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posted February 25, 2009 12:32 AM         

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...but, BEFORE you can tell whether they're attracted, too?

And what's your Sun/Moon/Rising/Mars/Venus, including houses?

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posted February 25, 2009 12:50 AM         

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I act confident (it's not until the middle of the relationship that I turn into a dork) and happy. I have a knack for knowing what they will be attracted to and then I try to emulate it. Scorp sun - house 11 / Pisces moon - house 3, Sag rising, Venus in sag in the first, mars in the tenth in Virgo.

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posted February 25, 2009 01:00 AM         

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I'm more of the type who tries to stage chance encounters, definitely observe them and see if there's some interest or hobby he has that I can pick up on and casually bring up later like I didn't know he was even aware of it. The idea is to make him feel a spark with me then surprise him with the fact that I feel a spark too.

Sun is in Libra, 5th house and conjunct my Mars. Moon is in Virgo, 4th house. Venus in Scorpio in the 6th...Ascendant in Gemini.

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posted February 25, 2009 01:06 AM         

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I don't throw myself at the person at first and am kind of shy/aloof. I try to feel them out from afar at first. But if I become comfortable or get to know them well enough I become talkative, jesting, and even a complete goof off. I don't take myself as seriously as I usually do at this point. Not saying I'm ditzy though, no way Jose...ROFL. I like to *attempt* to dazzle my prey.

Cancer Sun/7th conjunct DC
Virgo Moon/8th
Cap Asc.
Aries Mars/3rd house
Gemini venus/5th house

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posted February 25, 2009 01:08 AM         

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posted February 25, 2009 01:10 AM         

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I like the way you work, Wal... Lol

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posted February 25, 2009 01:38 AM           

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It depends. If i don't know him well, I act like i'm not interested until he shows some sign in wanting to be friends, then I start opening up and talking more, and try to see if our hobbies and interests mesh well. Basically I try to be as engaging/communicative as possible, and I try to be a good listener.

If that guy is already a friend, and I sense that he likes me too (at least as a friend), I'd take the initiative to talk to him more, ask to hang out, just always be there for him whenever he needs me.

Oh, and when I like someone (platonic and romantic), I can't help but touch them alot.

The whole "friends" thing can be explained by my Sun/Venus wide conjunction in 11th house, that has Taurus on the cusp. I also have Mars in Taurus(singleton in earth) in 10th house which makes me slightly cautious before expressing my feelings. Taurus also makes me more sensual/touchy in my expression of attraction. Moon in Pisces in 8th adds intensity and sensitivity to how i approach love relationships. The sign on the cusp of my 8th house is also Aquarius, which goes back to the whole need to be a "friend", and have common interests and goals in life.

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posted February 25, 2009 01:40 AM           

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I get NERVOUS and have a hard time talking without blushing and going ummm alot. Not very suave, unless there is drinking involved, than the blockage loosens up. You'd think I'd be more suave with Leo Sun in the 8/9th and Sag. Asc. I suppose Pisces moon in the 3rd tends to make self awareness superior.

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posted February 25, 2009 02:12 AM         

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ask ME about it, when i feel attracted to someone, I DON'T NOTICE!

i start to realize it when the other person also shows some sort of interest in me and when we are actually getting intimate i wonder, "did i like him since when??"

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posted February 25, 2009 02:15 AM         

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oh sorry. here's my placements

Sagittarius Sun -1st
Aries Moon -4th
Sagittarius AC
Leo Mars -8th
Sagittarius Venus -1st

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posted February 25, 2009 02:46 AM         

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I kind of just admire them from a far and make eye contact with them. I don't make moves and I don't say anything. I wait for them to come to me. Then I talk to them and flirt a little. I don't really make my intentions known. I generally try to befriend them first.

Rising: Gemini
Sun: Aquarius (9th)
Moon: Libra (5th)
Mars: Sagittarius (6th)
Venus: Pisces (10th)

It should be noted that my Venus squares Saturn and Uranus, with Saturn/Uranus opposing my ASC.

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posted February 25, 2009 03:49 AM         

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I do everything I can to not show that I'm attracted... I'll try to have as much contact with them as I can, but I will always make sure I have a GOOD excuse, other than personal interest/attraction. And I basically hate myself for it, I'm super duper insecure when it comes to guys I'm attracted to. They might even have been interested back, but I would never find out. Therefore I've always ended up with guys who have been actively pursuing me, and then it will end bad because I don't really like them...

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Cancer Rising 21'44
Gemini Sun 1'33
Libra Moon 18'39
Taurus Mercury 16'36
Cancer Venus 15'15
Gemini Mars 4'28
Sagittarius Jupiter 6'39
Libra Saturn 28'55
Sagittarius Uranus 7'20
Sagittarius Neptune 28'33
Libra Pluto 27'14

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posted February 25, 2009 05:11 AM         

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I am useless. First, i don't notice unless they hold a sign up... then l become a wreck telling myself things like "i can't eat a whole MEAL in front of them!!!" and l panic.

