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Topic: Someone to watch over me...
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Philbird
Knowflake Posts: 914
From: Douglas, AZ. USA
Registered: Jun 2004
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posted October 22, 2004 01:57 PM
 
Well, not me, but my son.
I asked him if he ever feels he has an angel or someone watching over him. He says no. He is having some self-esteem issues right now, he could use a guardian angel, one that he believes is really there for him. He needs to open his mind to faith in things he cannot see. (not just angels) He has very black and white views of life. Unfortunatly with that comes as lot of negetivity, and sarcasm about things he can't see. Any ideas?
Even baby steps at this point would be helpful.
Thanks!
Mary
P.S. he could also use some light and prayer.
(didn't have a good marking period in school and is really down about it, especially since he tried his best)IP: Logged |
LibraSparkle
Moderator Posts: 2842
From: Vancouver USA
Registered: May 2004
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posted October 22, 2004 02:50 PM
Philly, it sounds like you're describing my husband. I wish I had some wise words for you  It seems people have to come into faith on their own... I don't know that anyone can really be led. It's a very personal choice. IP: Logged |
26taurus
Knowflake Posts: 1974
From: the stars
Registered: Jun 2004
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posted October 22, 2004 02:52 PM
Hey Philly,He's still young. Have faith that he will open up to things when it is time for him to. Just by having you as a mother, it's opening his mind to certain things, he will awaken to them when he is supposed to. I know it's hard though. When you care about someone and wish they could see things the way you do. Just have faith and know he is on his own path and must get to certain points on his own (with some guidance from you, of course). All you can do is give him all your Love and pass along your knowledge.  LOVE &  LIGHT  ...for you and Jaybird. Love ya,
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Philbird
Knowflake Posts: 914
From: Douglas, AZ. USA
Registered: Jun 2004
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posted October 22, 2004 04:41 PM
Sniff, Sniff. Thank you ladies. I'm slowly trying to get him to appreciate nature by telling him not to fry bugs with a magnifying glass, and hurting things, that everything in nature has feelings too. I did teach him how to see his own energy field. He saw it but wasn't impressed. Why? IP: Logged |
Sheaa Olein
Knowflake Posts: 981
From: UK
Registered: Jul 2004
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posted October 22, 2004 06:30 PM
I guess he's just not ready to accept that right now On a positive note - he has you who he loves and respects, holding firm to these viewpoints. The seeds are being planted subconsciously, regardless of how dismissive he is right now. I'm sure he quietly contemplates your opinion. Just be steady in your focus & stick to your guns with your heart's true opinon; no matter how much he poopoo's it, he'll begin to question it internally. Have as much faith in him with this, as you wish for him to have in himself Philly. It'll come right. He has an excellent thought foundation with you  ------------------
"We see everything through a glass, darkly. Sometimes we can peer through the glass and catch a glimpse of what is on the other side. If we were to polish the glass clean, we'd see much more. But then we would no longer see ourselves." From 'Deep Quotes' IP: Logged |
Sheaa Olein
Knowflake Posts: 981
From: UK
Registered: Jul 2004
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posted October 22, 2004 06:36 PM
I just realised - it's basically what 26 said   IP: Logged |
Philbird
Knowflake Posts: 914
From: Douglas, AZ. USA
Registered: Jun 2004
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posted October 22, 2004 07:49 PM
I know I have it in me to be a spiritual influence on Jay, but to be honest, it is very difficult to practice what I preach when in the moment. You know? I find myself reverting back to the mother I don't want to be. I'm not really complaining here, he's a great kid, but somewhere between brush your teeth and spending 3 or 4 hours a night on homework, I lose track of the direction I'd like to point him in.
26, and Sheaa, I know you guys are young and don't have kids...and yet you seem to be so sure and positive. I know when you have children, they will be at such a great advantage! Really!
I did not have any knowledge of such spirituality for the first 11 years of Jay's life, so I fight my own ghosts when it comes to good parenting. The only examples I had were profoundly abusive. I have never hit Jay, and have fought those intense urges all his life. I am proud that my son is not terrified of me, some people take for granted what I have struggled so hard to avoid. Any way, Jay's a bit oppositional, as I guess most teens are. Just the other day we talked about calling a truce when we start to feel like we are hurting each other, and no one feels like they "Lost" (or are about to blow) It gives us both permission to say how we feel and at the same time respect each others point of view. We talk rationally at a later time.
I think I'm going to set up a time once a week where we both "meditate" in the same room, and share our love without words. First for just a minute and maybe longer later on.
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