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Topic: Spiders and wedding day
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SparklingSag
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From: Kent
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posted March 14, 2005 06:22 AM
 
Hiya,
I had a disturbing dream about a nest of spiders last night. The mother spider came out from its nest and poisoned a sausage (of all things!) that was on the floor. It didn't hurt me but I was afraid it would. The guy from New Year (i wrote about him in my previous post)was also there and he was making sure I was okay and protected me from the spider.
Then it was my wedding day and everything was going wrong, the dress didn't fit etc. It was all very strange! IP: Logged |
Ra
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posted March 15, 2005 02:05 PM
Interesting.I'll be back soon with some thoughts.  IP: Logged |
Ra
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posted March 16, 2005 03:55 AM
Hi SparklingSag  Well, only questions at the moment ... This may sound like a strange question, but what shape was the sausage? Who were you marrying? Are you in contact with the New Year guy? What do you associate with him? (good relationship, exciting, forbidden, not so great, not sure, etc) How is your relationship with your mother? Are you having difficulty with, or do you have anxiety about, some sort of change in your life, or about your identity? IP: Logged |
SparklingSag
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From: Kent
Registered: Nov 2003
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posted March 16, 2005 02:07 PM
Hi Ra, thanks a lot for replying. When I dream it is usually important when I remember them because I can go a long time without remembering any. I'll try and answer your questions as honestly as I can.
This may sound like a strange question, but what shape was the sausage?
Okay, was thick and long. And(i'm a little embarrassed to say this) but in the dream it represented (I think) the male private part. It defiently was poisoned by the mother spider. I was near it but didn't touch it.
Who were you marrying?
I was marrying the guy from New Year. I care for him deeply, and was happy to be marrying him. (Please note, I am not entertaining the notion that he is the ONE because I do have so much more to experience)
Are you in contact with the New Year guy? What do you associate with him? (good relationship, exciting, forbidden, not so great, not sure, etc)
At the moment, I am confused and a little hurt by him. I have been in contact with him by calling him a couple of times and the conversation has been a little awkard but got more comfortable as it went on. We never spoke about what happened on New Year. I rang on his 21st birthday and he appreciated it and his mum (who is a family friend) texts me every now and again to see how I am. I am away at University so am not at home. I am excited by him, I care about but am a little confused by him too.
How is your relationship with your mother?
That relationship goes up and down. My Dad coming back into our lives after a 10 year abscene was traumatic. (I haven't met him yet) and that arose feelings for me of abandonment, I had some counselling which helped me clear my feelings. I haven't had a proper boyfriend because I didn't trust men but by New Year, I was feeling more positive and self worthy and it was no accident that I met my friend on that night. Angelic influences played a part(my plans were changed around at last minute without me doing it.) Are you having difficulty with, or do you have anxiety about, some sort of change in your life, or about your identity?
I guess I am finding the positive and loveable part of myself and my life is changing. Family, relationships seem to the anxiety part of myself. I felt a fraud for never being vulnerable with men. Ok, hope that helps Ra.
Sparkling
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Ra
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posted March 17, 2005 03:40 AM
Hello SparklingSag I would say that the dream reflects the identity crisis (wedding problems) you have been going through and perhaps how the dynamic with your father/mother is related to anxieties, and to the "poisoning" of certain dynamics you have with men or in relationships. Does that make sense? Looks like you are becoming aware of things about yourself. 
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SparklingSag
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From: Kent
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posted March 20, 2005 03:18 PM
Hey Ra,
I had an afternoon dream today which featured the New Year guy. I dreamt we were back at school and in class. But the whole class were skipping in a circle (i.e playing a game), I was running and catching up with him. Then the class finished and a teacher came over to me and said that the new year guy wanted to talk to me. So i go over to him and he hides his face behind a book and I playfully say 'hey, talk to me.' Then the dream finished.
I'm getting the feeling that I should forget about him and move on but I care about (always have.)I am scared about seeing him again in a couple of weeks.IP: Logged |
Ra
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posted March 21, 2005 02:22 PM
He may be "playing games" with you.  IP: Logged |
SparklingSag
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posted March 21, 2005 02:52 PM
He could be..or is it my fear that he is playing games with me?Oh well, I guess i'll find out in two weeksIP: Logged |
Ra
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posted March 22, 2005 04:16 AM
Yes, I suppose that is the real question.There is always the possibility that he reflects you, so that you are playing games with yourself. Just another possibility. IP: Logged |
SparklingSag
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posted March 25, 2005 04:07 PM
Hi Ra,
I've just found out that this New Year guy is a little skittish of me because of what happened. My dreams were telling me this - he doesn't want to talk or even 'play' with me. I guess I should listen to my instinct. I feel sad though. He was a guy I could really care about.IP: Logged |
pixelpixie
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posted March 26, 2005 02:31 AM
eff 'em.
 My drunken tweo cents. IP: Logged |
Ra
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posted March 26, 2005 01:45 PM
Everything for a reason. There must be someone even better waiting his turn.  IP: Logged |
pixelpixie
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posted March 26, 2005 11:08 PM
sorry for my drunken spelling.:/I like Ra's comment better than mine.:0 IP: Logged |
SparklingSag
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From: Kent
Registered: Nov 2003
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posted April 03, 2005 12:43 PM
Hey all,
I saw him last night and it was really good! I think I was over worrying. It's been left all friendly now, lots of nice eye contact etc. I really care about him but I can let him go now. IP: Logged |
SparklingSag
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posted April 03, 2005 01:42 PM
Oh and I drove by a cafe in an area that I've never been before and the cafe's name was 'Robbies' - the same name as my guy! IP: Logged |
Ra
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posted April 05, 2005 12:38 PM
Hey, that's my name too. ... but with a 'y', not an 'ie'. IP: Logged |
SparklingSag
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From: Kent
Registered: Nov 2003
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posted April 05, 2005 04:10 PM
Ra-I like you even more now ;-) hehe. cool stuff. My R invited himself to dinner on friday and so I'm excited now!IP: Logged |
SparklingSag
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posted April 08, 2005 07:06 PM
I saw him tonight..I was sitting next to him and found myself thinking...I could marry you...it was weird! It just popped into my head...I like him loads but I have to go off and experience so much moreIP: Logged |
Ra
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posted April 11, 2005 10:55 AM
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SparklingSag
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posted April 11, 2005 06:18 PM
Awwww...i get a cool heart swirling thing! Cool :-)IP: Logged |
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