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silverbells
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posted July 01, 2003 05:12 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for silverbells     Edit/Delete Message
I'm in a flurry of posting new topics. Anyway tell me what you think please. The last three guys that i have "dated" have all had the same first name. That is quite odd. I'm starting to think that the universe is trying to tell me something. My mother thinks that these are all variations of the same guy. And they do seem to be. And there does seem to be some weird correlations in behavior. She thinks that I should leave them alone. They are Pisces, Taurus and Aries, repectively. #1 used to make me feel like I was unattractive(based on his fear of my leaving him if I ever thought that I could do better ) But #3 is the exact opposite, he is Always complimenting me. #1 thought that he was always right when he jumped to conclusions(which he ususally wasn't) but he would usually keep his conjectures to himself out of repect for other people's feelings(I think) #3 thinks that he is always right when he jumps to conclusions too but he will just say whatever he thinks and end up hurting people and then regretting it or sometimes still believing that they needed to hear his assertions because HE IS RIGHT(Aries ). Those are some examples. These guys either have the same qualites manifest or dealt with in different ways or they have polar opposite qualities that are quite striking. Oh, and #3 sometimes says things that #1 used to say all of the time that used to push my buttons like a muthaf--
but he has no way of knowing the effect; he says stuff like "The truth hurts" quite frequently in reference to someone or something else and I will be ****** off for hours. Not because the truth really does hurt but because #1 used to say it all of the time and he didn't even really know what it truly meant. And #1 and #3 have smiles that look the same in certain situations. But #3 really and truly cares about humanity and #1 doesn't even care if puppies are being abused. And the thing that all three seem to have in common is that they have all been traumatized by one thing or another and it affects the way they act. (Though I don't know what #3 has been traumatized by but he hints at things from time to time.) I can't think of anything else right now but what do you guys think? That's odd to say the least. Thanks for making it to the end of this post

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Loneliness makes you strong, only love makes you free-Michael Franks

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anafaery
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posted July 01, 2003 06:29 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for anafaery     Edit/Delete Message
hello

honey, its just the natural way of life. we tend to attract similar people, sometimes, barring a massive internal change. theres nothing weird about it, and if its a common name like john, well yea you might have a couple of johns in your life. i have had a few j names, but you know? many people have names starting with j. try not to waste your energies looking for meaning in coincidences that are really not that useful to you. doesnt mean there isnt anything to it, but to ponder the reasons why they would all have similar names will drive you nuts. if there is a meaning, a lesson to be learned, it will come naturally, like a light bulb over your head. i believe that if there *is* meaning to it, then somehow you will be enlightened... simply because you have an honest desire to know.

as far as choosing mates that seem to have a lot in common, that isnt a rare occurance either. we attract certain things through ourselves, for example have you heard of the very real psychological data that a lot of abused women will consistantly get reinvolved with abusive men? it really does happen. there is something deep inside them that truly believes that they deserve those men (and of course they dont! no one does!)... its on such a subconscious level that they themselves arent aware of it half the time. it might come from lack of self esteem due to having parents that put them down, etc... its when we do that inner work to strengthen and heal ourself that we start attracting people who wont take advantage. i have lived through this phenominon. i can attest to it.

also in the way of getting involved with people who need 'healing', we can give off a vibe of being 'helpful and eager'. these people can pick up on that, and also, we may unconsciouly be attracted to these types because we want to heal them. some are more receptive, others will just drain you. i know from my experience that i only ever seemed to go out with ones that needed healing. my husband needs my own special brand of healing in fact... but luckily hes finally the one that was receptive to my efforts.

i would look into chiron in your chart (hes an asteroid, the 'wounded healer') and also write on a paper some day what you want to offer to a person, and what you want from a person. write those things down then question them. ask yourself 'why do i want to offer this to someone'. ask yourself 'why do i want a person with this trait'. once you question why you are the way you are, you can understand yourself and others better, and use your own personal gifts and be able to focus them to a receptive person.

i hope that makes sense, lol. i am very tired and so i am not writing that clearly today. apologies for that. tried to make it as clear as i could.

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silverbells
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posted July 01, 2003 08:26 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for silverbells     Edit/Delete Message
Thank YOu. You are right about attracting the same types of people. But I do not believe in coincidences, I mean I could see if I met them at different times, But one after another like that. Actually no, there was one person in between #1 and #2 but still. And really, HOW COULD THEY HAVE THE SAME SMILE!!! I mean c'mon. You are right though, about the meaning coming to me and the vibes that we send out. I think that that is a good idea to write those things down and really look at them. My Chiron is in Taurus, what does that mean?

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anafaery
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posted July 01, 2003 10:29 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for anafaery     Edit/Delete Message

try this link for chiron info. its pretty good. http://home.iprimus.com.au/gjdemontfort/Chiron.htm

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silverbells
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posted July 01, 2003 10:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for silverbells     Edit/Delete Message
Danke!

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