posted February 16, 2015 09:43 AM            

Found out he hung out with his ex shortly after dumping me.

I thought he was a lot smarter than that. Their relationship was highly toxic from what he told me.

posted February 16, 2015 03:16 PM              

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Originally posted by Einfühlung:
Next time he does that again I'm going to confront him and ask.

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I am straightforward as well.

Please read it as an opinion:
The dream symbol of embracing always points to physical nearness, to tenderness and to security. The dreamer would like to be held. To leave a room and close the door can be seen as a closed topic. This dream indicates that the Ex remains(=room), because of the feeling of security (=hugging).

posted February 16, 2015 03:44 PM            

Oh I would love to be held by someone I love so dearly. There was no door but there's a hallway that connects to I don't know where. Probably another room

posted February 17, 2015 08:53 AM              

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Originally posted by Einfühlung:
There was no door but there's a hallway that connects to I don't know where. Probably another room

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That is an indication of a new beginning. There are many people in here, that can help you on this way.

I wish you all the best on your way!

posted February 17, 2015 08:56 AM            

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Originally posted by Einfühlung:
Oh, wow, he sounds like a total hypocrite.. Not cool. :/
Glad to hear you got closure from it.
As for me I think I got many closures but it's such a roller coaster ride to get over him. If he straight up told me he didn't have any feelings for me anymore I would be over him in a snap. In December he stared at me for 5 minutes and it left me confused. Next time he does that again I'm going to confront him and ask.

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oh man wow. I hope you get the answers you need soon.

posted February 18, 2015 12:03 AM            

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Originally posted by Stawr:
oh man wow. I hope you get the answers you need soon.

Yeah I guess it helps that he told me he sees no future with me.
But then he immediately seeks out his ex who works at Wendy's and has 2 kids from different fathers. Now that right there is futurtastic! Whatever floats his boat.
But yeah, it looks like he is rebounding with his ex. I know better not to do that myself. If I was her, I would not be flattered that my ex seeks me out shortly after getting out of a relationship. If he did that after dumping me, he would most likely go back to me after dumping her.

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Thanks Stawr.

What the heck. Wow. Him coming back to you after saying that he sees no future with you seems really flighty and unstable. This is not the type of person you should be with.

You know, that's exactly what my ex did too. Before everything happened she said she asked him if he still had feelings for me (we were close in the past) and he didn't say anything so she broke up with him. Then he did the things your ex did. Especially when he broke up with me and then tried to string me along by sending me romantic pics and saying that he's afraid I won't like him anymore EVEN though he said he missed his girlfriend a lot. If he was afraid, he wouldn't have broke up with me. If he had common sense, he would have known I wouldn't pursue him because he liked someone else. He basically wanted me to be his second option if he broke up with her. I actually texted him after almost a year saying hi and then he broke up with his girlfriend thinking I wanted to get back with him. I actually did, but I wanted to start over. Then he went back to his girlfriend because he wanted to get back with me right away but learned that I wanted to be friends first.

posted February 18, 2015 12:06 AM            

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Originally posted by GeminiKarat:
That is an indication of a new beginning. There are many people in here, that can help you on this way.

I wish you all the best on your way!

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posted February 18, 2015 04:25 AM            

Just when you think you are over him … the subconscious pulls out the remaining residual energies associated with him and plays around with it. This is not uncommon, and could even be considered a healthy step in the separation process. It could indicate that there is still unfinished emotional business concerning him, but it could also just be subconscious "death-throes".

posted February 19, 2015 12:20 AM            

But my subconsciousness in my dreams told me I was not ready. I had a dream that he wanted to hang out with my dad, but not me.
And I was really annoying like "hey, what are doing, where are you guys going, when will you be back!!??" And pacing around worrying about it.

posted February 19, 2015 01:54 PM            

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Originally posted by Ra:
Hello Einfuhlung

Just when you think you are over him … the subconscious pulls out the remaining residual energies associated with him and plays around with it. This is not uncommon, and could even be considered a healthy step in the separation process. It could indicate that there is still unfinished emotional business concerning him, but it could also just be subconscious "death-throes".

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This! Thank you Ra. I've read somewhere even if you've moved on you can have dreams where your ex is in it but that can mean that it's showing you how far you've come and grown from the breakup. Your post reassures me of that

posted February 19, 2015 02:10 PM            

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Originally posted by Stawr:
I considered being friends a bit last night.

But my subconsciousness in my dreams told me I was not ready. I had a dream that he wanted to hang out with my dad, but not me.
And I was really annoying like "hey, what are doing, where are you guys going, when will you be back!!??" And pacing around worrying about it.

The way I was behaving reminded me off this very annoying socially off girl I work with. Meaning I did not like they way I was acting in this dream.
But is funny to make that comparison.

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Lol that is funny.

Me personally doesn't think being friends with an ex is a good idea... IF you still have feelings, especially strong feelings. It just goes downhill when you want to get back with someone who doesn't treat you right and only cares about his needs.

posted February 20, 2015 02:31 AM            

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Originally posted by Stawr:
my ex and I had a spiritual connection kind of.
Yeah I'm not sure if we can achieve being friends that hang out one on one. If anything, acquaintances on fb. I only know one person who can be friends with exes that's not "shady looking."

Best advice I got was don't hang out with him until you are over it.

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posted February 20, 2015 08:51 AM            

Still in my dreams. I had a dream that we were stuck in a room with random people. He fell asleep, I decided that I shouldn't wake him up and left him in there. I walked down the hall with a little girl holding my hand. I still wondered when he would wake up and where he would go.

It's very draining going though a break up like this. Starting to get my spark back though.

I did not get home til almost 9 last night, and the first thing that shows up on my news feed is a close up of his face. I was just like screw it, I'm going to bed right now.

posted March 07, 2015 11:14 AM            

I hung out with the ex after in dream and he barely acknowledged my existence. In the dream I was thinking "this why I cheated on you"

I never cheated on him in the relationship in real life.

And last night he wasn't in my dream, but his car was. I had a dream that my sister and our friend picked me up in one of his cars. I was just like "why do we have his car?? He needs it back, but I don't want a reason to see him."

I am now especially creeped out cause he posted a pic of his car on FB and saw it on my news feed this morning. I've been contemplating making it so that I cannot see his news feed on my FB.