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Lilith1075
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posted November 04, 2004 07:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lilith1075     Edit/Delete Message
I've been reading about Empathy and Empaths, and it sounds like me. Everything sounds so perfectly like me. But when I think about it that way, I feel like I should beat myself with a humble stick. How does one actually come to a modest but obviously influencial and important decision whether or not they are an Empath? Any recommended web sites? I've been searching but haven't quite found what I'm looking for. Any Empaths here? How rare/common is it? Can it be learned or is it inherited; how/why? Any information would be a big help.

Thanks! xoxoPiscesxoxo

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iAmThat
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posted November 04, 2004 09:30 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for iAmThat     Edit/Delete Message
Comes naturally to water signs.
Are you one?

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LibraSparkle
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posted November 04, 2004 11:03 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LibraSparkle     Edit/Delete Message
The water sign thing is SO true. You being a Pisces would explain your empathic tendencies. I have a Cancer Moon, and am extremely empathic.

I've struggled most of my life to figure out which feelings are my own and which are others. Sometimes it's still pretty confusing. Other peoples' anxiety is really difficult to deal with. It's such an awkward feeling... shaky and nervous with no real reason as to why. It's really hard to shake.

I pick up on the whole gamut of people's feelings. Good feelings are just as infectious as negative ones... I think the negative ones are just more noticeable. We don't typically question why we are happy, or elated. Anger and anxiety are looked at more closely.

Interesting stuff, eh?

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pixelpixie
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posted November 05, 2004 12:43 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for pixelpixie     Edit/Delete Message
Definately agree with the water thing...

I was just thinking tonight... in alot of situations... but this one in particular, I always seem to leave a conversation with a certain someone feeling undone.. like not all was said, and I almost got it.. like we missed half the conversation left unsaid. I feel more than we actually say.
This happpens quite alot, and it is a curious thing to actually bring up. Like, we both know we 'feel' each other.. but how do you just say it, living in the world we do......
"So.. I feel what you mean there, when you said only some of what you meant..... I want to telepathically reach out and make it okay without words."
That part doesn't generally enter the convo, though I wish it would.


Anyway. Yes, I get it.

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miss_apples
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posted November 05, 2004 05:32 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for miss_apples     Edit/Delete Message
I believe that we are all empaths. We just need to learn to tune into our natural clairsentinent abilities.

I would personally recomend the book "Divine Guidence" by Doreen Virtue where she describes all the different psychic abilities and how to develop them.

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Lilith1075
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posted November 05, 2004 07:47 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lilith1075     Edit/Delete Message
Yeah, I do think we all have the ability to use various "ESP" traits. Some ignore them, but some do have more of a talent. I do think I have somewhat of a talent, and I want to learn how to use it.

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Gemini Nymph
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posted November 06, 2004 12:07 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Gemini Nymph     Edit/Delete Message
I could be considered an empath, among other things - a clairsentient, a clairvoyent, a telepath, a psychic healer, a spirit medium, a soul reader...with a Pisces moon, a dignified Gemini Mercury, an Uranus singleton in the 1st and a Neptune singleton in the 3rd, I'm a walking psychic freakshow.

However, I don't put it on my resume. My really uptight 6th house Aqua Mars frowns sternly on the idea of using my abilities for personal gain.

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future_uncertain
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posted November 06, 2004 01:30 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for future_uncertain     Edit/Delete Message
GeminiNymph...

What is a soul reading? Would I be asking to much to request one?

Thank you,
Carissa

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wildflwrs
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posted November 06, 2004 05:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for wildflwrs     Edit/Delete Message
Being an empath is something that can used to the good, usually with healing. Some people struggle with it a lot, because you pick up a lot of things you don't want. Sometimes you pick up on the emotions of others...or you can even pick up on physical symptoms.
Most people I know recommend working with a shield for protection. You can visualize it during meditation. There are books with visualizations for psychic protection. It can be very effective.

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Lilith1075
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posted November 07, 2004 08:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lilith1075     Edit/Delete Message
Thanks for the heads up and recommendations, you guys. I'll have to do some more research and look in the library more.

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cynicalpsychic
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posted November 10, 2004 01:33 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for cynicalpsychic     Edit/Delete Message
i picked up a lot of people's emotions when i was in college. which was bad cuz a lot of my friends were severely depressed and some of them were "cutters" (a habit that i even tried to pick up as well).
but this is really a funny story...i would go to see a therapist about this and talk about how hard it was cuz i was actually *feeling* the things that other people felt. finally i admitted to her that because of this, i was pretty sure i was "the messiah". she basically agreed with me. haha. so then i figured that there really wasn't a problem and i never saw her again.
i still have problems with it sometimes, when i pick up people's negative energy. but i try hard to fight it affecting me; or to reverse it for them.

