posted April 05, 2009 03:10 PM         

Oh, and let's clear one thing up in advance: I don't cheat
I've probably given away a fair amount in other posts, but I am curious what can be seen from my chart alone.

posted April 05, 2009 10:19 PM         

How lovely - you have mutual reception between your Venus & Mars, and even Moon!

With Venus in Scorpio, you probably tend to have a mysterious, sexy, seductive air when you turn on the charm. Mars in Taurus makes you pretty straightforward in how you go after what you want - very practical, down-to-earth, and you probably don't quit until you get what you want. Moon in Aries must give you a fiery energy emotionally, and it must feel healing to you to express it (with Chiron sitting there)!

Your Sun in Virgo probably makes you gravitate toward the ambitious, serious perfectionist types, though your 7th house is in Scorpio - your Venus likes the dark, mysterious types! I see a quincunx between your Sun & Moon - some push & pull between your basic drive and your emotions?

That sound right?

posted April 05, 2009 10:25 PM         

The opposition suggests you may be temperamental in relationships, that it would help to work on taming the expression of fiery emotions with your partner, for better balance, more harmony in the relationship.

The T-square to Jupiter probably leads you to excesses - may make you extravagant with your affections and perhaps finances too. Moderation will help.. You probably resent being forced to do what you don't want to do (though this is probably true for 99.9% of us!) A partner who puts a planet across from your Jupiter (around early degrees of Leo) will make you feel comfortable with the T-square energies.

You also have Neptune in 7th - may need to make sure you are seeing your partner / the relationship clearly as you tend to idealize. There may be a strong psychic link to your partner and others in general (probably what makes you so empathetic!)

posted April 05, 2009 11:41 PM         

And...WOW, Sunshine! You totally got it right....all of it. I'm completely blown away actually

Yes, I can be highly temperamental....lots of emotions, lots of need to express them (in a fiery way, not always 'nice'). It's hard to get out the feelings without going overboard, I must admit. I do feel oddly purged of something when I express those feelings. I try to get them out constructively, but sometimes it's not right, and sometimes the partners are not expressive at all, so it's hard to deal with.
I do lean toward excess in my affections. As in, let's spoil this person rotten and spoil them for anyone else .... I can be a huge sucker when I'm in love, lavishing attention and just completely excessive with my love demonstrations.

Interesting observation about Leo. I find Leo males very comforting always, and they're like the only sign I trust. And I've never been involved with one seriously, or tried. One guy I am kind of seeing now is a late Leo (double Leo) with early Venus and Mercury in Leo too (makes nice aspects to my Jupiter)...it all feels rather easy, which is weird for me. I like that Leo energy a lot...find it oddly comforting and stabilizing. I never realized that it had to do with the T-square....wow. I'm curious, why Leo?

Yeah, the Neptune stuff is very heavy for me. I do tend to idealize and need to keep my eyes open because I really have a hard time seeing things clearly once the love feelings bubble up lol.
It is heavy duty empathy on my part, sometimes to the point of draining.

posted April 06, 2009 12:44 AM         

I'm so glad to hear it makes sense - I was trying to flex my astro-muscle!!

The reason I suggested someone with planets in Leo is that T-squares tend to create some nervous energy in a chart - you have planets at the 3 points, and it feels a bit unbalanced and open-ended, unlike a easy Grand Trine configuration. It may be your biggest challenge and the source of greatest growth for you. Synastry can help balance tense aspects in our charts, and a person who puts a planet across from your Jupiter, squaring your Mars & Venus, and completing this open configuration will help provide a sense of balance to that T-square. It won't necessarily be very easy, because a planet at that point will also be involved in a T-square with your Mars & Venus - meaning, the relationship with him, while it won't take away your individual life lessons, will enable you to resolve them in a more supportive atmosphere. That planet will also be opposing your Jupiter.. (the guy you're seeing - do his Leo Mercury/Venus not oppose your Jupiter? They could quincunx it though, being in late Leo..) If you wanted easier energy, check to see if he/a potential partner has planets in early Cancer/Virgo/Capricorn/Pisces as they could also help you work through the T-square with fewer challenges. But then again, growth is always good, and it's not like we get to choose who we may fall in love with!

So, leaving alone supportive aspects coming from synastry, I also look for natal aspects that may help resolve tense configurations, and deal with placements that may be tough to handle. With your Mars-Venus opp., you do have another planet aspecting them - Saturn in Cancer - he sextiles your Mars & trines your Venus. That means expressing your Saturn will help you balance your Mars & Venus energy (your Saturn Return was probably a turning point in that sense; was it?)! Saturn represents discipline; perhaps it indicates that reining in those fiery emotions a bit and thinking it over before you let the emotions influence how you act/speak/spend - not always, but when you sense a inner struggle happening - may help. That could aid in alleviating any discordant energy brought about by the opposition, and will help you in situations where your temper wants to flare up or you may want to be unnecessarily extravagant, for instance (I have similar issues, MVM; I go overboard when I'm in love AND I have Neptune issues too though mine are about having a nebulous sense of self with Neptune in my 1st squaring my Venus! *cringe* )

Looking at your Neptune, you have sextiles to him from Mercury and Jupiter. So, I think what will help keep you grounded in a relationship without being carried away (by the Neptunian energy), is communication (Mercury) - it helps you through that sextile! And you do it well too - your Mercury is in Libra helps you express yourself so eloquently (as I've had the chance to note!) That makes sense on a logical level too - communication helps dispel confusion.

