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Topic: Lucid Dream?
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ruman
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From: india
Registered: Jan 2005
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posted January 19, 2005 01:20 AM
 
I do dream a lot but never thought about any interpretations.But I have come across this term "lucid dreams".What is it?Is it like when you dream and you know that you are dreaming. Sometimes when I am terribly missing my mother I ask my Higher s-Elf to take me to her and in my dream I go to her place-is that lucid dream?Or the aibility to see future?What actully is it? Someone please explain.
Another thing I want to ask is that I often see my deceased family members in dreams usually asking for food.What could this mean?As I said I dont believe in dream interpretations but my husband says its not good to see deceased people and it means something bad will happen soon.Really?I am just curious. Can anyone explain.
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Ra
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posted January 19, 2005 01:22 PM
Welcome to LindaLand, Ruman  I do not think anything bad is going to happen because you dream of the deceased. I'll tell you what I think as soon as I get a few moments.  IP: Logged |
Ra
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posted January 20, 2005 02:37 AM
Lucid dreaming is knowing that you are dreaming and being able to change or alter the contents consciously ... so it sounds like you have had this experience.  Many things are possible in this mental state.Dreaming of deceased family members is a way for the mind to keep them alive, to stay connected with them ... it is quite natural. Also, I believe that our loved ones can visit us in this way, through dreams. Now, you say they are usually asking for food ... can you tell us more about that? What kind of food? Do you give it to them? How do you feel in these dreams?
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ruman
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posted January 24, 2005 12:21 AM
Dear Ra thanks for your time and effort.I really appreciate it. You ask what kind of food they ask me and do I give it to them. Well, they ask me for the Indian bread, which we call “roti” or “chapatti” and I don’t give it to them in my dream. Only once I gave chapatti to my grandfather and once I kneaded the dough for my great-grandmother. But its customary in my family to give food or clothing to poor people if we see the deceased in dreams and so I mostly give food.
During these dreams I usually feel that they are not dead and I am surprised to see them and I told them a few times that I know they have gone far away and I cant recall where and sometimes I am happy to meet them.
Hmm…. So it seems I have had lucid dreams. That sounds cool! I visit my mother every 3-4 days now. But is it possible for me to see my Aunt who died last year in March. I was very close to her and miss her a great deal.
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Ra
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posted January 25, 2005 04:33 AM
If you can truly lucid dream, then you can visit your aunt. When you are dreaming and you become lucid, simply ask to go there, think about her and focus your desire, your intent, to visit her. Strange and wonderful things can happen. About the deceased in your dreams ... because of your cultural beliefs, I think you are doing just the right thing. How can anything bad come of giving to the poor after dreaming of a deceased family member? Only good can come of it.  You have nothing to worry about. Maybe you could become lucid when this happens next and ask the loved one what he/she is doing there? That would be very interesting. IP: Logged |
ruman
Knowflake Posts: 31
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Registered: Jan 2005
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posted February 09, 2005 02:23 AM
Dear RA I appreciate what you told me and I just want to tell you that I did try to visit my aunt and amazingly I suceeded.Thanks again.I think I can never thank you enough.
Just one more problem.I have a close friend who has dreams regarding sex.The problem is that she see herself in the act with her father,sometimes her brother or even uncles.Now she is most disturbed regarding these kind of dreams because she has seen herself with her five year old son. According to what she tells me she has a very satisfactory sex life with her hubby.
Can you please help her.She will be very gratefull to you.
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pixelpixie
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posted February 09, 2005 02:35 AM
I'm sorry, but you said the S word, therefore, I come.
K. You say she has a satisfactory sex life.... what does sex mean for her?
Does she express it when she is feeling emotional? As a release? As a loving experience? How was she raised.. are there guilt issues about sharing in this way?
Sometimes sex in dreams isn't about sex at all.
Plus, if we are taught, or learn, that sex is a fabulous way of expressing love, sensual sweet love, without words, then perhaps her havng 'sex' with these people is her unconscious way of saying she loves them, or something they have done. It's like a hug.. an UBER-HUG.I'm sleepy. Maybe this all didn't come out right.. But here's hoping I dream about 'hugging' too.
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Ra
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posted February 11, 2005 03:55 AM
Hello Ruman, I'm glad to have helped. Pixie is right, sex is often not about sex at all. It can be generally thought of as a merging of energies, or an exchange of energies. Tell your friend that many people have the same types of dreams, and it is not usually about sex. We can probably figure it out. How does she feel in the dreams? (good, bad, indifferent, etc.)
How does she get along with men, especially family? Does she lack authority in the household? Does she need to be more assertive or aggressive? Or logical? (some kind of masculine energy) Lets us know and maybe we can begin to figure it out.
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ruman
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posted February 16, 2005 07:02 AM
Thanks for your response Ra and Pixelpixie.But my friend is currently out of town and may be for another week or so.But I will get your answers as soon as she returns.She wil definitely find some relief in all what you have said.IP: Logged |
ruman
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posted February 24, 2005 05:00 AM
Well my friend is back and I had a long discussion with her and got all your questions replied.
She fels quite good and sometimes excited also during these dreams. Her relation with men is easy going but not with her father in law. She is surprssed to a small extent in her in laws home. Although in her own household she has full authority and support from her husband. She needs to be more assertive (which she isnt) with her in laws especially with sisters in law.
As for Pixie's questions, sex for her is an expression of love and commitment. She was raised in an open minded family where interaction with men isnt considered bad (as it is in most parts of India).She finds a lot of relief and peace to some extent after I told her about you. R IP: Logged |
Ra
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posted February 25, 2005 04:04 AM
So, maybe this represents a need for more of a masculine energy like assertiveness. Do her in-laws play a large part in her everyday life? I mean, are they around a lot? There could even be the possibility that the dreams reflect some sort of guilty feelings, although not directly experienced as such within the dreams themselves. Is she feeling guilty about something in waking life? Just a possibility. IP: Logged |
ruman
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From: india
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posted February 25, 2005 10:25 AM
Her in-laws are neither residing with her nor are they in constant touch with her husband but the problems arise when she goes to visit them during her child's holidays. They mouth very abusive things about her to her husband and that causes a lot of resentment among them.He fails to see how much of truth and lies they speak and both of them have problems due to that. Inspite of trying everything to resolve this situation it just gets worse. Other than this, I mean, if this topic is left aside they both are very easy going and have a very nice relationship.No she dosent have any guilty feelings just this that she cant teach her children to love their grandparents and aunts on their father's side. Not much other than this.No big guilt issues. IP: Logged |
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