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sesame
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posted November 10, 2004 01:55 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sesame     Edit/Delete Message
Well, I think the shield idea seems good. Also, Aselzions an empath I just read, so maybe ask over at "Through the Looking Glass"?

Best of luck with it,
Dean.

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pixelpixie
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posted November 10, 2004 12:23 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for pixelpixie     Edit/Delete Message
Whenever unpleasant things are happening around me, I can really feel it.
If one of my children cuts or hurts themselves, I 'feel' a buzzing on my own skin, at the site of their injury. Almost this dizzy sensation in my skin. i will be treating their cuts, all the while, feeling them.
I always know by their eyes if they are sick.
Yesterday, the place I work was having free flu shots.... the recipiants were told to wait around for fifteen minutes, to make sure there were no adverse reactions. This one boy looked quite pale, and when someone got help, he just sort of collapsed... fainted I guess. I think it was a needle reaction, as opposed to a real malady.. but when he crumpled in the Pharmacist's arms, I felt it so much. Even though I am quite the humanitarian, I couldn't be a nurse, unless I learned some distance. I don't know if this is an adreneline reaction, or what, but my hands go numb and I feel myself reaching out to their pain.
When comforting, I have been told that it seemed as if I really meant it.. my compassion was genuine, and not just something you say. It is true.
I both love and hate this about my character.
At the same time, I could give a rat's ass about some.... or at least I'd like to think...........

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batgirl
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posted November 12, 2004 12:37 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for batgirl     Edit/Delete Message
wow pixelpixie, i think this is how it should be (about feeling your children's pain)

today i think i felt the grieving for yassir arafat-it was overwhelming. in '95 or '96 there was a time when muslim men were being lined up and shot in the head, and i felt that too, was at my job and just started crying

sometimes i think i'm empathic to the point of being 'psychometric'--i can feel dirt for example and at times i am so uncomfortable it is like hell, i dont really know how to tune things out

i also think i read souls, unfortunately most of what i see no one wants to know

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BlueTopaz124
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posted December 14, 2004 12:32 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for BlueTopaz124     Edit/Delete Message
Here is an excellent site to find out about being an empath.
http://www.geocities.com/christabelle67/TheUniversalEmpathIndex1.html

I grew up being hypersensitive and shy, not knowing anything about being empathic, until I became an adult and it all made sense. I can feel other people's physical pain and can feel what their experience is like and feel it in my own body. I pick up other's emotions like crazy and know who I can trust and cannot, it's just a knowing I can't explain.

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Ra
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posted December 14, 2004 03:05 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ra     Edit/Delete Message
Being truly empathic without knowledge of the use of "shielding" can be so very difficult ...

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LeoSweetHeart
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posted December 14, 2004 03:19 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for LeoSweetHeart     Edit/Delete Message
Hello I think I have some empathic traits. I am very sensitive to other people and I feel I can always read whether something is wrong with them or not. When I'm at parties, I hate to see people get left out and I go out of my way to include them. I can see in a persons eyes if they really mean what they say or if they truly like me or acting fake. I feel really drained when i go out in public areas with a lot of people because I pick up their sadness, anger, happiness..by the time I get home I'm so overwhelmed..and then I eat to neutralize all the energy, when I should just take a nice cleansing bath do you girls recommend that? I heard that helped. I love helping people, I always give to homeless and try reach out to those in need as if their pain is very close to my own. I can also feel when people get hurt (I think this is a little more common). Anyways I think I have many empathic qualities, but I am a Leo with a Taurus Moon so no water. Although Mars is in Cancer, could that effect it? Also I was not inherently born with clairvoyance, or audience..though I'm trying to develop those senses. I'm def not at the same level as Pixie and others yet though..

Monica

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Love
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posted February 20, 2006 04:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Love     Edit/Delete Message
Well!

A topic that I can certainly relate to! Ever since I was very, very young I was super empathic and my childhood only encouraged it to develop. One of my theories is that if you suffer through some sort of consistent trauma or abuse when you are young, these situations tend to develop your empathic abilities quite alot since you must become hyper-aware of your environment in order to be able to protect yourself and predict what is coming next.

I was like a raw wound when I was little because I could not only sense what people were feeling but I could sense when someone's mood changed by a degree. If someone went from sad at a degree of 20% to 23% I would know it immediately which ended up becoming a huge problem for me as I grew up.

