posted November 29, 2017 12:22 PM
Okay then. Next???
...You want a man for your economic prosperity purposes?
It would definitely go better for your future IF you have your OWN economic solution for your life.
A man, a partner, can say they love you, change their mind and heart, and if so inclined, they can Break their Covenant with you so easily.
I know,
because I did that. 
I POURED my Life, my Heart, my WORK into HIS Talent, and we PROSPERED (from my contribution, which he LATER said was 'his' talent-- and "what are the kids and I doing to ADD to the marriage coffers"... claimed that WE were a DRAIN on HIS Money).
I was doing some of the renovations on a fixer-first-house we bought. I was having babies (sick with throwing up-- it was like having the 'flu' for almost the whole time), and taking care of them AND him, trips to doctors, etc.
Keeping the home fires burning. Making HIS dreams come true with building a business... In order to 'prepare' myself to joining HIM in the offices we'd consult, I took up a course to improve myself. ... Which was by-itself blossoming into having my own little side-career started, made money that I poured BACK into it for building portfolio-- and ..... he disapproved. I was stopped.
One day... I found out that he had had a WHOLE other life separate from 'us'. He had extorted funds from 'our' business to invest in his own world-wide (global) business. He had his own financial world-- his own lot-number at Christy's of NY auction house, and other places. He was involved in criminal-like activities (even before the marriage) that I never knew about.
(Broke my heart.)
You MUST as a woman today, KNOW YOURSELF well. Build your own wealth.
BEFORE you get into marriage contract, have him INVESTIGATED. Urge your friends to give you their HONEST feedback. Listen to them.
I know there has been a religious-movement taking women backwards into 2nd-class enslaved positions.
This puts a woman seriously AT-RISK of that man's 'abandoning' his Promise, without HER having her own back up resources-- and sometimes doing that with huge legal fees and without support-monies for self and children. It's HARD when you have to 'share' the kids? (Especially if you know he is abusive, or into turning the kids 'against' you?) Sometimes men can use 'the kids' as objects of manipulation, for getting back AT you... even abandoning THEM.
UNLESS you found someone capable of old-fashioned Commitment, who is ABLE to stay for the Long Term Commitment... (check his family too), you might not like 'how' it leaves you broken in your Future?
The BEST of both worlds is when your Partner is EQUALLY invested in YOUR separate Prosperity...
A Woman MUST be Protected economically.
Why don't you connect with an organization that helps Women build their own economic security? Go to groups and clubs on it. Support each other... teaching and mentoring each other.
Some are teaching about starting your own businesses now. Develop ideas. Certainly there's a good side to capitalism... Just, be Careful. Lots of scams right now surrounding starting your own businesses. Predators. Bait for Bigger Companies to come EAT you and your customer base, and your Ideas.
Better to do it NOW while you're younger and still have profitable years ahead of you...
This would ALSO increase your SELF esteem. Self love, self worth.
Also.... get into a spiritual practice.
Love comes from within to the out....
There's an earthly kind of love, then there's the kind of Love and sense of Acceptance that comes from Above (from God).
When both partners have a THIRD as part of any Commitment or marriage, then you are BOTH Responsible to a Higher Self, that is 'WITH' each of you.
EACH Doing THEIR BEST, and Being their Best Self. Answerable to a Higher Energy.
(music) Charm is Deceitful Beauty is Vain (Kim Hill, Proverbs 31 scriptural text) [2:18] http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6ZYV1t8zyws