posted July 07, 2006 03:11 AM         

It was probably one of the most emotional dreams I have ever had.

I had a dream she died in a car crash. It was a dream much worse than any nightmare. It really shook me up. I am still recovering now as I type. Its the type of dream that really resonates. She died in the car with..I think it was my friends brad and matt..or two other boys..and two other girls I know. It was unbearable in the dream and I could not stop breaking out in tears in the dream. sometimes they were sudden crying spells but short: others longer, always uncontrollable. funny how I remember that specific.

What I think the dream means is: I need to take advantage of the time WE WILL HAVE (since there is distance now). In the dream I remember specifically that it was between now and when I visit her in france on dec. 26. because I said in the dream "what will I do with these tickets now? a trip to france will be so sad now, being in her home but not being able to see her. I can't do it" my eyes were still watery after waking up.

I remember in the dream I needed to talk to her so bad but knew she was dead. I decided to send her an email. I said "she'll be able to read it somehow (in heaven)". I remember being so lost in the dream like i was in real life when she had left at first for her home..but knowing an angel watched over me (she does not believe in an afterlife however). it was the most bittersweet feeling in the dream too, wondering what could have happened with our relationship, wondering about us..I think this is a dream that tells me "take advantage of things now carl..don't let anything stop you cause if you do, something that REALLY IS BEYOND YOUR CONTROL WILL STOP YOU". those are all the thoughts i had right away after the dream.

anyone think they have more of a professnial view on this dream? what does it mean? have you ever dreamed of a S.O. dying? how did you respond in your dream? how did it change things after the dream? I would love nothing more than to hug her right now and feel her body close to mine. but I can not, with her 7000 miles away. things were perfect when we were together and our hearts have only grown fonder with distance..she said she loved me before she left after I told her the same...now she says "I love you deeply, I need you and I am adding you into my future plans." just like I am. things have gotten more intense.

she was at the bar watching france/portugual, france won. she did not drink, but I am worried that a celebration after winning will cause her to come into contact with many reckless idiots, you have seen riots after massive wins. if france wins in a few nights, they win the world cup. and I am sure you folks know how big soccer is to the rest of the world.. she may drink if they win, I don't know, maybe not..even if she does not, she may come into contact with a drunk driver..I am very worried, after the dream.

posted July 07, 2006 06:04 AM         

I am not sure what the dream means but I would suggest that you just worry about her and miss her very much now that things have gotten more intense between you.

Hope Ra will shed some light on it, but anyway, I think you should let her know how much you worry about her (not about the dream though, no need to scare her) just ask her to be more careful and attentive.

posted July 08, 2006 09:05 PM         

Your dream is probably a reflection of anxieties concerning this relationship as well as her well-being. Death is rarely literal and almost always symbolic of some sort of change or transition in life, and/or strong anxieties you may be feeling.

But, that said, I would think it could do no harm to tell her how you feel, and that you are concerned, and I feel that perhaps you should tell her about the dream. Be sure to mention that it is probably just symbolic of you being concerned for her, but that you would feel better to tell her about it. That would kind of cover the bases.

The heavy emotions in this dream let us know how much this means to you, so be sure to communicate with her well.

posted July 16, 2006 09:20 AM         

I have also posted a reply to you in Soul Unions

Ra,

Good advice