posted May 08, 2008 12:17 PM         

Oka,y so to bring you up to speed after a few more weeks of major tension between the two of us and mostly aimed at me by her it was reaching a head and I basically was persevering to be the bigger person while she retreated and hid like a child who was not getting attention as I chose to ignore her and she continued to make it all my fault. Well, I basically resolved myself that I was more than willing to make a positive resolution and talk with her but if she continued to act like a spoiled child I was not going to feed into her behaviour---for my own sake as well as I have energy that is better devoted to other things and I don't need her sapping all of it.

Well, something has happened that makes me think my consignment was answered. She has sustained an injury that will keep her out of commission for at least 3 months. Now when I consigned her I did nothing to wish her ill will and in fact I was beginning to wonder of I was even heard as it seemed to be taking a while as the tension was continuing to grow and things getting to be unbearable. The odd thing about this injury it usually occurs with a little more force exerted (she ruptured her plantaris tendon while pushing open a gate.)I couldn't help but wonder-since a friend told me "God works in mysterious ways" and I couldn't help but to think there was a divine hand in this somewhere. Because I truly feel this individual needs to learn some lessons, the last time she caused trouble she wound up going out for surgery and was gone from our firehouse for a couple of months.
So anyway I wanted to get you alls take on this situation.

posted May 08, 2008 01:22 PM         

"Instant karma's going to get you" Lennon~~~

posted May 18, 2008 10:09 PM         

Energy is SO simple.

Alot of folks think that they will recieve, good or bad in the direct capacity that they put out.

For instance if someone punches someone else, they may expect to be puched. Not necessarially so!

A former friend of mine, does not treat people well. He lies, he is all about him...

He is loosing his financial capabilities. His once lucrative profession is now almost non existant and he blames others for it. His business deals and ventures turn sour on him..and he blames others for it.

posted June 28, 2008 10:33 AM         

We all exist for the sole purpose of giving and recieving love. If people are not loving towards you and it upsets you, what is really happening is that person is revealing your own unhealed issues. It has nothing to do with the other person, only your own responses. all actions are either love or a call for love. Her unskilled behavior was a call for love and understanding though it may have been warped. How did you respond and how are you responding now?

posted June 28, 2008 11:39 AM         

THE COMPASSION EXERCISE

Objective: To increase the amount of compassion in the world.

With your attention on the person, repeat to yourself: "Just like me, this person is seeking some happiness for (his or her) life.

With your attention on the person, repeat to yourself: "Just like me, this person is trying to avoid suffering in (his or her) life.

With your attention on the person, repeat to yourself: "Just like me, this person has known sadness, suffering, and despair."

With your attention on the person, repeat to yourself: "Just like me, this person is seeking to fill (his or her) needs."

With your attention on the person, repeat to yourself: "Just like me, this person is learning about life."

Variations:

Done by couples to increase understanding of each other.

Done on old enemies and antagonists still present in one's memories.

Done on alien life forms.

posted July 03, 2008 03:02 PM         

when you said this

" If people are not loving towards you and it upsets you, what is really happening is that person is revealing your own unhealed issues."

Is that going along with the concept that this other person is acting as a mirror? And when one says mirror, is it that the other person is mirroring your own actions or acting that way towards you because of what..? your energy, your vibe or...?

What you wrote is beautiful, would you care to elaborate?

posted July 03, 2008 03:25 PM         

Here's a situation that may help understand this better. Years ago I worked with a woman who was very bold, well-paid, attractive, drove a black sports car with black leather interior... Men swooned over her and she thought nothing of swatting them away while she belittled them, she put other people down and made negative comments about what they wore or how they looked, yet she was as charming as could be. and of course I hated her. Couldn't stand her. How could men just love her - If they only knew how little she respected them and went through them like a roll of life savers. This is what I thought. Then one day I got the idea to make a list of why I hated her because I heard that this is good way of seeing how you're projecting. On one side I wrote the title I dislike her because..... She's arrogant, uses men and I'd never do this, makes alot of $, buys herself nice stuff...Then your supposed to erase the title and change it to I dislike myself because.... but the info didn't completely mirror over. I realized I disliked her because she was bold, self-assured, went after what she wanted,treated herslef as royalty and I was pretty mousey back then and wouldn't dare to have the audacity to be so confident in myself. i learned that that is what I needed for myself and I could leave the mistreatment of others out of the picture and still strive to be fair. Strangely after I realized this, I started like her better, and I would actually have some decent interactions with her. I understood that the problem was with my perception of her. By paying attention to what needed to healed within myself, it made more room for understanding and compassion with her.

As to your question is that person acting toward you... your energy, vibe, etc. --- i think it has to do with your own perception picking and choosing to see and experience what you do. You focus on what you focus on because of your own experience and belief system. I work with someone now who is a bully- she warps what people say to some sort of distortion that others are being mean or mistreating her??. She will bark and B--ch like a mad dog. You can hear her chew out someone over the phone in the most unpleasant way. Somehow whatever people say or do gets distorted/ filtered into her own reality. My guess is that she probably feels overlooked, entitled, unsure of herself and was harshly treated by someone. Fortunately things are changing with her and she has been extremely pleasant since she got married. The office is a happier place.She provided many opportunities for forgiveness and not taking issues personally.

Yes, different people show up in your life with the same personality until you are better skilled in dealing with yourself and how you respond to that situation and they will continue to show up even after you learn to deal with the situation because everyone is projecting and has some healing to do. (We all have problems.)How capable you are in dealing with them and yourself will be what changes.

posted July 05, 2008 06:56 AM         

Such love and wisdom here!

posted July 07, 2008 05:39 PM         

You said " I in turn hate the behavior that comes out of her thus it brings me down to a darker level of myself" ... " I hate being put there by others and that is what makes me angry."

What??? What?????where's the responsibility for your own response or views? Did she hold a knife to you and told you how to feel, think and respond? Even if she did hold a knife to you, you are only a victim if you choose to be. Your perception is seeing her in control when you really always have a choice in the matter. You could have shifted your perception of the situation and chose to act accordingly.
I strongly recommend some healing work that focuses on empowerment and skilled proactive behavior. You may want to get the book I recommended above. Unity is a great church that would also help.