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ikja
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posted November 01, 2014 06:51 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ikja     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I had a dream yesterday and it involved me taking part in what I felt was a rushed wedding with someone that I would like to be with. The person that I would like to be with was not in the dream, in fact, the person I wanted to be with was represented by my work colleague. In the dream, I wasn't wearing a traditional dress, but I was dressed up to an extent.

I remember having to walk down what seemed to be a very long alter. When the person that I want to be with in real life appeared in the form of my work colleague, he didn't give me a ring. Instead, he gave me a watch.

In the dream, I remember thinking that he gave me a watch because he knew that I didn't really like wearing rings or anything restrictive. I liked things that wouldn't interfer with my life too much. With that said, the reaction of the church was extremely surprised as they did not understand why it was not a traditional ring, but a watch.

It's also worth saying that as the person I want to be with (represented by my colleague) was making his vows, I felt from him that although he wanted to marry me, he was upset with me about a number of things; and they were like underneath the surface.

So, the marriage didn't feel right when it was happening. Even though it appeared to be what we wanted, it was like that time wasn't the right time because there were still things to fix.

Strange right?

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GeminiKarat
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posted November 01, 2014 02:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for GeminiKarat     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Please read it as an opinion:
You want to have a long term relationship (=wedding) with a person that has a similar character to your work colleague. The watch is a common symbol for the internalized time pressure.
Your dream is not strange to me.

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ikja
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posted November 01, 2014 02:38 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ikja     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by GeminiKarat:
Please read it as an opinion:
You want to have a long term relationship (=wedding) with a person that has a similar character to your work colleague. The watch is a common symbol for the internalized time pressure.
Your dream is not strange to me.

Thank you for your insight into this. When you say 'internalised time pressure', what do you mean exactly? Maybe it is something that I need to consider.

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GeminiKarat
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posted November 01, 2014 04:32 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for GeminiKarat     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You can ask yourself:
Is it good/bad to wear the watch?
Does it show an early/right/late time?
How much time do I have?
Would you make the same decision again, if you look back on this specific time?

The tendency in your answers gives you an idea about this long term relationship.

I wish you all the best to find the right answer.

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ikja
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posted November 01, 2014 07:00 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ikja     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by GeminiKarat:
You can ask yourself:
Is it good/bad to wear the watch?
Does it show an early/right/late time?
How much time do I have?
Would you make the same decision again, if you look back on this specific time?

The tendency in your answers gives you an idea about this long term relationship.

I wish you all the best to find the right answer.


Thank you darling, me too x
I'm so confused, but I get the feeling the time element was extremely important. I didn't see a time on the watch, but it was a silver watch. I was upset that it wasn't a ring, but at the same time, the watch seemed more appropriate.

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Ra
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posted November 13, 2014 04:42 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ra     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hello ikja

I have a different perspective.

The dream begins as a reflection of your immediate desire and urges to be with this person (felt like a rushed wedding). But it seems that your dream mind is telling you there is more "path to walk" to get to where you want to be (walk down very long altar), that you require more time before any commitment (he gives you a watch instead of a ring).

So, why do you need more time? What is the dream telling you that you need? What inner work is necessary?

You answer these questions yourself.

You do not like "anything restrictive" or things that will "interfere with your life too much." You are subconsciously associating the wedding ring with these things. It is no wonder you were not given one.

In addition, you also say " that time wasn't the right time because there were still things to fix." This is the meaning of the dream, and the "fixing" is not about him, or you and he, it is all about you. In this perspective, the groom could take on another layer of meaning. Not only does he represent the one you want to be with, he could also represent your animus, your masculine aspects. In this way, the dream could suggest that "underneath the surface" (which is where your animus exists) this part of yourself is "upset about a number of things" that need to be "fixed". There is an inner conflict.

So the dream could also be suggesting that it is time (watch) to work on (work colleague) unification with (wedding) unacknowledged/ignored or undeveloped masculine aspects of self. It is about becoming more whole internally before seeking wholeness externally.

What do you think?


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ikja
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posted November 15, 2014 07:34 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ikja     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Ra:
Hello ikja

I have a different perspective.

The dream begins as a reflection of your immediate desire and urges to be with this person (felt like a rushed wedding). But it seems that your dream mind is telling you there is more "path to walk" to get to where you want to be (walk down very long altar), that you require more time before any commitment (he gives you a watch instead of a ring).

So, why do you need more time? What is the dream telling you that you need? What inner work is necessary?

You answer these questions yourself.

You do not like "anything restrictive" or things that will "interfere with your life too much." You are subconsciously associating the wedding ring with these things. It is no wonder you were not given one.

In addition, you also say " that time wasn't the right time because there were still things to fix." This is the meaning of the dream, and the "fixing" is not about him, or you and he, it is all about you. In this perspective, the groom could take on another layer of meaning. Not only does he represent the one you want to be with, he could also represent your animus, your masculine aspects. In this way, the dream could suggest that "underneath the surface" (which is where your animus exists) this part of yourself is "upset about a number of things) that need to be "fixed". There is an inner conflict.

So the dream could also be suggesting that it is time (watch) to work on (work colleague) unification with (wedding) unacknowledged/ignored or undeveloped masculine aspects of self. It is about becoming more whole internally before seeking wholeness externally.

What do you think?


Strangely enough, your interpretation makes sense to me. In a way, this person (in real life) showed me that there were things that I needed to work on in my life. There were things with him that I didn't handle very well; and that showed me that I still had work to do on myself before I can really say that our relationship could stand the test of time. These things showed me that I wasnt a whole person and that before I can be the woman that I want to be to him, I have to be that woman to myself first and foremost. Therefore, having to walk down that alter and it seeming like a journey makes sense to me.

In terms of the state of our relationship, at the moment it is non existent and even though I would like to have another go at it, it seems that time is important for me to heal and for me to really understand what I do and don't like. It may even be that he is not the right one for me; but that he was supposed to get me in touch with the repressed aspects of myself... As much as I don't want that to be true; it's a possibility.

In the dream, I felt like its not that he didn't want to be there and marrying me; it's was like he wasn't happy with the way things were at that particular time either and I could send it from him (represented as my work colleague) so, the wedding didn't seem as genuine as it could have been. His vows weren't as heartfelt as I knew that they could be.

Your analysis of this dream is very interesting and I really aprecise your contribution. It is making me think now!!!!

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Ra
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posted November 19, 2014 04:38 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ra     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thank you for sharing your dream.

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