When you know people's feeling sometimes better than even they do and you then verbally comment on their mood changes, it tends to make people crusty! Ha! It's not a way to make friends, let's put it that way. Also, when people recognize that you know them better than they are comfortable with you knowing them, it can place a huge barrier between you so I learned (eventually) that I needed to keep my observations to myself for the most part. (Or else be SUPER tactful about them)

For all the empaths out there struggling with any of this (like feeling that someone is lying even though you have NO proof, feeling someone has negative feelings towards you even though they deny it, understanding the energetics of a situation long before anyone else does, etc.) just know that there are ways to find balance which is the key to making your empathy work for you instead of against you.

Also, sometimes you might know things intuitively or on an emotional level but it's hard to make the jump to interpreting it intellectually. That's another aspect that is wise to practice developing since having feelings that bother you and that you cannot put on the proper shelf will only contribute to your anxiety (which is something that all very empathic people must struggle to overcome).

I wanted to bump this thread up because I spent waaay too many years not knowing why I had so many feelings I couldn't explain and feeling as though I was cursed with an understanding that made me feel different and confused.

At some level we are all empaths (just like we are all psychic and able to tune into higher vibrations) but like all human traits, some are more easily accessible to us than others.

Learn to make your bubbles empathic people!
Realize that you have a gift and not a curse if you learn to develop it wisely and lovingly.

I feel you!

Peace!

Love xo

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fayte.m
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posted February 20, 2006 04:55 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for fayte.m     Edit/Delete Message
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hippichick
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posted February 21, 2006 01:35 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hippichick     Edit/Delete Message
This is a warm, wonderful thread. I am so happy to know there are people out there like myself (why have I not visited here yet? I dunno )
It has taken me many years (I will be 44 next month) to realize what was going on with myself. It was in my early 20's that I finally realized that the "feelings" I so profoundly feel at times are usually those of others, not my own. A "psychic sponge" is a way I have heard it described and a very accurate metaphor!
I am a RN working in an ICU and it dawned on me a few years ago that my patients generally do well, while under my care, that is they remain stable, atleast. The ones who have died have been allowed to do so by family letting them go, by removing life support, etc. (with my love and support.) But I also realized that I pick up energies in that unit and carry them around with me until I make a concious effort to let them go. For people like ourselves, it would be impossible not to pick up all the hurt, sorrow, anger, fear, all of the negative emotions that the families carry with them, not the patients usually.
I have cultivated a very lovely, peaceful home that enables me to come home from work, or just being out in the public where I also pick up ugly stuff, and cleanse. I meditate, bathe, shower, sit in my hot tub, sleep, garden, whatever I feel like doing, but I so something to re-center and release!
I am a Pisces Sun and Venus(in the 4th),
Scorpio rising, Neptune in the 12th in Scoprio, and Jupiter, Mercury and Mars in close conjunct in Aqua opposite very closely to Uranus in Leo, the water, I believe (plus a great grandma who was psychic) has pre-disposed me to the empath abilities and I get these lightening like intuitive impluses from the Aqua planets oppo Uranus.
I stumbeled onto a website this morning that touch me deeply regarding Pisces, the intro quote for Pisces reads....

"To you, Pisces,I give the most difficult tasks of them all. I ask you to collect all of man's sorrows and return them to Me. Your tears are to be ultimately My Tears, The sorrow you absorbe is the effect of man's misunderstanding of My Idea, but you are to give him compassion that he may try again. For this, the most difficult task of them all, I give you the greatest gift of them all. You will be the only one of my twelve children to understand Me. But this gift of understanding is for you, Pisces, for when you try to spread it to man, he will not listen." Unknown...

Peace, Love and Light to all

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BlueTopaz124
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posted February 21, 2006 07:58 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for BlueTopaz124     Edit/Delete Message
hippichick...that's a beautiful quote at the end for Pisces, what site did you find it on?

Thanks,
Laura

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fayte.m
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posted February 21, 2006 08:08 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for fayte.m     Edit/Delete Message
hippichick!
Hello to you from a person who was/is a hippie....age 51.....
And loves Pisces people!
I am:
Scorpio
November 3rd.

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hippichick
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posted February 21, 2006 08:40 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hippichick     Edit/Delete Message
Laura the site is
wwww.themysticcastle.com
click on articles to the left, then
page of the past, then
astrology.....

Fayte m. I like Scorpios as well, guess it has to do with my rising sign, people often mistake me for a Scorp. So deep and....
I have even been described as....."scary!" by one scared Aqua guy!!!!

I like this place, I will come back!!!!

T.

Ps Fayte, My grandma's b-day who raised me and I love lots is Nov. 2

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fayte.m
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posted February 21, 2006 09:32 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for fayte.m     Edit/Delete Message


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Lilith1075
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posted February 22, 2006 06:58 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lilith1075     Edit/Delete Message
Wow!! What an amazing quote.....

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