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Topic: I need HELP against backbiting and lies...
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steelrose
Knowflake Posts: 345
From: Spain
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted June 18, 2005 05:08 PM
 
Hello guys,I suspect that someone could be trying to discredit me in the eyes of someone I really like. It is unfortunate because if it is truly happening, I wont be able to do anything to put things right… And it could mess out all the future relationship between this guy and me. One of his friends treated me badly in the past and another one didnt like me much either. I always was fair to them but I know they wont like much the idea of this guy and I getting close now. I guess they wont want to see me often… This guy is not behaving normally towards me… At first I discarded of that posibility, I didn’t want to believe both or one of the two could be so mean to do that… But now, Im starting to fear the worst. There is nothing they could say without manipulating the truth to make me look bad. I never did anything wrong. If someone did was one of them and I got badly hurt. I never mentioned it to him because they are his friends and I don’t feel I have any right to speak badly of them. Its not my place to do that. Not even now I have any proof of backbiting so my hands are tied… He will believe what they tell him… Why not, they are his friends, people who has been around him for very long… Our story was unfortunate and we hurt each other without intending to. I-m just back in his life… We are trying to put things right and get to know each other. But I fear I wont be able to prove my worth and how much I like him and care for him if those two are spreading lies about me… Is there anything I can do to cancel their bad influence? A cleanising ritual? Any kind of talisman? A protection spell? I thought of meditation, maybe I could try to communicate with him… Our charts have powerful connections for communication and astral travel… He used to come and visit me in my dreams but it has been a while now, maybe since the backbiting started, even when I have tried to call him…
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sesame
Moderator Posts: 861
From: Oz
Registered: Nov 2003
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posted June 18, 2005 09:16 PM
Well, I don't know of any magic, but I could give advice  See, I don't want to sound harsh, but sometimes men are stupid, and sometimes ignorant. He probably senses you're innocent but values his friends more. Therefore there is nothing you can do. Even if you talked to him, he could agree and you'd feel like things would be better, but then his friends might start something again. Really, this sounds like a situation "You wanna get with me, you'd better get with my friends". Maybe if you talked to them you could sway him, but do you want someone like that? I think many people are like that though. It's not exactly bad, more of a fear of confrontation or something. If everyone likes each other, then everyone can exist in harmony. To divide the pack is lessen it's power.I truly hope everything goes fine with you,
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steelrose
Knowflake Posts: 345
From: Spain
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted June 19, 2005 06:10 AM
Oh, thanks, Dean...I know what you mean… I think he does sense I’m a nice person and there must be something else they are not telling him… But he is a man of friends… They are his priority, his little world, his fortress… He has been treated badly by women in the past and I don’t think he has a high opinion of my gender even knowing that I’m special. I suppose I’m too much of a gamble if his friends are against me. I understand his position… I’m not sure if this is happening, I just think it could… I only want to know how to protect me behind the scenes, to not interfere… I don’t want to attack his friends, I know they are important for him and I will respect that no matter what they did to me. If finally things go forward between this guy and me, I will do my best to keep harmony. The last thing I’d like to do in this life is seeing one of those two again but I will do for him. I’ll even treat them nicely. I’ll give them a chance. For him. I just want them to be fair with me.
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sesame
Moderator Posts: 861
From: Oz
Registered: Nov 2003
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posted June 19, 2005 07:06 AM
I think you will be surprised Love, like life, is about giving. What you want, you give. I may sometimes be naive, but I truly think that if you go out of your way or make the first step, that the consequences will be favourable. If the friends to see it, the other guy will.Best of Luck,
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