posted February 04, 2009 10:15 AM         

"Why buy the cow when you get the milk for free"

Why should he committ is what you should ask yourself? Why is there any need?

Take yourself away and see what happens. If he doesn't bother contacting you then he was never going to committ in a million years.
If he contacts you but says he is still wary then say firmly "Thanks but no thanks I deserve better"
What women are failing to grasp is the biology of men. Most are not programmed to committ but to take it where they can (yes there are a few wonderful exceptions)but that's how it is.
Women are.
So it boils down to who is the stronger. If he thinks you are a worthy female and there is a possibility that some other male will snaffle you from under his nose he will committ in a heartbeat.
If he thinks you are going to keep hanging around occasionally whining "Why can't we???? but not going anywhere, he will quite simply not see the point.

Committment issues my a**
Having your cake and eating it is what it's called.
Pure biological programming is what it is.
Become the Alpha female,the desired one.
Sorry to be blunt, but you did ask.

posted February 04, 2009 11:55 AM           

Bunnies: the issue here is It started with I was the one who had commitment issues and he was dying to get my attention until I spelt it to him that I liked him but I still can’t get over my ex and he asked me to take my time about it but he’s definite about getting commited to me. Now it turned all the way round when I started to give him care and attention. Now I broke up with him but deep inside we both know that we both like each other a lot! U’re not blunt, this is the right decision to take that I am acting on right now but its been a while and nothing has changed but I guess its time for some girls tricks now! Thanks a million

Coralbird:I’m looking basically for the 1st,why should we be apart in the first place since we both like eachother!!this is too freaking insane and drives me nuts. We only have been together since last November (on and off style bec of that issue!!)

posted February 05, 2009 06:38 AM         

As an Aquarian with a Pisces Venus, I'm one of the latter. I don't think of game playing when someone I'm dating tells me things. Generally I think they're being up front, why would they need to lie? It was only when I went through a Pluto square Venus transit that I was aware of game playing and played a little of it myself. But now that that period is over, I'm back to my old "take it as it is" self. You might end up confusing the hell out of him. And that's not a good way to start a relationship.

If you want to make an Aquarian needy, this might be a good path to take (game playing). But Aquarians DO NOT LIKE FEELING NEEDY. They would rather cut off ties all together than feel like a pathetic powerless wretch. I dated this guy who confused the crap out of me. It lasted 4 miserable months and finally I found someone else who was RELIABLE and UPFRONT because I hated how pathetic I felt.

posted February 06, 2009 01:17 PM         

Me personally, I'm not committing to anyone who I feel isnt qualified to be my 1 and only. And I'm not trying to sound smug when I say that. I mean, I want to know what the other person is about, at least enough so that I would be compelled to commit or not. You can't possibly get to know a person that much in a short time frame.

If someone is rushing you to commit, then it is likely thy are insecure and immature when it comes to relationships. Whoever said all it takes is love to make a relationship work told a HUGE lie. It takes trust, cooperation, communication, and many other dynamics. It takes time to see if the other person fits the criteria.