posted September 28, 2012 09:38 PM            

I feel that this dream is about you feeling the press of others expectations and that this coach is one of those around you that makes you feel that you have to pick up your game, or that maybe just how you think he would expect if you.

Perhaps you are trying to maintain an enthusiasm, and outgoinness that is a bit of a strain for you to keep up. Is it possible that you are hoping that your son copies your 'example' of motivation and going for the best so that he may eventually be so good at managing things that he can help you too.

I'm wondering if the strained effort to put a confident and positive front on is taking its toll on you and you are feeling as if you will crack.

The inner you I think is a bit withdrawn, perhaps a mounting disappointment stemming from childhood and it is coming to a head. You probably have a transit or two putting pressure on your sun or one of the personal planets. I think pluto would have to be involved in this one at least.

I think there is some kind of message or 'schooling' here and it says to me that the universe is questioning why outwardly you are your son and possibly everyone's biggest supporter/motivator/life coach - however the inner you is being scrunched by you and you are not being that life coach to yourself. You are going through the motions of making sure you're doing your best to see that your son realizes his potential, but you have atrophied your potential.

Looking back to the beginning of this I'm feeling significantly that at about 12yrs old you were so frustrated and kind of traumatised/shocked at not being supported/allowed to do some kind of activity/venture - did it involve maybe some kind of activity camp/training squad thing that involved quite a bit of money and maybe time spent away from home. And there were other things at this time - not getting either a great toy horse thing that you wanted or maybe it was not getting a real horse.

Anyway, over the years you in your repressed anger and disappointment, began to use the excuse always of 'No, I'm fine, I don't need to do such and such or I don't need to spend money on that, or I probably wouldn't enjoy or be any good at that' - too lots of opportunities.

This seems like it was that you were so mad, that in order to deal with the extreme hurt and feelings of being restricted by parental say so, you got a bit of your own back by becoming a kind of good natured,not asking for anything kind of person that was always positive for everyone else and motivated them to achieve their goals. This assisted in some kind of inner compensation because you were able to feel that you could rise above what you might have thought was childish reactions, and also you felt like you could fully stuff the parents up by totally stepping off all requests - so that they would end up feeling so bad that you never ask for anything and they refused you something you really wanted.

I can understand this, but I think in the end you have sort of dampened and restricted your growth and now your true self is pulling the plug on this scenario and is wanting you to let that innerness have a say in what you do and get involved in.

I'm not sure but I think you have let your fitness slip - you perhaps are wearing sport leisure wear but you haven't got your own fitness going underneath. You're not far off though, just a bit more effort required, and it feels like swimming, dancercise, and stretching etc is what is being prompted. You have lots of belly laughs and fun that is only being let out in a reduced quantity. And you are tired, tired, tired of picking up after others and doing much of the sacrifices of motherhood.

It seems that not much is required but a shift in perception just to value yourself/needs more. Oh and there is something about a colour palette and I'm seeing russet colours to do with clothing and hair - your colours that you are in are making you look washed out, and you need to get more warmth and vibrancy of colour - but yes, I see russet/burnt orange/rust tones. You don't have to always dye/colour your hair though because eventually you will have a good all over greyness that will look a nice platinum if a brightening rinse is put through it. But perhaps for a few more years you can go to what seems like reddish tones.

Wow, its Saturday morning and I'm just raving on and on - hope there's some worth here written for you, and hope I haven't offended you. It probably will, but its not meant to offend.

posted October 09, 2012 04:14 AM            

I don't have nearly as much input or insight to offer as Chryseis, but I do have a few questions that could pertain to the dream. This dream is definitely a reflection of something going on in waking life.

Do you feel like a burden in some way?

Do you feel like you are holding back your son in some way?

Do you feel a need to get away from some situation?

In the dream you said you were afraid, terrified, and felt as if you would fall ... what are you afraid of in waking life? Do you fear failing in some way?

In short, what is the anxiety in your waking life (likely related to your son) that provoked this dream?

posted October 16, 2012 05:42 PM            

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Originally posted by Chryseis:
hopeful,

I feel that this dream is about you feeling the press of others expectations and that this coach is one of those around you that makes you feel that you have to pick up your game, or that maybe just how you think he would expect if you.

