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Topic: Sudden nightmares about an old friend
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Adriana
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Registered: May 2009
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posted May 06, 2021 03:04 AM
  
I used to be friends for a decade with this guy that always wanted more, but I wasn’t feeling it. I haven’t seen him in some years, the friendship ended badly, he was being very intense and trying to get me to change my mind in the end. Then got really angry at me. I’ve also since dated someone else. A couple of months ago he reached out and apologized, I accepted but didn’t want to go back.Then recently I’ve had all these nightmares about him, him trying to find me and I’m hardly able to get away. Last night was particularly detailed with me moving to a new city and he found out where I live and started to show up everywhere. People were trying to protect me, but they underestimated him. And he was able to catch me. In the dreams he is super intense and scary, obsessed. Any suggestions why I suddenly dream about this now? IP: Logged |
Ayelet
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posted May 06, 2021 06:42 PM
I think he was obsessed actually, your dreams' assesment is correct. It seems to me him reappearing in your life wishing to apologize might have triggered a fear within you. The fact that he couldn't let go emotionally can be viewed within your psyche as threatening. You were connected to him for a decade, that's a long time. And your intentions were not in alignment with his. It does say a lot that he didn't move on for such a long time. That is unhealthy,and I can see how you can feel subconsciously in danger. You moved on from the friendship that ended with a bitter taste, but I can see how you might suspect his motivation to apologize and get in touch again might be stemming from an obsession, and you might be warned to stay away, and maybe to try and reject potential similar connections. It is a big warning sign not to tolerate such unhealthy attachments.IP: Logged |
Adriana
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Registered: May 2009
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posted May 07, 2021 03:33 PM
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Originally posted by Ayelet:
I think he was obsessed actually, your dreams' assesment is correct. It seems to me him reappearing in your life wishing to apologize might have triggered a fear within you. The fact that he couldn't let go emotionally can be viewed within your psyche as threatening. You were connected to him for a decade, that's a long time. And your intentions were not in alignment with his. It does say a lot that he didn't move on for such a long time. That is unhealthy,and I can see how you can feel subconsciously in danger. You moved on from the friendship that ended with a bitter taste, but I can see how you might suspect his motivation to apologize and get in touch again might be stemming from an obsession, and you might be warned to stay away, and maybe to try and reject potential similar connections. It is a big warning sign not to tolerate such unhealthy attachments.
I actually thought at some point after this that the dream might have been a warning. I wouldn’t have reconnected anyway I think, but maybe something would have happened in the future to change my mind. And yes, I felt his apology was not totally sincere, but just trying to reconnect again. I was worried back when the friendship ended as he was obsessed and extremely intense and threatened to contact someone I dated.. so maybe it’s just the subconscious reminding me to stay firm and not give in if he express how sad he is. But I was scared the dream may have new info, like he is actually going to show up etc
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Ayelet
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Registered: Sep 2010
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posted May 07, 2021 04:00 PM
Future prophetic dreams tend to be very vivid, giving out an uncanny feeling of real live situation.
This dream sounds like a warning dream, and as such it might be intense enough to make you wary and alert, and avoid making mistakes in this issue.IP: Logged | |
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