Do you do anything in particular to ground yourself from the drain on your psyche? Perhaps identifying yourself too strongly with your partner is the challenge represented by the Neptune in 7th; it can make it hard for you to see him clearly as a separate individual if you're feeling his feelings too! I know there are a few crystals out there that can help ground you - I believe amethyst is the one that is recommended for psychic grounding, though I'm far from a crystal expert. Do you wear any crystals on your person? You could also carry them with you, keep them under your pillow or just near you when you sleep.

Sunshine

posted April 06, 2009 01:24 AM         

I do have amethyst somewhere around here, I need to dig it up. I have a bunch of crystals I never use lol...should use them again, I was for a while, they were starting to help.

I don't know what I was thinking. I was looking at my Pluto sextile his Venus and Mercury, not my Jupiter which, indeed, does oppose those planets (along with a wide opp. to his late Mars in Cancer)....yes, we do have the Venus/Mars square. He's got Saturn is Pisces but it's late, like Cancer Mars.
My Saturn does make some nice semi-sextiles to his Venus and Mercury, and even his moon. I was looking at my own T-square with the aspects at the bottom to Saturn, thinking of a connection....and there you've made it clear

It's too bad I have to leave so soon, I do get along great with Mr. Leo. Here he is doing me huge astrological favors and I am getting ready to go (see, my Neptune is kicking in already, making me put him on some little pedestal LOL)....ahhh, maybe I'll get lucky again, who knows. In truth we have very little in common as far as personal interests (our Venuses square too), so I'm not sure it would even last anyway.

posted April 07, 2009 12:49 AM         

I was wondering if you'd moved yet - I thought I remembered you saying end of May. I'm sure you will meet someone just as nice as Mr. Leo in CA, if not much better! I have a feeling a fresh start will be great for you!

I totally understand Neptunian issues - mine makes me want to be everything to everyone to the extent of sacrificing my own interests and getting totally lost in a relationship, to the point that every so often, I find I have little sense of who I am and need to take time out to rediscover me! This break from the Pisces has been helpful that way, but he didn't let me wander too far off before he started trying to get me back, lol!

Moments of solitude would probably be good for the both of us (and anyone with Neptune issues really), and crystals can help ground us. I'm now wearing a couple that an astrologer prescribed.. I don't know if it's the crystals or whatever else, but despite all the uncertainty in my life, I'm finding I'm happier than before! I read up on them a bit, and I think amethyst is the primary grounding one to use..

I guess, seeing the effect of Saturn on your Mars-Venus opposition, it is understandable that your Saturn Return helped you achieve more of a balance between those energies, when in most cases it may stir the pot. You sound like such a happy, confident, assertive person, you're a joy to know! It was my pleasure to try to help in some way..

posted April 07, 2009 09:48 PM         

Koi...yes, that sounds like me LOL

posted April 09, 2009 05:23 AM         

I'm not sure I have too much to add to what's been written except my ability to relate to parts of your natal. I also have Neptune in the 7th aspecting (quincunxing) my Moon in the 12th. I also have Saturn in the 3rd. I can definitely relate to what you said about Neptune since I've been consciously working on my Neptune issues for a while now.

One thing I thought was very significant is the yod you have with Jupiter, Neptune and Saturn. As I understand it, to work with the energies of a yod, you use the planet or point (or house) opposite to the planet at the apex of the yod. In your case that would be Saturn.

The thing is that since Saturn is conjuncting your South Node in Cancer and your North Node is in Capricorn, I would imagine that this might make North Node issues a little more complicated/confusing for you...?

It's even more interesting since Saturn rules your 9th and 10th houses and Jupiter is part of the yod.

Basically, I'm wondering how this all plays out for you. Since the point opposite to the apex of your yod is, in fact, your North Node, then this point seems to be highlighted for you.

Do you have an easier time 'balancing your Saturn', after your Saturn Return? I also notice that your Lilith conjuncts your North Node. This would seem to indicate that those deep, feminine energies play an important role in your growth as well and are possibly one of the keys to your destiny.

I can see how it might be very healing to spend time in your presence with all those 6th/12th house placements, plus your Sun in Virgo. And then with your North Node in the 9th that would add to the role of teacher/healer.

Cheers to one 7th house Neptunian from another!