Perhaps you are trying to maintain an enthusiasm, and outgoinness that is a bit of a strain for you to keep up. Is it possible that you are hoping that your son copies your 'example' of motivation and going for the best so that he may eventually be so good at managing things that he can help you too.

I'm wondering if the strained effort to put a confident and positive front on is taking its toll on you and you are feeling as if you will crack.

The inner you I think is a bit withdrawn, perhaps a mounting disappointment stemming from childhood and it is coming to a head. You probably have a transit or two putting pressure on your sun or one of the personal planets. I think pluto would have to be involved in this one at least.

I think there is some kind of message or 'schooling' here and it says to me that the universe is questioning why outwardly you are your son and possibly everyone's biggest supporter/motivator/life coach - however the inner you is being scrunched by you and you are not being that life coach to yourself. You are going through the motions of making sure you're doing your best to see that your son realizes his potential, but you have atrophied your potential.

Looking back to the beginning of this I'm feeling significantly that at about 12yrs old you were so frustrated and kind of traumatised/shocked at not being supported/allowed to do some kind of activity/venture - did it involve maybe some kind of activity camp/training squad thing that involved quite a bit of money and maybe time spent away from home. And there were other things at this time - not getting either a great toy horse thing that you wanted or maybe it was not getting a real horse.

Anyway, over the years you in your repressed anger and disappointment, began to use the excuse always of 'No, I'm fine, I don't need to do such and such or I don't need to spend money on that, or I probably wouldn't enjoy or be any good at that' - too lots of opportunities.

This seems like it was that you were so mad, that in order to deal with the extreme hurt and feelings of being restricted by parental say so, you got a bit of your own back by becoming a kind of good natured,not asking for anything kind of person that was always positive for everyone else and motivated them to achieve their goals. This assisted in some kind of inner compensation because you were able to feel that you could rise above what you might have thought was childish reactions, and also you felt like you could fully stuff the parents up by totally stepping off all requests - so that they would end up feeling so bad that you never ask for anything and they refused you something you really wanted.

I can understand this, but I think in the end you have sort of dampened and restricted your growth and now your true self is pulling the plug on this scenario and is wanting you to let that innerness have a say in what you do and get involved in.

I'm not sure but I think you have let your fitness slip - you perhaps are wearing sport leisure wear but you haven't got your own fitness going underneath. You're not far off though, just a bit more effort required, and it feels like swimming, dancercise, and stretching etc is what is being prompted. You have lots of belly laughs and fun that is only being let out in a reduced quantity. And you are tired, tired, tired of picking up after others and doing much of the sacrifices of motherhood.

It seems that not much is required but a shift in perception just to value yourself/needs more. Oh and there is something about a colour palette and I'm seeing russet colours to do with clothing and hair - your colours that you are in are making you look washed out, and you need to get more warmth and vibrancy of colour - but yes, I see russet/burnt orange/rust tones. You don't have to always dye/colour your hair though because eventually you will have a good all over greyness that will look a nice platinum if a brightening rinse is put through it. But perhaps for a few more years you can go to what seems like reddish tones.

Wow, its Saturday morning and I'm just raving on and on - hope there's some worth here written for you, and hope I haven't offended you. It probably will, but its not meant to offend.

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posted October 16, 2012 05:51 PM            

I do have worries with son ... he has animosity with his stepfather and this leaves me with a lot of guilt and confusion. At the time of the dream this and other issues revolving around my husband were prevalent ... lots of confusion and fear My son encourages me to leave so I wondered if the dream was more about him forcing to make what he feels is the "right" decision and to flee. I thought the fear I felt may have been the fears I had that kept me where I was.

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Originally posted by Ra:
Hello hopeful

I don't have nearly as much input or insight to offer as Chryseis, but I do have a few questions that could pertain to the dream. This dream is definitely a reflection of something going on in waking life.

Do you feel like a burden in some way?

Do you feel like you are holding back your son in some way?

Do you feel a need to get away from some situation?

In the dream you said you were afraid, terrified, and felt as if you would fall ... what are you afraid of in waking life? Do you fear failing in some way?

In short, what is the anxiety in your waking life (likely related to your son) that provoked this dream?

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