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From: new zealand
Registered: Dec 2004

posted February 17, 2005 08:43 AM         

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Ask me a question
About anything and I will probably be able to give you an answer because without boasting I am the greatest.

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From: Rochester Hills, MI USA
Registered: May 2004

posted February 17, 2005 09:09 AM         

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I have a question.? What is the lesson on a spiritual level to watch a granmother who is 91, and is just withering away in a nursing home but not dying? I need some clarification on this. Why won't she die? Its hard to watch and there are many of us watching this. No-nody else in my family has lived this long without disease.

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From: new zealand
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posted February 17, 2005 10:52 AM         

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Maybe she doesent want to, thinks she doesent need to, and maybe she wont.
Maybe the lesson is you dont need to die or that it is possible to outlive others.
Maybe she is happy I hope she is.

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From: Rochester Hills, MI USA
Registered: May 2004

posted February 17, 2005 10:59 AM         

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Thank you. You may be right.

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From: Ontario, Canada
Registered: Aug 2003

posted February 17, 2005 11:15 AM         

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Is this a time warp thing?
Tongue in cheek?

Those are my questions.

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From: Somewhere over the Clouds
Registered: May 2004

posted February 17, 2005 01:43 PM         

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Thirteen I don't believe this but my family and I are going through the same with my grandmother. She's in her 80s and in a nursing home and also withering away.

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From: Rochester Hills, MI USA
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posted February 17, 2005 01:56 PM         

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Yang, well then I probably understand what you are going thru. Im just not sure where to put my thoughts on this. One thing I did was try to embrace it as opposed to deny'ing it. So I started to try to not be afraid of the other residents. I say hi now and make a point to look at them. Its interesting, my grandmother is in no pain. Shes just darned old. Her skin is so fragile and wrinkled and discolored and she is all hunched over but otherwise she has no diseases. She can't be alone anymore and we all work. Everytime i go there i come home sad even though I accept it all.

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From: Somewhere over the Clouds
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posted February 17, 2005 03:54 PM         

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Everytime I visit my grandma I get depressed but my facial expressions look as if I am in a bad mood or or I just don't care when I visit her-but I do.
People probably get the wrong impression when they see me.
I wonder what my grandma thinks?

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From: Ontario, Canada
Registered: Aug 2003

posted February 17, 2005 04:21 PM         

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She thinks she is happy to see her grandson..
and probably wants you to give her ONE smile... she's been in this world awhile, she knows how it goes.

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From: Rochester Hills, MI USA
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posted February 17, 2005 04:44 PM         

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Yeah, thats the bottom line. I go on and on to my husband about how all of us grandkids are being affected by all this and what does he say?
Yes, and Ill bet she's happy to see you guys when you go isn't she.

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From: Oz
Registered: Nov 2003

posted March 06, 2005 08:30 PM         

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My mum works in a nursing home and says many people don't like seeing their parents. I guess it's tough, but it would make a difference to them. Even the ones with dementia would have an understanding to a certain degree - like the soul is still there, but the mind can't make the body respond or something. They won't be there for ever, so maybe it's a way of understanding life in it's most simplest form - existence. Survival. Life is so much more than that, but I think sometimes we need to remember the simpler things too. It helps to enable a deeper appreciation if nothing else

Heaps of Love,
Dean.

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