posted March 23, 2009 05:07 PM         

I just shrug it off, because it takes more than that to shake my belief system. Obviously you've shaken hers in some way, and that is what she's reacting to. Could it be she saw a little truth to all your astrology?

posted March 23, 2009 06:48 PM         

Anyway. Also reminds me of something I heard from Alan Watts recently, about how it's weird people in various religions sometimes seem hell-bent on saving us, but when it comes down to it, if they really think we are damned or need saving, they want nothing to do with us!

posted March 23, 2009 08:14 PM         

Tell her that the three wise men were Magi... http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Magi#MatthewMagi

Anyway, there is plenty of room for God in astrology. Many people who practice astrology also call themselves Christian.

I don't know what to say, really. It kind of offends my sensibilities. It's not Christianity that's the problem, it's narrow minded judgmental people who want to feel self righteous about something stupid that's the problem.

posted March 23, 2009 10:47 PM         

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Your daughters view makes so much more sense.

BUT, I do not see that it is as a lame execute. She has in fact found a very good way to break the ties permanently because she knows you will never leave astrology. So, in a way, she is wanting to tell you that we've got separate paths in life going forward. You are going to be married and will have your own life. I also don't see this is a Jealousy.. but rather a need to Withdraw and find some time with one's own soul when new transitions occur in life.

posted March 23, 2009 11:27 PM         

Astrology just describes our personality and points out our strengths and weaknesses so we'll know how to improve our behavior and relate better to others. It's also helped me become more understanding of others. As long as you don't use astrology to try to predict the future, then I don't see how it conflicts with Christianity.

I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. Just give her time and later on point out that Christians are supposed to love ALL people. She shouldn't be judging you. Only God is allowed to judge. I guarantee you there are things she believes or has done that are not very Christian.

posted March 23, 2009 11:57 PM         

I think you're daughter is right. You and I are the same age and I'd find it incredibly strange that a friend I'd known since high school would all of a sudden need to have space because of astrology. One thing I have learned through my astrology practice and therapy is that people you never even considered can be jealous of you. Your own parents can be jealous of you. Jealousy directed toward you can be abusive.

Anyway, I believe your daughter that this woman can't bring herself to say that she's jealous of you, it's a whole lot easier to act like God and judge you for astrology. Insinuation is an incredibly powerful tool, it forces you to defend yourself and there's no way that you can win. This is what she has done to you.

My suggestion is to give her the space she needs, no matter what her excuse is. She probably needs to work through a bunch of feelings. She may not have even identified her feelings as "envy" or "jealousy". How often have we all seen on TV shows where one character tells another, "My goodness. Your jealous." And the jealous character replies, "Jealous?! You're crazy. How could you call me jealous!!"

It's just not something that people admit to when they are first accused of it. We deny and stay in denial about it as long as we can stand it.

I have a feeling that she may be back after Venus retrograde is over. After a 17 year friendship, it's not so easy to walk away.