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posted January 09, 2009 02:51 PM         

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The Sun in opposition to Saturn in a synastry chart is:

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In the early stages of your relationship Sun is likely to feel attracted to the mature, steady, disciplined, and responsible qualities of Saturn, but over time these same qualities can begin to feel restrictive, limiting, even oppressive. Saturn can fall into the role of being the parent, teacher, or taskmaster of Sun, causing Sun to feel inhibited and confined by Saturn's seriousness and inflexibility. If Sun can benefit from the responsible and concerned attitude of Saturn and Saturn can refrain from taking problems or concerns too seriously, then the positive sense of maturity, responsibility, and stability of the relationship can overcome the negative tendencies.

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http://www.cafeastrology.com/synastry/sun_saturn_aspects.html

I have this aspect with my SO where I am the Saturn person and the above rings very true for me.
The interesting thing is that I used to be a more lighthearted person and really didn't pay too much attention to mundane details like I do now but all that changed once the relationship developed.
Now I am the always responsible tyrant who takes care of everything.
Anybody else has this aspect with their significant others?
What are your experiences with it?

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posted January 09, 2009 03:22 PM         

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...And most importantly How do you deal with this aspect?

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posted January 09, 2009 04:40 PM         

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Nobody has this aspect?

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posted January 09, 2009 07:52 PM         

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My parents had their saturn opposite my sun, but that would be completely different from your situation. Sorry.

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posted January 09, 2009 08:39 PM           

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I would say, being Saturn, you really ought to be conscious of yourself. It's obvious you don't like your behavior, but it takes extreme willpower to actually utilize it in a better way.
It's not easy to PRETEND a feeling you don't have, and you may very well not feel lovey-dovey all the time with your partner. Consciousness goes a long way, though. Stop yourself if you feel the urge to be tyrannical. Keep your partner's feelings in mind. Treat him like a person, not a dog. Put yourself in his shoes.
Consciousness and willpower are two of the most important things you need to have. Your personal strength will be tested in this.

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posted January 09, 2009 08:44 PM         

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My parents have this aspect with each other.
Talk about repeating patterns...

Good girl, how does that manifest itself in your relationship with your parents?

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posted January 09, 2009 08:54 PM         

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FoL, I agree but it takes a lot of strength to smile and be nice when what I really want to do is ... scream and shout and throw things!
Sometimes I just want to relax, smell the roses and forget it all... but I can't!

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posted January 09, 2009 09:24 PM         

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They make me feel like a kid--LOL!!!(I really make myself laugh sometime-LOL!)

Okay seriously, I usually avoid them, as much as I love them, because I tend to feel they be needy of me. My dad was adopted out by his birth parents at age 8(!!)so he always feels rejected, and I have to constantly affirm that I love him. My mom can feel like such a downer, and makes me feel quilty if I don't stay in regular contact.
My sun is in cappy opp. their saturn in cancer. I end up feeling like the parent. Blah.

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posted January 09, 2009 09:30 PM         

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I've known 2 people closely, 1 whose saturn opposed my sun and 1 whose squared my sun. With both of them I felt restricted and inhibited even dour sometimes. These where two people that I just could not have FUN with no matter what. I would have to have some really good synastry elsewhere with someone to combat the negative vibes I feel from this aspect. I had a hard time even being friends with them.

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posted January 10, 2009 05:56 AM         

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It's glue in a relationship - my parents have it, and I had it with my ex-husband (his was Square my sun though). It's not pleasant and smooth all the time, but really, look at the whole synastry whole-istally if you want to make an evaluation. Taking a single aspect out of context isn't going to show the overall tone of your relationship. What are the other good aspects, what else is going for you. As Saturn you're being hypercritical of both yourself and the relationship maybe?

Saturn needs to lighten up, and the Sun needs to give Saturn more appreciation from time to time.

And it also depends on the signs Saturn and the Sun are in, Yin.

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posted January 16, 2009 11:08 AM         

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Thank you all for the feedback.

FoL, you said:

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Stop yourself if you feel the urge to be tyrannical. Keep your partner's feelings in mind. Treat him like a person, not a dog.

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There are many days when I feel not appreciated for all I do for "the family".
It's tough to rise above the bitterness.

MyVirgoMask, you make a good point:

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Taking a single aspect out of context isn't going to show the overall tone of your relationship. What are the other good aspects, what else is going for you. As Saturn you're being hypercritical of both yourself and the relationship maybe?

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Well, I'm sure we do have positive aspects as well. The aspect I originally posted about is the one I think I'm feeling the most of lately.

Below is our synastry chart, I am on the inside.

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posted January 16, 2009 11:50 AM         

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In the synastry above it doesn't show the aspect I've been talking about but you can see it in the tables below. I wonder why that is. Anyone?

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posted January 16, 2009 01:58 PM         

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Could somebody explain to me why there is no aspect line between the Sun and Saturn in the chart posted but then I see an opposition listed in the table above? Pretty please?

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posted January 16, 2009 02:05 PM           

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possibly due to the degree. 6 degrees.

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posted January 16, 2009 02:10 PM         

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So it wouldn't be a true opposition then?

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posted January 17, 2009 01:10 PM         

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posted January 17, 2009 07:33 PM         

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it doesn't show in either chart. there's venus oppose saturn and mercury square saturn...it might those aspects you're feeling.

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posted March 03, 2009 02:26 AM         

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I have this aspect with Mr 23, I am the Sun person. Yes, I'm the less serious one, he seems to be the more serious one doing all the financial decisions etc. I call him "Scroogy Man" as a joke. I feel that my life has tied me up and restricted me but at the same time, there is a feeling of permanence and stability. This is a common long-term relationship aspect I feel.

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posted March 03, 2009 04:45 PM         

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23, just wanted to let you know that I feel I was forced into this scroogy role and had no choice in the matter. It was either buckle up and take care of the finances or everything is going to hell!
I secretly desire to be free and careless but feel that I can't allow myself that!
So maybe your husband feels the same way...

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posted March 03, 2009 06:30 PM           

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is this similar to moon opposite saturn? just curious..

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posted March 03, 2009 06:59 PM         

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posted March 03, 2009 07:09 PM         

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I had a square with my ex on Sun-Saturn. Basically, not nice. He was too calm and quiet for me.

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posted March 03, 2009 08:36 PM         

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23, I read your response before you took it down.
I am sorry this is going on in your life. Hopefully things will get better soon.
This is the point when I throw astrology out of the window.
{{{hugs}}}

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posted March 04, 2009 03:37 PM         

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Yin - the reason why I deleted it was because it was too much personal information. It annoyed me how you seemed to give the impression that Saturn suffers (a remark based on my "Scroogy Man"). Whilst situation at the moment is out of control, even when it gets better, I will still be at the hostage of his desires and career. As a Sun person, I have had to essentially give up WHO I WAS and this is a PERMANENT change and is essentially the effects of the aspect. Oh btw, he goes to bed at 8.30-9pm regardless if he is working or not, which is where the name originated from.

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posted March 04, 2009 07:15 PM         

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