posted April 19, 2019 08:31 PM            

For the rs I got : 9 of pentacles
My conscious level : 9 of cups / His : 7 of cups
My feelings : 8 of cups / His : Knight of cups
My attitude/behaviour towards what's going on : Justice / His : 4 of swords

Then I asked what brought us together and got : The Hierophant.

I kept getting the 7 cups and the Moon card on different decks each time I asked what he thinks/feels. Kind of make sense, because we just started talking but yeah. Same thing about The Hierophant card. It kept flying from the deck each time I asked "why did I meet him" or "what brought us together".

posted April 22, 2019 07:05 AM            

You seem content and happy with yourself and are single. This guy seems to be in love with you (in the beginning stages of it), he is either romantic with you or a bit unsure of himself and not quite expressing his feelings yet. He is having lovey-dovey fantasies about you but these are not quite realistic as he doesn't know you that well. He really seems in love. You are not quite happy with how things are panning out however and want to look for someone else. You are trying to make the best decision in the situation though. Seems like you are currently on a break and not on speaking terms.
Are you two of a different cultural background or did you meet at work/school/university etc.?

posted April 23, 2019 06:00 PM            

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Originally posted by outofideas:
Here's my take on the cards you've gotten:

You seem content and happy with yourself and are single. This guy seems to be in love with you (in the beginning stages of it), he is either romantic with you or a bit unsure of himself and not quite expressing his feelings yet. He is having lovey-dovey fantasies about you but these are not quite realistic as he doesn't know you that well. He really seems in love. You are not quite happy with how things are panning out however and want to look for someone else. You are trying to make the best decision in the situation though. Seems like you are currently on a break and not on speaking terms.
Are you two of a different cultural background or did you meet at work/school/university etc.?

Let me know how this resonates.

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Oh..... That is actually true. Wow. We went on a couple of dates, and he was very sweet and very romantic. But he isn't that talkative... On texts we just have basic-talk everyday and it keeps repeating over and over again. I really thought of going out on other dates as other men asked me out, but I decided not to because I got busy.
Me and him talked for about 4 weeks, and we stopped talking about 3 days ago. Because I just got tired of having the same conversation over and over again, at one point I just wanted to get over that "hi how are you how was your day" just so that he either talks about something else or stops talking, and I think he noticed that since he didn't text me during these last 3 days. I honestly didn't want to text him, because I thought if he is really interested in me, he will text me and talk to me. Which he didn't.... And the thing is, he's in a different city now, because of his work. And it was weird because he kept insisting on me to keep talking to him, like "I'm gonna be away for 40 days, but I still want to talk to you because I want to take you out again when I come back, would you talk to me still..?"... Like why would you insist on talking if you weren't going to talk ?

We didn't meet at work nor university, he is actually older than me, I think that's why it came off as us having different backgrounds (could also be the case since my origins are from all over the planet too lol). We're 10 years apart, and we are in 2 diff fields so.

posted April 25, 2019 04:17 AM            

I can see why you're not too happy about it, I also get bored of the same conversations repeated over and over, not leading to much else. It's like there's no progression and can't quite bond with the person. It's funny he kind of tried to secure things by asking you to talk to him, but not following up on that himself wouldn't be a good sign for me either. But then if your communication is really not flowing that freely he may have felt your reluctance.

posted April 25, 2019 04:57 PM            

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Originally posted by outofideas:
Cool that it resonated, thank you for the feedback.

I can see why you're not too happy about it, I also get bored of the same conversations repeated over and over, not leading to much else. It's like there's no progression and can't quite bond with the person. It's funny he kind of tried to secure things by asking you to talk to him, but not following up on that himself wouldn't be a good sign for me either. But then if your communication is really not flowing that freely he may have felt your reluctance.

Are you interested in him and progressing further with him?

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Exactly. Yeah, I thought about that. That's why I tried my best to initiate conversations but we would talk that day/night. And the next day, same thing all over again.

Yes, I am. I even texted him yesterday. I thought about it for 2 whole hours lol. I texted him and he went "Sorry I was working most of the time and not getting enough sleep"... I didn't like the answer tbh. It felt weird. But then again lol it's like he forgot how to talk to girls. All his life consisted of working/studying. But I don't know.... I don't want to be the one HAVING to initiate the convo or else he won't talk...

posted April 26, 2019 04:28 PM            

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Originally posted by outofideas:
Yeah it doesn't sound great if that's all he said. Although I'm often very tired from work too and can barely extend any energy to anyone else. But if the person I really like messages me then I'd probably become excited and give a response that is more than just an excuse. But that's just me - I don't know much about your situation and him other than what you've said here so it wouldn't be fair to judge things based just on this information. What did you text him?

You should definitely not be the one always having to initiate conversations or trying to maintain interesting conversations. Indeed if it comes to you having to extend more energy towards him just to get him to talk then I would take that as a sign that things have become imbalanced and one sided. (I've been in situations like this before)

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Yeah.. Exactly. I just felt really confused because of the things he said/did before... and I thought to myself maybe he's not much of a talker. I texted him a simple hello and asked where he been.. I feel like a clown for texting him now. I was just in my feelings, and the thing is I kept having vivid dreams of him.. Add to that my cards were telling me all about him for so long.

I'm so mad. Haha. And I was really sick and in my feelings when I texted him, as I mentioned. So he knows that I'm not feeling so well, and he haven't texted me since our yesterday's convo . Maybe I'm over-reacting... but yeah. I don't think I'll talk to him again. He's probably not going to text either so...

posted May 01, 2019 05:05 PM            

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Originally posted by Randall:
A text is still good, though!

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posted May 04, 2019 07:23 PM            

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Originally posted by outofideas:
It's good that he texted you.
I'm not sure how he'd take it if you say you don't want him to be so robotic lol. Maybe it would be better if you find a different way of telling him that. Are you still in contact?

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