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Topic: I was raped...omg
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I'm so cappy
Knowflake Posts: 2443
From: Saturn (summer house on Chiron)
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted August 16, 2013 10:06 AM
  
I dreamt that I was raped by a guy from a boyband. I'm not even their fan, I just like a couple of their songs and find them cute. That guy happened to be the one I find most attractive. I was lying on the floor feeling helpless and kind of numb like I was drugged or something. After a few seconds he pulled IT out and there was blood on the condom (it's weird he put it on at all, isn't it?). He looked surprised and he said to the rest of the band who stood around us that I was a virgin. Suddenly some woman appeared in the room. I knew she was there to avenge me. The guys started running away, she started shooting. I wanted her to kill them all.
What the hell could that mean?
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Twirl
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From: Europe
Registered: Mar 2013
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posted August 16, 2013 11:31 AM
Hey Cappy, Can I ask your age? What a horrible dream :-/ I place them in the categories 'nightmares': not facing something you should act on in real life. Can you remember how you felt in the dream? Was it light or dark? Is this a popular boy band? How do you see this guy ? What are his most outstanding traits? Rape dreams are always about some intense violence towards the self/going along with something you disagree of/suppression of self.
It could actually also relate to sex/mating-dating game in general. Perhaps you feel that you should be someone you are not/go along with how you think you are supposed to behave in regards to sexuality.
The group relates to group spirit (society)
If you are quite young still the virginity can relate to a subject of inexperience.
Condom is protection (trying to protect yourself in regards to the group views?)
In regards to what in your life do you feel helpless? What belief system (foundations) is "flooring" you?
Just some thoughts & questions to get you started on what it is that you feel violated about/where you are violating yourself.
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I'm so cappy
Knowflake Posts: 2443
From: Saturn (summer house on Chiron)
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted August 17, 2013 06:57 PM
Hi and thanks for your attention.I'm in my early 20's and I'm a virgin in rl too, I should've mentioned that. quote:
Can you remember how you felt in the dream? Was it light or dark? Is this a popular boy band? How do you see this guy ? What are his most outstanding traits?
I felt helpless and numb as I said. I don't think I was scared or mad, even when I wanted them to die. I could see them well, there was some light in the room but the background was dark. It's a very popular boyband. It's hard to tell how I see that guy since I'm not a fan but sometimes I read comments for fun and people claim he's calm/boring and a little shy. Most outstanding traits? Nice voice and looks  I don't lust for him though. Maybe this condom was the symbol of my pregnancy angst lol. I could never have sex without it. I'm ok with my lack of experience and I'm not in rush to change it. quote:
What belief system (foundations) is "flooring" you?
I can't really think of anything...But I can tell you that I'm resistant to peer/social pressure. I guess that's not what you expected 
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Twirl
Knowflake Posts: 2315
From: Europe
Registered: Mar 2013
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posted August 21, 2013 03:24 PM
Hi Still feels as if you are forcing something upon yourself which is not good for you. I still lean towards adjusting to others & group views more.
It's dark in your dream: something you are unaware of.
Rape: violation on a deep (emotional) level.
Might very well have to do with virginity itself (and/or sex in general).
Not being receptive for group views or pressure? That can be, but groups & society behaviour still impacts us. Even if we think it doesn't, because it gives a set of standards and morals. We can only come to our own value system by weighing the existing one. Those views and 'should' and 'should nots' are inside us and exist in the subconscious. Just living in a different environment alters the connections our brain makes, because a different environments asks for a different response. Just some more thoughts
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I'm so cappy
Knowflake Posts: 2443
From: Saturn (summer house on Chiron)
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted October 17, 2013 04:41 PM
Hey, can you tell me more about the relationship between my situation and this dream that you noticed?------------------
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Twirl
Knowflake Posts: 2315
From: Europe
Registered: Mar 2013
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posted October 17, 2013 06:13 PM
Just reread it a few times & what I wrote before & see if it sinks in.
The thread is about the confusement in regards to sexuality & to how you think sex should be, based on other people's opinions/society. (The rape by the group)
Nightmares only occur when we ignore parts of ourself/lifes & trying hard to suppress our truths.
In the thread you are trying to opt for maybe being a-sexual while that doesn't show at all in your replies. I would say you are looking for explanations to deal with the confusement you feel (ego in denial = nightmare). I think the reality is that it's just fear & once you acknowledge that, you will have a new level of understanding of sexuality and yourself. It's not about what others do (and how much of a sex drive is 'normal') & want & think, but relating to yourself, but it starts with acknowledging to yourself what the real heart of the matter is. It is on your mind quite a bit, otherwise you wouldn't open threads like that.
Good luck again.
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I'm so cappy
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From: Saturn (summer house on Chiron)
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted October 17, 2013 06:21 PM
Thank you. quote:
how you think sex should be, based on other people's opinions/society.
I don't know if I got this right but if you think I'm following anyone's opinion then you're wrong. I just try to do what I feel is best for me.
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Twirl
Knowflake Posts: 2315
From: Europe
Registered: Mar 2013
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posted October 18, 2013 10:14 AM
Other people's opinions or the 'zeitgeist' always make us reflect & compare or think about it.
I'm not saying you are acting because of someone else's opinions, but how people generally act does have an impact on how we perceive situations. That's material that lands in the subconscious. It only wouldn't influence if you (or anyone) lives in a vacuum without any external influences like books, people, any information.
That's what I'm trying to say here. If thinking that the reaction is 100% authentic I have to disagree. That's inu opinion why you question what's a-sexual or normal (comparing to others to get a clearer picture. If there was no comparison material, questions would not even arise).
Just how I see it & see the context of your dream. Feel free to shuff it aside of course. IP: Logged |
Love&Light
Knowflake Posts: 961
From: India
Registered: Oct 2011
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posted October 18, 2013 01:07 PM
What I felt after reading your post is that emotionally and mentally you are perhaps not ready for sex, in some way or in a situation or with some person, yet. But your mind has been bombarded with all this and feels like it is being imposed. This message has reached your subconscious mind and hence this reaction I think. So chill. You don't have to do anything when you are not ready for it in any way. There is nothing wrong with that. Just accept this and be comfortable with what you are right now. You don't have to let anything be thrown at you in a hurry. Once you realise this you will feel at ease. IP: Logged |
Twirl
Knowflake Posts: 2315
From: Europe
Registered: Mar 2013
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posted October 18, 2013 01:28 PM
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Originally posted by Love&Light:
What I felt after reading your post is that emotionally and mentally you are perhaps not ready for sex, in some way or in a situation or with some person, yet. But your mind has been bombarded with all this and feels like it is being imposed. This message has reached your subconscious mind and hence this reaction I think. So chill. You don't have to do anything when you are not ready for it in any way. There is nothing wrong with that. Just accept this and be comfortable with what you are right now. You don't have to let anything be thrown at you in a hurry. Once you realise this you will feel at ease.
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