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posted April 26, 2005 07:09 PM         

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Alright, i really need some help with interpreting my dream! I just dont know where else to turn so anyone that can think up of something, please, I appreciate it!

Well, here's the case. Me and my friend (well, actually, my lover/friend) haven't seen each other for about a year now. I used to always have dreams about him all the time, but I always wanted to figure out what they meant, how come I always see him whenever I am in slumber. The friendship that we had was very unstable, it was on-off-on-off kind of relation.

I began to follow several patterns whenever he showed up in my dreams. First of all, his own father seemed to pop up ALL THE TIME. Secondly, it always takes place in his house (or just, you know, A house. Doesn't exactly look like his in real life, but it is HIS house in the dream). Third, there's always a repitetive pattern of phones, cellphones, voicemail.

I'm really baffled about why his dad is always there everytime my friend shows up in my dream! In it, his dad always tries to get me and my friend to meet up or his dad says "So, do you want to see my son?". It's just weird...
But it's a running theme: my friend, my friend's dad, a house and phones (I'm guessing this is a metaphor for communication?).

I would appreciate your comments and your advice!!! Thanks

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posted April 27, 2005 04:38 AM         

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Welcome seven

I'll have a look at those things as soon as I can. I have a question, what was your friend's father like in waking life? Do you associate anything with him?

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posted April 27, 2005 07:16 PM         

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I dont really associate his dad with anything.
In waking life, though, he was a very nice man. A little gruff, he was as loud as his son! His dad was born in Brooklyn (or Queens, either of the 2 cities) and had a very strong NY accent and so did my friend. I don't really talk to him a lot as well!

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posted April 29, 2005 02:02 PM         

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Well, the phones relate very generally to communication issues, but it is difficult to say what kind of issue without specifics. Perhaps the dreams take place in his house because you feel a lack of control about the relationship, or like he is the one calling the shots. Your friend's father ... I am not sure about that one yet ...

So, to understand more it would help to know more details, if you care to explore further, especially about the phones/messages. Who is calling, you or he? What types of conversations, if any, take place on the phones? ... that kind of thing.

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posted April 29, 2005 07:23 PM         

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well, you are kind of right about me lacking control in the whole relationship...not that he abused it full-force or anything, but he seemed to calling all the shots, as you said. i also always used to spend a lot of time in his house, so that would also be the case, wouldn't it?
yes, we do have a lot of communication issues. he's not the most communicative person, especially when it comes to feelings. he acts on it, but when it's time to tell each other what's making us resent one another, he will just pout and not call me for 2 weeks straight. I understand the whole "i-have-a-hard-time-with-telling-my-feelings", because i can be like that as well which is why I KNOW that he is hiding some resentment towards me or at least, some level of frustration that he can't seem to get out.
It gets kind of vindictive actually in the smallest ways possible. Like, for example if he calls me and I missed his call, he will refuse to call me again because some way or another I "rejected" him...and also vice versa. It's completely stupid!
And now I am very frustrated because I never got the chance to tell him all of this! It would've been better if I did so i wouldnt still be buggin about the whole thing.

Thank you I appreciate your responses

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