posted December 18, 2013 03:43 PM            

Back to the point. If you were to ask the cards about the near future of your relationship, and got the cards...

Relationship Foundation : Death
Their feelings : Knight of Swords
Your Feelings : Ten of wands
Your Needs :Judgement
Their Needs : Eight of wands
Combined Needs : Two of Swords
Your expectations : Page of Swords
Their Expectations : Seven of Pentacles
Future of the relationship : Two or Cups

If you want a background story of more info, I'll give it. Thank you. I pulled these about Three days ago... And have been mulling them over a lot...

I notice the few readings I've done about this subject tended to repeatidely throw the hermit, death, the lovers, Two of cups,strength, judgement, And ten of cups. Those are very very reoccuring and CONTRADICTING. The hermit card has more or less faded, and to be honest I'm done with isolation and silence. I want action. I want severe change.

posted December 18, 2013 05:52 PM            

In the spread, you seem to be really hung up over the relationship and the guy is sort of skittish. Like he is interested to a degree but its like interest in certain small elements.

The small bits and pieces that keep drawing his attention fleetingly are things like legs and high heels, and stuff like whether he would be accepted/invited to a family dinner/get-together (which I thought was unusual - like your family has some kind of attraction for him).

Its like his attention will turn to you in a quick and fleeting way for a bit and then it will bounce off.

So breaking down the spread:
Relationship Foundation (Death) - He seems a bit wild and untamed, like he doesn't like to be brought into a 'rein' easily. You seem to feel things deeply - and I would have to say there is an element of dependency, and you are likely to put all your eggs in one basket as they say. Like you are ready to give up or give everything to the relationship.

Their feelings (Knight of Swords) - he has a bit of a dry, mean, cold quality to him, that can even be putting someone down with sarcastic undertones. Under it all, he is fearful, its like he is trying to find desperately how to get through this thing called like by finding the most sleek, unhindered, exciting but generally trouble free path to take him through. He could seem quiet, considered and serious on the outside, but on the inside he's going a million miles an hour. He has some focus on you, though it is more about him constantly teeing up every possibility to see if it resonates a match with what he thinks is his unhindered path that he is trying to uncover. I think generally he would like you, but something is switched off - and it almost feels like it is due to a 'me first' 'don't stand in my way if I don't think I need you' kind of feeling.

Your feelings (Ten of wands) - so burdened, as you can imagine by the card. You're feeling like your moving under a load of stones being carried by you or a heavy slab. You worry and muse deeply and almost in a depressed way over the facets of life, the universe and everything, and all the details of the relationship, and what had occurred, and who said what, and what the other did and said in response. Its like it is swallowing you up and you wonder if you should do anything to save it - in actuality it feels like you equate it to try to save yourself from drowning. Hence it has a life or death quality to your feelings and this is related to a deep dependency on the relationship.

Your needs (Judgement) - You feel your needs could be simply titled 'love' or 'mutual fulfillment through a rewarding communion of souls' - but really scratch the surface and your needs are detailed and extensive - you really want the relationship to cater to the remotest corner of the entire architecture of your being.

Their needs (Eight of wands) - They like your name for some reason, they like quick and tangible responses that you are a benefit to them. They want their name in lights metaphorically, and anything that might get them there holds some quick attraction for them. Possibly a lot of this quick attraction all strung together could result in a more stable attraction, but the idea remains that they are all about their own progress - running the race of life, as unscathed as possible, with a bit of status and glamour thrown in and as little disturbances as possible to their centre of balance. They like communication, and a feeling that they are hot.

Combined needs (two of swords) - its hard to see a combined need in this card as it is traditionally the card of 'stalemate' as in there is no resolution at the time. So it is like there is a mismatch in personal needs.

Your expectations (Page of swords) - it seems that you just want to know/find out something. Its nagging you - I think you think that if you find it out then you have a good argument to put forward that you two need to really work at things - in actuality, it is a tool of your psychology - what you want to know, you can use to argue either way for the relationship, so that whether positive of negative, you think you can swing it to be the cornerstone to build on.

Their expectations (Seven of Pentacles) - like he is receptive to some of your plans to do something re: work and location, because there is a hint of benefit to him in the suggestions. So he is a bit open to the ideas that you are putting to him - but it is a bit of a wait and see thing on his part. For some reason, I think he thinks your prospects are looking a bit better than his, so he is considering whether he can back you, kind of like odds on a horse, to some degree.

Future of the relationship (Two of cups) - now this is quite a positive card for the future of the relationship. Its a card of affinity, so there is a like mindedness and kind of a two peas in a pod kind of feel. I think one of your strengths here is that you will listen to him more - and listening promotes understanding - and to understand is to love - and on the reverse, he has good listening ability as well (which I saw earlier, despite his skittishness). So yes, he is receptive to you. And despite the two of swords on the combined needs, there is sensation that listening and receptiveness to one another will move some of the blocks - and maybe shift the slab of stone that seems to be weighing you down.

Future

posted December 18, 2013 06:19 PM            

I feel like he loves me, and when he's here he's so attentive, giving , loving.

But when he leaves he goes off into his own little world, and I feel as if his main focus in career success. I feel like he's struggling between balance.