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Topic: Fighting with my ex...what does this mean?!
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Ellygirl7
Knowflake Posts: 199
From: Harbor City, California USA
Registered: Jun 2011
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posted August 31, 2015 12:42 AM
  
I had a dream today that I went to my ex boyfriends house and beat up his new (non existant)girlfriend. Then I dragged his gf outside and let my sister beat her up while I went back inside to confront him. I attacked him but he didn’t fight back. I literally sat on top of him, punching him in the face. He never hit me back. The police came so I got off of him and told them not to touch me as I am 8 months pregnant (which I actually am). He told the police he didn’t want me arrested. We went into his place and I started walking through it looking around. It was really messy (strange because he is a neat guy). He seemed to have allowed or wanted me to walk through it. As I did, I found a love letter from me right next to his bed on the nightstand. I walked around collecting things that were mine (very few). I found a love note from the new gf on the kitchen counter. Compared to my long love letter, it was short and immature. I took my things and both letters and walked out. I got into the car with my family and we drove away. I don’t think we spoke throughout the dream. What does all of this mean?IP: Logged |
Ra
Moderator Posts: 1450
From: Kentucky
Registered: May 2009
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posted September 01, 2015 04:09 AM
Hello Ellygirl  This dream reflects your anger towards the ex. There is still pain, resentment, mixed feelings and other unfinished emotional business. The situation is generally a mess (his place is really messy). There may be a part of you that wants to believe there is still a connection, or is nostalgic about the connection that was, (love letter next to bed), but perhaps he has made immature and short-sighted (short, immature love note) choices (kitchen) that you cannot live with (took your stuff and drove away). Any of that make sense?  IP: Logged |
Ellygirl7
Knowflake Posts: 199
From: Harbor City, California USA
Registered: Jun 2011
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posted September 01, 2015 05:51 AM
Totally makes sense. What do you make of how passive he was? He didn't fight back, have me arrested, nor stop me from wandering his home.IP: Logged |
GeminiKarat
Moderator Posts: 1403
From: Austria
Registered: Jun 2014
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posted September 01, 2015 01:02 PM
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ladygagarin
Newflake Posts: 8
From:
Registered: Jul 2015
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posted September 03, 2015 05:10 AM
I had a similar dream of beating up the girlfriend of my ex, a month after the breakup.
The dream is your brain processing the emotional turmoil. The police could be the rational part of your mind warning you to not give yourself into the anger.
Your ex didn't stop you, because he was just a punching bag conjured up by your mind. It could also hint at, that you might feel he is guilty for causing the breakup (this depends on if he initiated it) so he should take the punishment.IP: Logged |
Ra
Moderator Posts: 1450
From: Kentucky
Registered: May 2009
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posted September 06, 2015 01:18 PM
Great thoughts ladygagarin, I agree.His passive role could be a counter to your aggressive role. This is a reflection of self rather than a reflection of his actual role in waking life. This is your psyche attempting to strike a balance by inserting the opposing energy, perhaps indicating the beginning of a process of rectification and healing. IP: Logged |
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