posted October 27, 2008 11:12 AM
If a person is not honest with you or is manipulative, then that is wrong.But people should try to show as much compassion as they can, and be honest. If it is getting to much, tell them gently so. If they don't respect that, then it is not your fault; you don't owe them anything. People need to respect each other.
In the past, for example, people may have seen me as a "draining" influence as I have had a lot of stuff to go through.
I have also experienced someone recently who became needy with me in a similar way, but magnified a few times, lol.
The key always, is honesty.
Each person...should always question their motives.
Are they pure? Are they sincere?
Have you been honest with that person at all times?
It is not a crime need help during difficult times, there are just ways to go about things, which are either right or wrong.
It is not a crime to need another's support sometimes, this is called life, and helping others can be seen as a gift in the lessons of love, it can be rewarding, rather than simply being a burden, which on the down side some may feel toward others....but that is a distorted view. The balanced point of view is that we all go through these things sometimes, and we need to help each other in order to evolve. But when individuals aren't being respectful towards others, then one must draw the line somewhere....that is for their sake too, for the sake of spiritual evolution. But there isn't any need to be cruel or unkind. We all make mistakes sometimes. As Tsarion says, the key is to understand, not hate, the "Shadow Self". "Your suffering is your guide".
If you get thirsty, a glass of water will quench your thirst.
If you become ill, the required medicine will help you get better.
If you are lonely, love can heal.
None of these types of needs can heal themselves miraculously; only if you were by some uncanny twist of fate, a magician!
We don't feel ashamed for being human and for requiring food, air and water to stay alive.
Nor should we feel ashamed for the other things we need, such as love, which is what truly keeps us going and keeps us alive.
Only a truly enlightened being can learn to live in a wholesome way without any love from anyone whatsoever; they would be so in tune with their higher self and the Creator that these things alone could sustain them.
But how many of us have reached that point yet....how many of us know someone who has?
I have decided, in life, that we all need something to keep us going. Some "gurus" tell you that enlightenment is "independence", but I would ask them, what truly is independence?
What keeps some people going, who claim to not need anything at all from others, is their path, their research, etc. So what if they were unable to have those things, what if for some reason they couldn't do those things any more and had to lie motionless in an empty room? Would they be able to sustain their sanity through channeling in love from the "source"? Maybe....there are a few who can...but very few.
Surely we come here, into this world, to "do"...and surely this very act of doing is depending on something....the act of "doing".
And as our paths are all very different, what we may depend on will vary somewhat. We are all different, so we have needs which are expressed in different ways. Some people naturally need physical affection more than others do.
I'm sorry, I'm just waffling here....so many thoughts have been going around my head this weekend.