a private, personal *naked* thing... The last time any guy I know has let his mother see him naked was way before that whole puberty thing.. before sex. A sexual son is entirely different from the little man who needs to be taken care of or mothered.
*someone please tell that to my mother in law* ...anyways...
Him, being grown, and disassociated with the little child he was..... I do believe it is a guilt issue.. not necessarily guilt over his girlfriend or his sexuality, but guilt over growing up on his mom.
Maybe he feels that she needs to be needed by him, and by growing up, he is not filling that need. He is happy to be 'getting it on' but feels like he is letting his mommy down. hence his 'Getting caught'. Even though it is reasonable behaviour to want to be intimate with your girlfriend, his feelings about his mama and his devotion to her happiness is manifesting in guilt over a natural act, as seen from his mother's eyes.. a withdrawl. ( Ha ha.. I said 'withdrawl'...)And... um... Yes, most on this website are tame and 'good'.
*waves* 
Not me. So, that's what 'popped up' for me. Hope it was INsightful or something. IP: Logged |
Ra
Moderator Posts: 3222
From:
Registered: Apr 2001
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posted October 28, 2004 02:39 PM
Hello Carissa  Guilt? I am not so sure. It certainly could be, and how he felt in this dream would probably settle that. Maybe instead of feeling guilty, he felt frustrated? I mean, here he is getting 'busy' and his mother keeps barging in! Go away mom!  If this is the case, then the dream suggests that he is subconsciously trying to overcome the restrictive aura that his family, his mother, has created around sex ... overcoming his childhood programming, kind of. This is actually not an uncommon dream ... it signifies individuation - growing, becoming one's own person. It is also possible that his mother, in the dream, was there for positive reasons ... kind of like she is trying to disrupt some activity that may not be in his best interest. I think it all depends on his feelings in the dream.  IP: Logged |
future_uncertain
Knowflake Posts: 76
From: ohio
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted October 28, 2004 02:56 PM
I hadn't considered that angle (no innuendo intended,) but you could very well be right. Thanks for your insight!Carissa IP: Logged |
Ra
Moderator Posts: 3222
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Registered: Apr 2001
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posted October 28, 2004 02:58 PM
 Let us know what he thinks! IP: Logged |
iAmThat
Knowflake Posts: 312
From: Edison, NJ, USA
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted October 28, 2004 07:38 PM
Dear FutureUncertain, On a lighter note or may be scientific what ever you want to consider: Sigmund Freud says, Every male child wants to bed his mother subconsciously. That is if he hates his father. He wants to take away anything that is his.
PEACE.
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future_uncertain
Knowflake Posts: 76
From: ohio
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted October 28, 2004 10:35 PM
The Oedipus complex... the dream raises some interesting implications when looked at from a Freudian perspective...What I mean is that when a boy becomes sexual he becomes in some ways a man, putting him on a different level with his father... interesting Carissa IP: Logged |
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