posted January 27, 2009 10:49 AM           

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Synastry chart:

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posted January 27, 2009 10:58 AM         

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maybe it's his saturn squaring ur sun? wouldn't be the first time someone used that metaphor for heavy saturn influence on a personal planet

q: were you guys friends before you started dating?

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posted January 27, 2009 11:06 AM           

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I thought about his saturn squaring my sun also but surely that can't be the only reason?

P.S: He is my husband and we've married for almost six and a half years. The "restrictive" feeling had began to surface only a couple of years ago.

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posted January 27, 2009 11:13 AM         

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you mean he is clingy or party spolier?

for clingy i can explain, sun in cancer and moon in libra (and most of planets in western hemisphere, can make him clingy and dependent

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posted January 27, 2009 11:27 AM         

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your need to break free might also be connected to transiting uranus conjuncting your moon. transit saturn was also squaring your sun so that probably added up to feeling trapped, maybe lifeless

that could be another reason you might feel suffocated

natal moon pluto conjunction probably makes him a very intense person

also jupiter transiting your seventh house might make you reevaluate the marriage perhaps considering divorce

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posted January 27, 2009 11:28 AM           

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clingy yes - but i can deal with that.

He's a wet blanket by being overly worrisome. He has trouble letting loose to allow himself have fun and it's affecting me because I don't feel right letting myself enjoy myself when he's not. When with him I feel safe and secure, and I like that. But I also feel like he takes away all the energy and enthusiasm that I have inside of me... so much so that I feel like I need to take a break from him.

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posted January 27, 2009 11:35 AM           

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natal moon pluto conjunction probably makes him a very intense person

also jupiter transiting your seventh house might make you reevaluate the marriage perhaps considering divorce

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Between him and I, I am probably more intense... but that's probably due to my moon in eighth.

I'm not thinking divorce.. but more along the lines of needing to get away from him every now and then to avoid the pessimism and over-cautiousness that i find draining.

on anotehr hand, isn't jupiter transiting seventh indicative of good luck?

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posted January 27, 2009 11:38 AM         

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it's all that air and then the pisces moon

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posted January 27, 2009 11:43 AM           

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can't say i disagree with you lara!

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posted January 27, 2009 01:14 PM         

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isn't jupiter transiting seventh indicative of good luck?

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i found it has connection with divorce on several cases i observed over the past few years. i also read that somewhere, unfortunately i can't find the exact article i was referring to

this will have to do:
Jupiter transiting 7th cafe astrology.......
Relationships and partnerships benefit from expansive, warm energy, difficult relationships may be absolved, and/or successful new ones are entered into this year.

source: http://www.cafeastrology.com/jupiter_transits_houses.html

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posted January 27, 2009 01:32 PM         

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Sun in Cancer with Moon conjunct Pluto in Capricorn's House. That's enough to do it.

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posted January 27, 2009 01:58 PM         

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Sun-Saturn square is enough. The Sun person feels squashed, squelched, unloved, not good enough from the Saturn person.

Also, just his Cancer sun could get wet-blanket-y.

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posted January 27, 2009 04:00 PM         

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I agree - Saturn square Sun can definitely be insidious too. I've felt very similarly with this aspect...it starts off as a feeling of security and feeling supported, and it's not that it really goes away so much as starts to feel restrictive.
You're right to take some time to yourself to refuel and regenerate. The energy you put into the relationship doesn't come from nowhere, it's energy inside you which needs to be fed and refilled, otherwise the well runs dry and you get resentful about how drained you end up feeling.
So it's good to take the time to yourself and refuel

What does your composite look like, out of curiosity?

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posted January 27, 2009 10:29 PM           

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Thank you everyone for your responses.

AG: I always thought that his moon conjunct pluto in 10th reinforced his ambitious nature and impeccable work attitude... but your interpretation makes sense in light of our relationship.

MVM: Thank you for your kind words.. now i feel less like a terrible/sefish person for wanting more out of this relationship.

Here's our composite chart:

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posted January 27, 2009 10:57 PM         

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I've noticed in composites that planets in the 12th can be a problem at times, because it's kind of like in a natal chart when there's a planet in the 12th...it's hiding, or in some way we discard it. So, Saturn in the 12th/ Saturn rules boundaries/limitations, maybe even personal ones...maybe it feels hard to draw boundaries within the relationship?

I'm not so great at reading that...I can see Saturn square Venus and the Sun. I'm not going to call it a deal-breaker because Saturn aspects are often prominent in long term relationships...but it also is Saturn in Virgo, and Virgo represent personal service and healing, and a level of privacy...
Is that making sense at all? Because it is to me a little

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