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cpn_edgar_winner
Knowflake Posts: 1371
From: Toledo, OH
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 17, 2009 09:01 AM
 
so last night i dreamed my husbands ex was at our kitchen table falling down drunk and i took her by the hair and tried to make her leave and he was saying just leave her alone. then she was in the middle of our bed drunk and sleeping and again i took her by the hair and said get out of here. and he wanted me to leave her alone....in my dream i didn't love him anymore that much.the recurring part is i dream she is drunk and i am physically making her leave i have dreamed this like 4 times lately.
ps. she does have a drinking problem in real life. which is why they broke up. and in some of my dreams i am telling her what a worthless mother she is. i am always violent, she is always drunk. in some of my dreams he takes care of her or sides with her or leaves with her and i hate him too.
any insight would be appreciated.
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GypseeWind
Knowflake Posts: 1497
From: Dayton,Ohio USA
Registered: May 2009
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posted September 17, 2009 12:40 PM
I think that these dreams are just your subconscious fears of him still having feelings for his ex. In the dream, she is literally, coming in between you (the bed) so it is a fear you may have internally.Maybe what he does still feel for her is pity, like you said she does have a problem in real life. And in your dream sometimes he takes her side, so maybe you fear that he is still attached to her in some way, but it could be moreso that he feels sorry for her. In the dream you are acting out violently, which is venting your rage that you are supressing in your waking life.
I guess you really don't like this woman and wish she was never a factor in your husbands life. I think it is just a dream of fear tinged with a bit of insecurity. We are always a bit insecure when it comes to the one we love, aren't we? And the fact that there was someone before us, drives us bonkers.
Did he love her like he loves me? What did he say to her? Do to her? Share with her?
It can drive you mad. But, in reality if he wanted her, he wouldn't be married to you..... IP: Logged |
katatonic
Knowflake Posts: 1725
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 18, 2009 11:31 AM
maybe you are trying to tell yourself to cut her a break(and yourself), realize she is not well, and let it go? IP: Logged |
cpn_edgar_winner
Knowflake Posts: 1371
From: Toledo, OH
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 18, 2009 01:28 PM
kat when i read that i let out a relaxing breath...hhhmmm...maybe you are right...and maybe i resent her a bit for the impact on the kiddo. like i check his school work, make sure he has lunch money, nutritious meals...she breezes in about every six weeks with new toys. i think it bothers me a bit that she gets to skate on responsibilities. and when he is with her, he is exposed to adult situations...obviously i disapprove...you are right, i need to somehow let it go. you are a good freind kat. if i had lived under a tree, my kids would have been with me under that tree. ya know?.. he's a good kid. he likes having rules. thanks for the imput. IP: Logged | |
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