posted February 19, 2010 11:14 AM         

Sorry to hear about your troubles. I'm a pagan and have friends who are witches. Although I don't class myself as a witch I do practice some forms of magic, like candle spells.

Firstly, magic and witchcraft aren't inherently evil. It's the free will of the person using magic that determine its outcome. Eg, witchcraft can be used for healing and improving things, as well for hexes or cursing.

If your husband's ex is using witchcraft to cause you problems then this is of course a very negative form of using magic. And ultimately she will have to deal with the karma she's creating. This kind of magic also stems from the Ego and from fear/pain. That is, she must be in pain herself to raise the kind of energy needed for such magic.

The best bit of advice I can give is to try your very best not to let it frighten you! What I mean is, don't give into the fear. Your fear (or the person at the receiving end of any negative magic) is what gives it its power. If she is using hexes or curses, they'll only work because your fear lets them in. But this isn't about blame of course. Fear is a natural reaction. But you can always choose something else.

Simple acts include laughing everytime a thought about her using witchcraft against you comes up. Trivialise it instead of allowing it grow with fearful thoughts. Visualise gold, blue or white shields (or bubbles) around you, your home and loved ones. If you believe in God or Spirit or angels, etc, ask them to help you and to help her as well to heal the pain and fear with love. You can also hang rowan berries around your house, or at your front door, for protection and burn a black candle to banish negativity. If you can find a black obsidian mirror then place it at a front window in your home to reflect negativity. Finally, things like reiki can really help, as you can return love, which basically cancels out her negative magic.

Hope this helps.

blessings
Johnny