posted March 31, 2009 07:47 PM           

thank you

posted March 31, 2009 08:04 PM         

Also, look at his current transits. Also remember that Venus is Rx right now, so it's not a great time for a lot of people. It may just be a temporary problem you guys are having.

Aries on the MC shows he's very much about doing things his own way.

Do you know if he had a tough childhood? Some of the 4th house stuff seems like it might be stressful.

posted March 31, 2009 09:14 PM           

he is kind of unpredictable... and that's both a good and a bad thing... it's kind of like my venus in aries would be very bored with him if he wasn't that way... but my taurus ways want me to feel secure in love...

i really hope he's not the manipulative type... he doesn't seem that way but sometimes i wonder how honest he is with me... does he look like he could be prone to temptation? i sometimes wonder if he's ever been unfaithful to me...

yes you're right, he is my boyfriend and i should know him best... but im also extremely idealistic about love, having quite a few pisces neptune influences... so sometimes it's hard to tell if i'm facing reality or just looking through rose-colored glasses...

posted March 31, 2009 09:41 PM         

I would definitely say wait it out until Venus goes direct, and you'll probably get a clearer idea of what's up with him.

Check his transits, too.

It's good to hear that you have some Neptune influence yourself, since it looks like he does want that in a woman (with his Moon and Venus there in the 12th, speaking of the kind of woman he likes), and also that your Venus in Aries likes an element of unpredictability.

posted March 31, 2009 10:08 PM           

well... other than the obvious venus rx... he does not really have any major transits going on... pluto conj. neptune... but that's it... however... it does look like he has some really nasty personal planet squares and oppositions happening almost every day for the next few weeks...

i'm away at my mom's for two weeks... and so i guess since we live together it may be a good thing that we're spending some time apart... while he's having these astrological events going on...

is it just me or is just one thing after another?! (astrologically speaking about the transits) lol

posted March 31, 2009 11:09 PM           

i know you must be busy, so it would mean a lot to me if you looked into it a little bit more.

Thanks again!

posted March 31, 2009 11:50 PM         

I don't really know if Uranus peregrine like that in the 5th would mean cheating necessarily. Like, I have Uranus in aspect only to my moon, an opposition, and a lot of people would say that would maybe be a cheating aspect...but I've never cheated, and I'm 35, so there goes that theory !

I have dated a guy with Uranus in the 5th and he cheated a lot. I dated another with Uranus in the 5th who was completely opposed to cheating, never would (as far as I know).

I think Uranus in the 5th can be tricky because they do find themselves in 'odd' situations romantically....complicated ones. That might or might not include cheating.
It's hard to tell....Uranus is there by itself, not making an aspects. It's definitely a 'wild card' when it's without aspect...can come out in any way, but particularly a 5th house way, which can mean romantically, or even artistically.
But I just noticed his Uranus is also Rx, so it might not be bad as that. Maybe it's less pronounced since it's restrained somewhat.

I wish I could say for sure....sorry
I don't really think there's a way to tell 100% but I do think he's got the chart of someone who can get away with it IF he wanted to do it....that's a big IF though.

posted April 01, 2009 12:13 AM           

Venus Square Neptune

Rocky and unstable relationships could now crumble, or you may
look elsewhere for emotional and physical satisfaction.
Therefore secret love affairs are now possible. You may also now
choose to escape into the past as a welcome relief from the
problems and responsibilities of the present. Postpone major
financial decisions until stability returns into your life.

posted April 01, 2009 12:47 AM           

He is a very happy-go-lucky guy, maybe because of a Jupiter singleton? and he's never had issues like that nor has he ever witnessed someone going through something so severe... on top of the depression i also have PMDD which makes me UNBEARABLE to be around when im on my period... all of these things have strained our relationship to a degree even though he was very supportive and was there for me every step of the way...

then venus went rx and it all went downhill from there... we both say that we really want the relationship to work and understand that's not going to be easy... but nothing worth it ever is... and then we moved in with his brother who is a genuine "woman-hater/genius at manipulation" who was constantly trying to get scott to break up with me... scott made his decision not to because he said that he's sick of taking the easy way out all of his life... apparently he's known for always taking the path of least resistance...

the part where it began to get kind of fishy was when he told his brother because it would be "easier" that way... that when i go out of town i would be gone for good... and so he kept the secret from his brother and actually just told him today the truth... but he went as far as taking all my clothes and trying to find a storage unit for them so his brother would not think i'm coming back!! his explanation for this is that he wanted to give his brother some time while i'm away to make peace with the fact that i'm coming back and maybe him and i could find a place of our own.

