posted November 15, 2021 08:01 PM            

One of my first. I've been extremely careful and patient to only use it as intended (including following my inspiration/intuition for the less strict 'rules') and only when I can't resist not asking a question.

The first and maybe second attempts were super sketchy. I wasn't feeling sure in doing nor interpreting.
The one or two readings since were pretty clear. And very accurate.
I don't use it much because it feels like cheating and like I shouldn't misuse it.

That's the context...
Yesterday I got around to feeling like it was time to ask it something that was relatively low in my priorities: am I going to meet someone? I've met someone already and it was *fairly* promising but that someone is on the other side of the planet. And we both have commitments where we are now.

I'm using a sort of rare deck. Yaguel Didier's.

I always shuffle more than enough, always careful to not snag or bend or flip any cards . I love my deck. This time while shuffling, the "rings" card flipped over. Oops... Funny coincidence though.

I shuffle and cut thoroughly the usual 3 or 4 more times. And I realize I forgot to take out the two cards I meant to set on their own above the actual cards I'd draw. Meant as a sort of explicit question to focus on, before and while drawing the 'answer'.

So I'm kinda discouraged but whatever, I'll just reshuffle all over again once I take out the "man" and "woman" cards.
I grab the deck, and the very first card is "man". That's kind of funny.

I ponder that for a few seconds then take the deck again so I can get the "woman" card out and it's the 2nd card this time; the first next card was "love".

The coincidence is kinda funny again so for a second I'm holding those cards and I kinda wanna just stop there and take the hint that maybe I already know the answer, and shouldn't insist?

As I'm thinking that, I can see the corner of the next card and recognize it as "moon".

I stop there. Put the deck back where I keep it. But later that night (I'm workaholic, insomniac) I get impatient after 3 hours of not falling asleep. Eventually I think about the cards again and think 'no way, too much of a coincidence'.

I go look at the next card. "Sun".
You don't usually cover that card because it's typically a really good card that resolves everything previous to it.

But again... I'm just tickled with the coincidence, so the next morning I again take the deck out and this time super respectfully set up a nice clean clear spot for it before grabbing the deck again to see what the card after "Sun" is.

Because it's either going to be random, or clearly mismatched with the rest of the sequence, and with the rest of my life as it is now and since I met that person... Or it'll be something clear to tell me I've asked too much, too many times.

I grab the next card and only the next card. It's "Lion". Which is basically the ultimate "positive" card that's never covered.

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TLDR

My question: Am I going to meet someone (I don't care who, I just want someone I can be myself with, everything else a bonus) ?

During shuffling, I flip over "rings" card. It's like the name says: explicit union, relationship, marriage. I never flip cards over usually, I'm super meticulous and patient.

posted November 15, 2021 08:13 PM            

We had really good chemistry: finish each other's sentences, spontaneously take turns being push-pull/pull-push, she laughed when I wasn't trying to be funny, and vice versa... etc. I'm not gonna bore with all the cliches, they basically happened.

There was effort trying to be respectful of the fact she's already got a semi serious someone, in not flirting and not doing things she'd really like.

There was basically no effort making our chemistry work on its own. I felt super humble and amazed at how awesome a person she was a lot of times. I had to hide it a couple of times. It's been a long time since just being myself was so attractive, and vice versa.

... and, even in the best scenario I can realistically imagine, even next summer wouldn't be enough. The best that could happen would be clearly committing to seeing each other again sooner than another year after next summer, and seeing what happens then.

yet another funny coincidence. A friend of mine has a company. Which specializes in, of all things, the *exact* thing this person is studying for her PhD.
I asked "for a friend" in a really general non-binding way, and yeah, as a matter of fact they would be very open to interviewing someone in the next 12-18 months.
...

And last thing. Not exactly a coincidence, because she's the one that set up the holiday where I met this person, but the sister of the person I met, offered to help me find someone.

I honestly do not know and don't want to try guessing whether there's more than coincidence there, including because I'm the one that ended up asking for her to help since she teased me about just getting back on tinder because she was sure I'd find my soulmate there (I don't think so, not feeling it at all).