posted January 24, 2007 05:44 AM         

I dreamt we were sleeping at my grandparents place (they're both dead now) and I threw an arm over him to cuddle him and he pushed it off and got out of bed. I was hurt and thought he'd left but when I got up he was just somewhere else in the house.

Then it was my birthday and I was sad he wasn't around for it, but I went to a park where I was having a barbecue for my birthday with my friends and family and there he was cooking (yes, he does seem to cook for me a lot in my dreams, lol) then he started chasing my son around with the tongs, both of them laughing.

posted January 24, 2007 09:33 AM         

This man can nourish you in certain ways (the cooking) and yet in other ways he cannot fulfill you (emotionally maybe)...

Or maybe he lacks the passion you desire?

I just felt from this dream, that he isnt able for you emotionally, (the pushing away from you)?

posted January 30, 2007 04:23 AM         

This dream seems to reflect the current situation with the guy - the ups and downs - and I would ditto Sue's comments - and it seems to suggest that this could be part of a cycle (birthday), either karmic or experiential.

Your grandparent's place could suggest that you are dealing with this issue in "old"/outdated ways, or that there is unfinished emotional business with him, or that the situation evokes feelings that are similar to, or have roots in, the dynamics of your relationship with your grandparents. Oooooor there is a similarity between your grandparents' relationship, and yours. Many possibilities.

The park setting/bbq/birthday could suggest that this relationship cycle is being more consciously exposed to the light of day, and also sets the atmosphere for the good feelings the relationship can bring.

You said ... "I don't understand how a dream can make me feel rejected and unloved one minute, then surprised and adored the next."

I don't think it's the dream that makes you feel "rejected and unloved", then "surprised and adored." Seems more like this relationship is doing that.

Don't you think?

posted January 30, 2007 05:55 AM         

The park and 'exposing things to the light' seems to make sense. I admitted to my best mate (his neighbour) that I do want to be with him, so I'm not hiding my feelings anymore I'm sharing them, even if its with the wrong person, lol.

The grandparents thing could be on track too, I HAVE been dealing with things in the same old, outdated way and not allowing in my thinking for the changes he seems to have made towards me.