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dyedye08
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From: South Orange, NJ, USA
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posted April 27, 2013 09:12 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for dyedye08     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi everyone, could someone help explain what this dream meant. My dream started off I received a call that my only living grandparent(my grandmother who has Alzheimer's in real life) in the dream she had an Aneurysm. The dream goes there to me going to the house of an old friend. I had found out that she had been shot and that she died. I went to her mothers house to pay my respect during the whole memorial service with her family. I get a call from a former co-worker she tells me that this guy who I had feelings for has died and she was wondering why I wasn't at the funeral. I never even knew he was sick, so I'm in a state of shock because I had feelings for this guy. So, I'm in disbelief so I call another friend and she tells me that she thought I knew about the funeral and that he made a lot of people promise not to tell me that he was sick because he didn't want to worry me. I'm crying, in hurt this guy I loved is now dead. So I call another friend who is also at the funeral and she says everyone here is looking for you, where are you, I tell her nobody never told me, she gives me the address and tells me to come. Now, I run to this church but when I get there the funeral is over. Sitting on a table is this glass plaque and it says FOR YOU I turn this glass plaque around and it filled with important moments from this guys life. There is pictures and rewards and list of accomplishments. It's very obvious to me, that it was left by his wife. The message says I knew you were coming, this is for you. I grabbed the plaque off the table. I go to the church cemetery and I see everyone. I see a huge picture of him and I drop to my knees in front of his casket. I'm hysterical, in crying. I said nobody told me you were sick. You left this world and I never got to say goodbye, never told you how I felt about you. His step daughter comes to me and she says he asked for you the night he died he kept begging me and my mother to call you, but my mother wouldn't let me call. He kept saying he needed to talk to you. She said I snuck him a sheet a paper and he wrote you this letter. She said our life was fine before he met you, they were happy. He met you and everything changed between them. My mother said, she knew he loved you despite the numerous times he denied it. Then this deity appeared before me. I was crying out that I was never given the opportunity to say goodbye, complaining how people always wanted to do what they thought was best but never took my feelings into consideration. The deity said, you can go back to the night he died and say good bye but I need 3 dates and 3 times I need the date and time of the exact date you met, the first time you ever touched his hand and I need the exact date of time when he died. The step daughter said I was the only person in the room when he took his last breath, so he gave me the exact time of his death. Now I go back to the day that he dies and upon seeing him I started crying because he looks really weak laying in the hospital bed. Upon him seeing me, he says hey you, he smiles but because he's weak, it's taking a lot out of him. He said I wasn't sure you would come, I made request but nobody wanted to call you. I touch his face. I said none of that matters I'm here now. He tells me he wishes he had more time, that he really wanted to do things differently. He said I hate leaving this world filled with regret. He said I loved you from the first day I saw you, but never told you and I hated having to leave this world and you not know. So him and I continued to talk and discuss a lot of hidden feelings. Then the angel/deity re-appeared he says true love changes everything. He said you can take away the tumor and he doesn't die but I would have to take away the important people in your life. He said your husband would be gone, you wouldn't have your kids. You would have a life with this man if you choose to be with him. My reply was take me back to the day, he first found out that he had a brain tumor. I went back in time and met him when he was walking out if the doctor office. He has happy to see me, but sad bc my being there meant he knew he had died already in the given timeframe that the doctors said he would die. We talked about how to change things between us, why he never told me how he felt, I ended up waking up before deciding what I wanted to do. I literally woke up crying from this dream, one of the saddest dreams I have ever had

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Twirl
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posted April 28, 2013 01:43 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Twirl     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi Dyedye

I'll give it a try for you. Although the dream made you feel really sad, I actually look at it as a new development for you that could work out in a positive way. I'll give you the interpretation from a Jungian point of few (Carl Jung was a psycho therapist who worked a lot with dream analysis).

I also see this dream as a sequence from the earlier one you described with the snakes and to what's been discussed after.
The fact that you received the call from your grandmother (who in real life is forgetting things) makes me think of you starting to remember past experiences (and choices made). The aneurysm I actually see as an 'opening'. In other words, memories are coming back and you are 'opening up' to the possibility in reflecting back and dealing with them.

But most importantly was the fact that this man died in your dream and you decided to go back to the point where he was first diagnosed with a brain tumor.
The man in your dream is actually your animus as Jung calls it. The animus in a female's psyche represents her masculine power. Or in other words: he is the one that makes sure that actions are undertaken in the real world, plans are followed through, he makes sure thoughts materialise, etc. So he is an 'acting force' and a helper in your dream. He couldn't help you before because he already 'died' ( you were unable to tune into your own inner power to start taking outward actions).

For what I see in the decisions you took in the dreams, you now (subconsciously) realise you have this 'internal male power' inside of you (so therefore seeing an ability to tune into empowerment more). The sadness comes from the fact that you let this 'inner force' die (never addressed it in real life). But how could you? Because you weren't aware it was there (you didn't even know he was sick).

The words of love expressed in your dream is about your own love, your self love, and it's returning in this dream. (because you decide to go back to the start).
For me the tumor in the brain refers to a 'thinking pattern that's incorrect' (most likely self defeating thoughts and thought patterns and convictions that you grew to believe, but you are now starting to see in a different light). That is why it became a 'tumor' of which your ¡¥inner male¡¦ died.

So all in all I think it's a good dream, where you are opening your mind to 'change'.

What about this female old friend? Who was she to you? What is her most outstanding trait? What was the most noticeable about your friendship? That will give you another clue.

I hope this gives you some insight and resonates to you on some level
And I still very much advice you to get some external help (in real life) to help you through this process.

Wish you well!

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dyedye08
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From: South Orange, NJ, USA
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posted April 28, 2013 01:55 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for dyedye08     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
@ Twirl WOW! Truthfully, I am starting to let things go and let at things from a different point. The female friend that died, her and I had been friends since 3rd grade. I had a closer relationship to her sister than I did with her. I think this also has something to do with the trip I have to take and actually go back home where all the demons are for me. The fact that I was comforted in this dream is reassuring. I haven't talked to a therapist yet, but I plan too. What I notice? When I dream PAIN is painted so vividly, I guess because I have been dealing with pain my whole life. I actually woke up crying from this dream too

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Twirl
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posted April 30, 2013 01:58 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Twirl     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi Dyedye,

Good to hear you are contemplating on a therapist
Do you have to go home or can you postpone the trip?
Just make sure you are very gentle with yourself at this time. Reason I'm saying this is because if old emotions are now coming to the surface (where you can go through them and release the hurt), this can be painful. I imagine that is why in your dreams you feel such pain.

Our bodies have a build-in mechanism to protect ourselves from pain. It still 'stores' experiences somewhere in our subconscious, until we are ready to start dealing with it and releasing it. This process of releasing should be handled with the greatest care, because of ould hurts involved. That's why someone guiding and helping you with a process like this is so important.

For the female in your dream, I'm not sure. I think there would be something more to her to define (what she actually represents) what it is exactly about. For instance: I dream about a certain friend (who I love and is great!), but has the tendecy to not really deal with issues. She makes 1000's of plans, but likes the fantasy part of it more and doesn't follow through with steps attaining these goals. So whenever she shows up in my dreams I look closely to what I'm not addressing in real life (not making actual steps to get there).

For you: maybe this old friend represents an old aspect of yourself where you don't care that much about yourself ("not that close a relationship"). After all she wasn't your closest friends. This female dying in the dream represents a part of you, that is no longer needed (you are letting go of).

Bye

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