he drove me all the way to my mother's house (5hrs away) met my family, and hung out with me for a day... so that put my mind at ease a little bit but...

before he left this morning he was IMing and i asked him if it was his brother and he said that it was somebody else... he usually doesn't say that... he usually says "my friend so and so..." and then he was very quick about exiting out and shutting down the computer... i had noticed him talking to some strange girl that he's never told me that several times before... even though he's told me countless times that he's not looking for anyone else... he's found the person for him... and that if he didnt want me he'd just flat out tell me...

idk... that incident with the IM made me kind of suspicious...

posted April 01, 2009 02:07 AM         

I don't know what to think of the IM, but it seems to me, with the way things are for you right now, I can see it being easy for you to think he might be cheating or getting ready do, even if he isn't. The relationship is not in a secure place, and neither are you (with the living situation), so no wonder you feel up in the air. When it's like this, anything seems possible, and worst case scenarios are going to be easy to to consider.
So just try and relax for the next few days until you see what's going on. It's not just cheating that's the issue right now; it sounds like his brother is the major problem right this second. Scott sounds like he's got some serious choices to make, and I hope he makes the right ones and just takes charge of this situation instead of the 'easy way out' (I must admit though: what he's doing is skirting non-confrontational and difficult, and he need to take a stand so that your confidence in him will increase....his ability to handle stress and conflict sounds like it's problematic.)

posted April 01, 2009 02:22 AM           

he says that he's happy with me... and he is going to try to work it out b/c i have the qualities that he looks for in a person and that he accepts me and cares about me a lot... and knows that it wouldn't be easier with anyone else... and that he does not want to be like his father or brother... both single... his brother 2 years older than him... only had 1 gf... and his dad 45 and still single as well...

i dont mean to treat you like a relationship counselor lol but i just don't know what to do... i mean we're both committed to making it work but i dont know how long it will take to make the relationship stable again...

and the reason i thought of infidelity is because... well... that transit... the whole thing with uranian energy that he has... me gone for 2 weeks... idk... i am just thinking the worst probably... he's told me in the past that he sees cheating as definite grounds for breakup... he sees it as betrayal... that kind of thing... so at least we're on the same page...but it's like we've already taken so many blows... and we've made it thus far, although things are a little rocky....

posted April 01, 2009 02:52 AM         

Advice...hmmm. Sounds like you two have you hands full. I admit, it sounds like the males in his family haven't been the greatest of role models. Granted, I don't know much about his father, only that he's single from what you've said. But it also seems like there's no females which have been present as any kind of role model to look at for the female model. That does make it hard for him I think. I think this is why I was looking at the 4th house. It seems like he's the emotional one in the home front. He provides a level of emotional 'stabilization' to an extent. This might be another reason why his brother doesn't want to 'share' him.
It seems like Scott can be highly intuitive .... but yeah, one of you guys needs to 'lead' right now to get things rolling, and it seems like a new thing for him, so he's definitely in new territory, trying to make things work and not run away, and being dedicated. Sounds like he wants to break a pattern, and I think that's admirable, so I think it's good.

It seems like you guys (especially him) are being tested to MAKE things stable....and he wants to try. So this is a big test here, and time will tell. The next two weeks are all about him, since there's so much he has to do. All you can can really do is let him know you're there for him in case he needs your support. That's really all you can do at the moment. Give him hope, stand back, and watch what he does, because time will tell. I'm sure he realizes this though; it sure sounds like he knows. It looks like he doesn't feel very good about the situation, and is probably feeling rather self-conscious about it. And it does seem like it's important for you to SEE him take charge of things, to exert some kind of authority over things so that he can deal with conflict in the future too. It's a test of sorts you two are going through.

posted April 01, 2009 03:33 PM           

his father is actually a very good man... too good according to scott... every woman he's ever dated has walked all over him... and another detail... he's from WV... and from what i see when it comes to women... it's slim pickings... so that does not help...

but yes you pretty much hit the nail on the head with him being very intuitive and his brother not wanting to share him b/c of "stabilizing" quality...

posted April 02, 2009 11:56 PM           

i tried to do a composite chart online but i dont know if it will do me any good since i'm not 100% about my exact birthtime... also my ascendant is libra but astro.com calculates that it's virgo... have you ever had any issues with that website if you've used it? anyway... just trying to take your advice... please let me know if maybe there's a reason for the ascendant change...