Usually they don't notice although it takes me quite a while to warm up to them and show my true self.

I am like this at parties too... either l dance by myself or l just side with a couple of people and am quiet. I don't want the attention and get l do want to be noticed for my individuality.
i'm just weird !

No idea what AC is so can't tell you houses, sorry.

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posted February 25, 2009 08:40 AM           

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I freak out, then I try to make eye contact. I almost never do the first move.

Cancer Sun-11th H/Cancer Moon-10th H/Cancer Mars-11th H/Gem. Venus-9th H/Virgo ASC/Leo Merc.-12th H

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posted February 25, 2009 08:44 AM         

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I get very shy,blush,...I have to make a conscious effort not to mess up/get stuck in my speech when talking to them. I might not even talk to them because of excessive shyness. I have a long history of social anxiety.

Sun in Scorpio in 2nd
Moon in Pisces in 6th
Virgo Rising
Mars in Aquarius in 6th
Venus in Scorpio in 3rd

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posted February 25, 2009 09:36 AM         

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when I am VERY attracted, but they havent signalled any interest yet, then I try to hide my interest as much as possible. Often I just ignore them. Not a very good strategy, but it's almost like I switch into autopilot, it's almost like I cant help it. I'm flirty and charming with men that I either have not interest in and feel very comfortable around. Or I am that way when I am attracted, but the man has already clearly indicated his interst. I blame the aloofness on too much saturn in my birthchart.

cancer rising
sun in capricon in 7th
moon in virgo in the 4th
venus & mercury in capric. in the 7th
mars in sagittarius in 6
saturn in cancer in the 1st
neptune in 6
uranus in 5
pluto in 4

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posted February 25, 2009 10:15 AM         

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This may seem like a lame answer but I am myself when I like a woman. I try to initiate conversation (meaningful). But first and foremost, before I initiate convo, I have already did as much observing as I could. I then tailor my approach to what I think the type of person she is.

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Virgo Asc 6˚& Mars 0˚
Gemini Sun 24˚
Libra Moon 14˚(conjunct Pluto 0˚ in 2nd house)
Gemini Mercury 25˚
Cancer Venus 29˚ (Mutual reception with Moon)
And yes, i'm a guy!

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posted February 25, 2009 11:42 AM         

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Sun: Aries 6th House
Moon: Sag 2nd House
Rising: Scop
Mars: Aries 5th House
Venus: Pisces 5th House

When I am attracted to someone. Which doesnt happen all that often. I usually can't look them in the eye for long periods of time, because I feel that it is obvious that I have a crush on them. And I feel so embarrassed by whole situation. There is usually so much emotions, and energy whirling around that I won't out of there prescence, or there attention for periods of time so I can have a break. I find myself deliberately avoiding them in a social setting. I really dislike that initial stage. It is like a rollercoaster ride, very exhilirating but when you have a Neptune Venus it can easily be just as dissapointing in the end and who has time for that!

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Scorpio Rising
Moon in Sag
Aries Sun

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posted February 25, 2009 12:02 PM         

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oneruledbymars,

are you a girl or a guy? When I read your placements I would have bet that you'd be someone that is very direct, so it is interesting that you display such avoidance behaviour in the initial stages.

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posted February 25, 2009 12:14 PM         

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I am a guy. And I am very direct after that initial stage.
But I have a Pisces Mercury and Venus. And I think that just waters me all down initially. Romantic love is intense for me. I just find myself giggling, flirting and saying very witty things that make them laugh, trying to be sexy and then I end up completely embarrased because its like someone took over my body for a moment! lol . Especially if I find them extremely attractive, I turn into a "girl" so to speak. And I get so fustrated with myself that I have to get away from them. Its hott mess! lol
So I guess its not that I can't speak to them, its the fact that I become so totally enamored by them.

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posted February 25, 2009 12:17 PM         

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phorrr we likey direct... well i do cos otherwise i'm none the wiser and i never make any move on a guy.

After he's kissed me, well then my evil twin emerges and rips all his clothes to shreds, and lighting forest fires all over his mind and body

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posted February 25, 2009 12:24 PM         

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Lara you made me think of something.
Maybe its my Sun in the 6th house that adds that quality of shyness.
We certainly are some shy little Rams! lol

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posted February 25, 2009 12:25 PM           

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Annaf,

I wonder if what you describe above is a typical Capricorn trait. I know a Capricorn, and that is exactly what I get when I am around her, yet around others she is more open, laughing, etc. Almost feels like she acts as if she doesn't like ME in particular, even though when it is just the two of us talking she is different.

I don't understand it, since it is the complete opposite of how I react. If I am interested, I don't try to hide it. I'll initiate action (Sun/Mars in Aries) and communication (Venus/Moon in Gemini).

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posted February 25, 2009 12:30 PM         

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yes One Ruled by Rams... AND we love any word beginning with ram
lol

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posted February 25, 2009 12:38 PM         

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hey Aloof, good to see you hear...we've exchanged PMs on this topic on astro.com

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