posted March 21, 2009 11:58 PM           

If possible, also say a bit about whether the relationship is a successful/happy one, and anything else notable about the relationship that might be helpful to know.

And lastly, if you know how to include asteroids, please include the following --

1221 - amor
1585 - union
3811 - karma
1388 - aphrodite
433 - eros
16 - psyche
3 - juno
447 - valentine

So far, I've noticed that maybe 80% of long-term relationships that I've looked at have hard aspects between the sun/Saturn or Mars/Saturn. Occasionally easy aspects, but usually squares or oppositions... I'm wondering if that trend will continue when looking at a larger sample size.

posted March 22, 2009 07:44 AM           

we have moments of extreme happiness together and get along better than with anyone else, and then we switch to wanting to murder each other and wanting each other out of our lives. although there's a lot of love between us, and i don't think i could imagine my life without him.

posted March 22, 2009 08:04 AM           

Ok the 1st one is of me and bf ( together for 2 years and 7 months).

We love eachother deeply and for now we live a long-distance relationship.

The 2nd chart is of my brother/gf - they live together and are in relationship now for 5 years.They do get along great,and there is much love and care.She wants to have a baby now.(their time birth is unknowned)

the 3rd onr is of my parents.(his birth time unknowned)

They are together for 45 years old now.
they passed through very hard times,and great ones.Although i know they cannot live without each other,there are times when they get mad at each other like crazy.

posted March 22, 2009 08:19 AM         

I know it's not my thread but i'm interested too in aspects

posted March 22, 2009 08:21 AM           

Here's a Synastry of mine, the most "marriagelike" relationship I ever had. (Me = woman on the inside / He = man on the outside),

Lasted 9 years, we shared a household/appartment, made future plans, etc.

Positive/supporting factors: "Friendship" was the basic glue - we supported each other strongly, especially in our professional endeavours. We granted each other much freedom - and there was a great dose of moving/roaming around (due to professional reasons - one of us had always been working abraod for a certain amount of time.) Still today, about 5 years after the break-up, we carry warm feelings for each other, no dsirespect, never, no mind games.

Negative/eroding factors: The "erotic fire" was overpowered by "friendship/family"-feeling too quickly - especially from my perspective. Additionally, I felt as the one responsible for "earning the money", I felt burdened with having to care for my partner and to support him in very practical ways (money included). I started to feel like a "parent"/teacher in a way ... and that became too overwhelming, some day. Besides, we didn't share sooo many interests/hobbies, and over the years, we sort of drifted apart a bit, as far as our individual perspectives on life were concerned, our tastes and likes. I was the one who wanted "more, go higher, move faster". He was more "down to earth", in a way. (Look at the Saturn-aspects! His Saturn squaring my Sun, Mars, Mercury - that made me feel so responsible, it also made everything quite stable and reliable for a long while - but, at the end, I fled from this "burden"!) It was me who left - I had the plain impression that we had "learned all we can learn" from each other and that it was time to move on, so that both of us can gather more experiences. He wanted to stay together and have some kids with me, though. When I left him, he said something like: "I'll miss your gudiance" (Guess this might be due to my Stellium in his 12th house...)

I truly believe that we were "made for each other" - in a way, that we COULD have settled down and lead a soothing, friendly marriage, peacefulness stamped all over it. After all ... I had/still have too many "ants in my pants", so that I was/am not ready to lead a life like this ... Too bad! I believe that many other marriages are founded on similar dynamics that we had. I just don't trust myself enough. I am ... (still) too hungry, in a way.

Even though I didn't manage to find a substantial new love since then ... I didn't regret the break-up - never. I really "love" him still today - but really in the sense of "friendship". I am thinking too big ... he would feel pressured to keep up with me, I'd feel bogged down, in a way. The beautiful thing is: We both recognized this. And we speak honestly and openly about it - just laugh about it and accept it. ;-)

posted March 22, 2009 12:02 PM           

I'll add a few of my own in case other people are interested in this, too...

This one is for my coworker and her husband; they met in high school and had crushes on each other, but never went out together -- then a decade later they met back up, went on one date, and have been happily married for many years now:

This is my parents -- married 25 years, very rocky, they bicker constantly... but they love each other and can't live without each other.

posted March 22, 2009 04:18 PM         

My ex and I (2 1/2 years)

posted March 24, 2009 03:33 PM         

this is me & my boyfriend's synastry chart. 10 years of relationship, 3 years living together, 6 years on a long distance relationship and last year we finally began to live together again.

i am really curious to see if it is of any help, i never had anybody reading my synastry chart.