posted February 15, 2009 10:33 PM           

MOON OPPOSITE PLUTO: This aspect indicates a fertile relationship: a great energy links Antonio and Melanie and the sexual attraction is also intense and rigenerating. It always indicates a therapy for both the partners: one makes the other change without any intention. This is an extremely intense relationship, often determining a dependent feeling, even in a positive way.

posted February 15, 2009 10:55 PM           

Relationship astrology, or Synastry, is a very complex study. I cannot go into too much depth in this column, but you did touch upon a very important aspect in the synastry between your chart and that of your partner: Moon Opposition Pluto.

With an interchart aspect in synastry, the person whose outer planet (Jupiter, Saturn, Uranus, Neptune, or Pluto) is forming an aspect with the other's personal planet (Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus, or Mars) generally "holds the cards", so to speak, in terms of how the aspect will play out. Still, the person whose personal planet is involved plays a part as well.

In the case of you and your partner, your Moon opposes his Pluto (this is a very tight aspect, and thus especially significant). Your partner wields plenty of power over your emotions, and he will need to deal with this "power" constructively. You are certainly not powerless, and you can do much to help ease the situation as well.

When somebody has a planet closely aspecting our Moon, our basic sense of emotional security is affected. With his Pluto involved, your emotional security is very much tied up in him and you can feel somewhat emotionally dependent on him as a result. You will be especially vulnerable to any mood swing on his part, sometimes giving too much power to him because you feel somewhat like the child in the emotional chemistry between the two of you. This sensitivity can render you quite vulnerable to emotional blackmail on his part, simply because he may see your sensitivity/dependency as a weakness rather than a strength.

Your dependency on the relationship may ultimately weaken it, as he will have a keen awareness of your need for him. If he is not handling the energy well, he can easily take the upper hand when it comes to where your relationship is going. Something about him makes you feel insecure, as if part of you feels the relationship will end without warning and against your will. He makes you very aware of your own emotional dependencies and insecurities. His desire to control you stems from fear. You react emotionally in your relationship with him, and he cannot help but know how to "push your buttons". Whether he uses his finely tuned awareness of your emotional psyche to help you or to control you is up to him. However, it would be wise for you to examine the emotions that this man brings out so effortlessly. Know that what he pulls out of you is PART of you, and that he can help you to heal some of your deeply seated wounds. He may not do this directly, but through your relationship with him, you will get in touch with the insecure child inside of you. Be aware that the more you acquiesce to him, the more emotionally dependent on him you become, the greater his tendency will be to want to maintain that control. Remember that it is not him as a person that is making you feel dependent--he is only a trigger for what lies within you. If you can learn about yourself through him, instead of thinking of him and your relationship with him as the answer to your problems, then you will be in a better position to control your own life.

What we tend to do when our personal planets are in strong aspect to the Pluto of significant people in our lives is to give our power away to them, thus opening ourselves up to manipulation, confusion, and dependencies. Learning to regain our sense of individuality and strength is vital to our own mental/emotional health, as well as to the health of our relationships.

posted February 16, 2009 12:20 AM           

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MOON OPPOSITE PLUTO: This aspect indicates a fertile relationship: a great energy links Antonio and Melanie and the sexual attraction is also intense and rigenerating. It always indicates a therapy for both the partners: one makes the other change without any intention. This is an extremely intense relationship, often determining a dependent feeling, even in a positive way.

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posted February 16, 2009 12:36 AM         

so i dont know which one is the reason
power struggles, emotional manipluation (by me )....i am blamed to be controlling (well sorry i cant help i am a leo and i hv to boss arnd)....at points obssessive in a scary "cant let u go, no matter what" way ...lost without u...sort of...and it all me