posted December 17, 2013 12:08 PM            

I guess my question is that if this card has a level of fear to it - fear of making decisions and actualizing them, how do you move past the fear of picking up the wrong cup? How do you let go of expectations so that you are not hurt? Does this card mean I will continue to be disillusioned?

posted December 17, 2013 01:08 PM            

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Originally posted by Twirl:
What was your question? And was this the only card you pulled?
Edit: just saw you did a spread. Really depends on what you found in the other cards, cause this one then is the 'climax'/'cherry on cream'.

For me it's not about a fear of making choices. It's about getting a clear picture. Most likely there's a lack of understanding of what a situation actually means & also just no clue about how to get there. It's like all question marks above someone's head. Huh?? What? Huh?

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Ah, yeah it came up in one of the other spreads I did. This is a horseshoe spread I did for myself today.

Question: What do I need to learn and grow right now? (background: I am in the wake of a break-up and having difficulty letting go)

Past: Five of Wands
Present: Three of Wands
What is Hidden: Ace of Cups
Obstacles: The Hermit
Surroundings: Five of Cups
Advice: The Sun
Outcome: Seven of Cups

I definitely feel unsure of how to get to the right relationship and move forward. Do I try to work things out with the ex? Do I try to date new guys? Do I pull away and keep to myself? Feeling dizzy...

posted December 19, 2013 11:04 AM            

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Originally posted by Twirl:
The sun asks you to gain clarity of the situation. The two fives tells me of the struggle. Who is withdrawing? You or him? Start writing down what your relationship was like. Hiw did he behave? How did you behave, etc. start getting a clear view. If you are not looking at what it was like & 2nd to what it is you need/want out of a relationship it is a 7 of cups situation. Otherwise you keep having those doubts.

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posted December 21, 2013 07:13 PM            

Your cards on what do i need to learn and grown right now, suggest to me that you can turn your focus to your kids. Are there three of them, at least two right?

The youngest needs some more investment of your time - they feel a little lost with basic skills like maybe tying shoe laces and stuff. The eldest feels like they are watching you and forming their principles which will effect what kind of adult they will be in relationships. Its not a bad thing, but there's a sensation that you need to invest more time into yourself.

So essentially what you need to learn and grow is strangely enough through being more focused on the learning and growing of your kids. It feels like such an important time for them and your relationship with them right now.

I think one of your relationship partners is coming back into the picture but your life need to be modified a bit - you had your balances all out of whack with how you utilised your time, and it feels like there was a considerable strain on your brain and psychological state in trying to kind of work everything in.

It feels like prioritising more simply is the way to go. I keep seeing a scenario of sunshine, possibly on a saturday or within a holiday time, and being involved in community style events with your kids - this will be so strengthening for your relationship and their formation of self esteem and trust in you and your goodness. Its not charity per se, but maybe like a fundraiser or fete, or even a market. There could be a few events, and getting out there in the streets, walking and doing stuff with the kids will be confidence building for them and you will feel more in control of how you want to be.

Of course, if you don't have kids, I don't know what I'm talking about.

posted December 23, 2013 01:22 PM            

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Originally posted by Chryseis:
Twitterbird, do you have kids?

Your cards on what do i need to learn and grown right now, suggest to me that you can turn your focus to your kids. Are there three of them, at least two right?

The youngest needs some more investment of your time - they feel a little lost with basic skills like maybe tying shoe laces and stuff. The eldest feels like they are watching you and forming their principles which will effect what kind of adult they will be in relationships. Its not a bad thing, but there's a sensation that you need to invest more time into yourself.

So essentially what you need to learn and grow is strangely enough through being more focused on the learning and growing of your kids. It feels like such an important time for them and your relationship with them right now.

I think one of your relationship partners is coming back into the picture but your life need to be modified a bit - you had your balances all out of whack with how you utilised your time, and it feels like there was a considerable strain on your brain and psychological state in trying to kind of work everything in.

It feels like prioritising more simply is the way to go. I keep seeing a scenario of sunshine, possibly on a saturday or within a holiday time, and being involved in community style events with your kids - this will be so strengthening for your relationship and their formation of self esteem and trust in you and your goodness. Its not charity per se, but maybe like a fundraiser or fete, or even a market. There could be a few events, and getting out there in the streets, walking and doing stuff with the kids will be confidence building for them and you will feel more in control of how you want to be.

Of course, if you don't have kids, I don't know what I'm talking about.

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I don't have kids, actually. Sorry. My friends have a two year old and a new baby on the way. The two year old loves me like crazy, I have felt a connection to her since birth. Not sure this really applies to your reading though.

Puzzled!