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Topic: hearing your self-criticisms
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virgotaurustaurus
Knowflake Posts: 1387
From: Fart Ann, NY
Registered: Oct 2004
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posted March 03, 2005 04:09 AM
 
Has anyone tried to do this? I keep reading the one way to stop self-criticism is to hear it when you do it and nip it right in the bud by turning it completely around into a positive...the problem is...I don't hear it in myself. I don't hear in my head, "You are nothing"...it's like I don't actually clearly self-talk like that in my head. So I don't know where it is...or if I even do it the way most books on self-criticism talk about. Maybe it is buried deep in my subconscious...is it possible that i am externalizing it in a way? I do sometimes say, "God the world seems to depressing..." "I hate the way blah blah blah"...Any ideas on how I can dig it out? I wish it was easier for me to hear it all, but I swear I must be burying the self-negativity. It is a huge block to my creative energy and basically my entire life force. I have, over the years, internalized so many bad things people have said to or about me...THOSE do come to my consciousness from time to time. Or maybe I just need to keep working on the affirmations I started today, as they do make me feel better, and just stop trying to dig out the self-criticism since I can't even find it! IP: Logged |
thirteen
Knowflake Posts: 219
From: Rochester Hills, MI USA
Registered: May 2004
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posted March 03, 2005 08:38 AM
Boy can i relate 100% to what you are saying. Virgo is earth and we feel things very deeply. I too feel that my self criticism is carried within, not always a thought in the mind. I think if you do an affirmation and ask for these things to come to you in the form of actual thoughts it can't hurt. Because I analyze the heck out of everything I eventually came to understand the areas that I need to work on. Somtimes during the PMS time I let my mind wander and some nasty self criticism comes out. I let it roll so that I don't carry it too long but I also understand some things now about emotions that I didn't before ( thanks to the eckhart tolle "power of now" cd's i listened to) so i feel i can deal with it better. What i do is just let it have a voice knowing full well that my acceptance of the negative emotions is what will transform them.IP: Logged |
Heart--Shaped Cross
Knowflake Posts: 776
From: north of Boston, MA
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted March 03, 2005 09:39 AM
vtt -I'm pretty hopeful about affirmation work. I hate that there's such a stigma about talking to yourself. All your life, people are looking you straight in the face/eye and telling you what they think they know about you, and those are extremely powerful messages. But how many people ever look themselves dead in the eye (in the mirror) and counter-act the negative judgements about themselves they've accumulated? I'm trying to do this, too, so, i'll let you know how it goes. Unnaturally, but inevitably, the more I need to hear it, the more resistance there is to positive thinking. "That's just pride f--ing with you. F--- pride. You gotta fight through that sh--." - Marcellus Wallace (Pulp Fiction) But, yeah, I wouldnt worry too much about digging stuff up. Just plant good seeds, wherever you are. Good luck, my fellow lunar type. And dont sweat the huge stuff -it'll kill you. Just take it slow.   IP: Logged |
laglady
Knowflake Posts: 131
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Registered: Nov 2004
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posted March 03, 2005 11:02 AM
negative self critisizm doesn't always show as words.. mine are often in words, often reflecting the lack of support i've recieved from my family. recognise that you are capable of creating anything you desire. see that within yourself for a moment. you do know of your tendency to be down on yourself. that's great, recognition of that one trait opens the possibility of working through it.what does the critic feed off of? IP: Logged | |
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