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Topic: question to all scorpios and not only, help!
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tevzebi777
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posted April 09, 2009 05:35 AM
well, here is my story. I am a fish boy and been in relationship with scorpio for 4 years. it is imposible to discribe the mistery and magic between us, so i won't. but on fabruary 2009 i ended the relationship based on things like he was iresponsible, he thought i was too much for him(i'm one of those upstreem sweemers). anyway, the major reason was that i thought i was not in love with him and that all was based on bast sex ever in the world and wordless understanding of each other. so now, he left, and i find out that not only i'm in love with him but i just can't go on , can't live, can't breath.
now i know i hurt him a lot. and i know him. and he dosn't want to talk with me, see me , or anything, and i know he loves me. he taled me so at least thousand times. i want him to forgive me, i want him to come back. it is tha love story that you guys may be read in books. he has to forgive me. i would.
so now my dilema is . what to do? how make it heppen? should I sit back and let him think and wait? or should i shoud i show him how much i love him? i'm ready to do it every day every minute.
i'm suffering deeply. i know he does too. i know he wants to teach me lesson, or may be heis over me.
please don't judje me and tell me that i got what i deserve. i realy did not know that i loved him so much.
please , scorpios , my darlings, help me, give me advise. i want to make him heppy , i want him back, what to do? what to do? IP: Logged |
scorpio90
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posted April 09, 2009 08:11 AM
im a scorpio, and my advice to you. . .is prove that you love him. keep proving and ask for him to take you back, i know he is hurting and he wants you back. tell him exactly how you feel, what you said in this post. we have trust issues, so keep proving and proving, even the little things and scorpios always know when your being sincere, so he'll know you are not faking it. when us sorpios get rejected it does take alot for us to move on. as we usually ever move on is when we cut off a relationship ( all or nothing approach). he feels the same as you. but you need to do anything in your power to show that love for him, to show that he wasnt a toy that you throw away when your bored. thats how i think he might be feeling. if he doesnt move an inch, keep going and keep pushing yourself. he'll admire your consistency to do whats in your power to get him back, and im sure that he'll reconsider. best of luck
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songwriter
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posted April 09, 2009 08:23 AM
This explains my situation too. I'm also suffering deeply and want everything back!! But I know that nothing can ever be the same again. Everything is either over or better. How can we make things better in such a situation??I'm very curious about the answers. 
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koiflower
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 09, 2009 08:30 AM
Ouch! This is not the first time I've heard this happening. Some people don't realise how much they have grown to love someone until they break up.I know being with someone a lot, and absorbing their energy, can be very draining - enough to want your old self back - enough to want to drive them away. This is a lesson that nobody ever really talks about. How do we 'test' our love? some people just break up and a broken heart is the result. It's usually the person who gets dumped, but it's also sad when it's the person who ended it. I did the same thing when I was 22. I left someone (for all the right reasons). But I didn't realised how much in love I was with them until I left. Then they ignored me, and I hurt even more!!! Love is an addiction, of sorts. So a type of approach toward an addiction may be a way toward healing, eg. Live one day at a time, write your feelings down, talk to close friends about it. I hope you are able to talk to your ex-lover. It would be great if you are both able to talk about the good times you've had. Love to you  IP: Logged |
Jugular
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posted April 09, 2009 09:45 AM
As a Scorp myself.... I know I would reconsider if the person who broke it up wrote me a gushy letter apologizing and declaring their love and asking for another chance. Something like "i don't know what came over me but I realize I was foolish" would help !!!! Be consistent in your efforts...I agree that should work. And good luck to you.IP: Logged |
gert
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posted April 09, 2009 10:34 AM
Wow, I know that you say you love him and all but have you ever truly examined why you love him in the first place.There must be a reason(despite your fickle and changeable nature hahaha) that made you end it in the first place. Maybe you could see that this relationship seeks to overwhelm and control you more than build you? Good sex can make you feel extraordinarily connected to someone and loved. I know this because I fell inlove with a Mars in Scorpio which formed a conjunction with my Venus. Gawd...I thought I'd die without the dude.He, on the other hand , was very casual about it. The feelings haven't completely gone away; which could suggest that we could have been good for each other, but he wasn't ready to reciprocate his feelings. But over time you deal with it and it becomes less intense. Now, it could be that your feelings are still intense and you long for that "connection". But note to self...being unable to "live" with someone is not a sign of love but one of obsession. Anything that requires us to "need" it cripples our internal growth making us needy and incapable of being self sufficient. Give it time, you do survive. The tragic thing is that you'll have to realise that not everything that comes to you like a meteorite is "love", that is the big wisdom I am remembering now. IP: Logged |
tevzebi777
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posted April 12, 2009 12:53 PM
thank you everyone for responding and great advice. IP: Logged |
Jazzebel
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posted April 12, 2009 01:23 PM
you are a fish...you will always love him when he is gone and unavailable, and ignore him when he is all over you. Fishes basically love in suffering. If it is smooth and happy - it ain't love...IP: Logged |
LEXX
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From: Still out looking for Schrödinger's cat.........& LEXIGRAMMING... is my Passion!
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 12, 2009 01:52 PM
tevzebi777..you are a guy?
Also may I inquire as to your age and Mr.Scorpio's age?
I am also a Scorpio.
It would take some extremely unusual circumstances for me to let someone back into my life if they left me. Odds are no. And if I left them...definitely never.
And unlike most Scorpios, I detest jealousy.
I find it illogical and would drop anyone immediately who was jealous...or never bother in the first place.
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A show of envy is an insult to oneself. ~Yevgeny Alexandrovich Yevtushenko
The jealous are troublesome to others, but a torment to themselves.
~William Penn, Some Fruits of Solitude, 1693 IP: Logged |
dsmitchell
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posted April 13, 2009 11:54 AM
Speaking as a Scorpio....If he has decided to leave for good, you will never get him back, ever. Some Scorpio decisions are final no matter how painful to himself and you. Maybe he just needed to isolate himself and get his bearings. If so, you may have a chance. Sorry to be so negative about your situation, but I'm giving you the best opinion I can based on my own personal knowledge of being a Scorp. If he's made up his mind that it is over, you need to prepare yourself to move on.Best regards dear IP: Logged | |
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