posted April 14, 2009 04:15 PM           

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I am a cancer female 07/08/1981 and my childs father is a virgo 08/31/1979. We split up 3 years ago but weve always seem to be drawn back to each other on that intimate more than just parents. Weve tried again at a relationship but theres been this little annoying aquarius hanging around at every turn willing to be the side chick... willing to do whatever. It worked for awhile bcuz I went about my business. Now he finally dumped her and were seeing each other more. She has reverted back to her usual tactic of trying to be his cool friend so she can work her way back in sexually. Weve already discussed a future together with marriage and stuff. But she just wont goaway. Shes very ignorant... i have watched him with my own two eyes tellher hes not in love with her and that they have no future together but she wont give up. He has played these back and forth games when we were going thru the years but now he affirms that he's done with that. what doyou guys think of this.

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posted April 14, 2009 06:22 PM         

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Well it could be two things. Firstly, it could be a very persistent Aqu lass that has a very long memory and is very agile at mind games and is treating this as a competition with an unwinnable prize, or secondly, it could be that she is detecting something in him that shows that he is still interested and that maybe you aren't seeing.

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posted April 14, 2009 07:08 PM         

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Frankly, the one thing you two have in common with one another is him. I'm suspecting he must still be keeping her around and telling you one thing and her another. Not saying you shouldn't trust him per se, but he WAS at one point sort of seeing both of you.

Idk, do we play mind games?

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posted April 14, 2009 07:24 PM           

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Yeah he was.... til i stepped off and focused on my career. Now i'm done with that career move... He let her live with him bcuz she was "homeless" and she let him stay with her before when we were going thru issues and his financial fell off for a while. He said he had to return the favor. He did just that so she cud get on her feet and then he just moved out in february. She currently still drives his car that is paid for while he tries to sell the car he pays a note on. He says he let her drive it bcuz he cant afford to pay for both cars. He is scheduled to take the car from her in a few weeks and told her that she needs to get her own car or she will be back on the bus. She does treat this like a game/competition. She tries to out wait me and says shes gonna always be around. I left the triangle bcuz he was double dipping. I was the girlfriend and she was the side piece and doing tricks bending over backwards begging him to sneak by while i was at work. Like i stated i left and then we started being at odds amd then she moved right on in for the home run. Now that he cut her loose and she can no longer come around the family... she drives by and sees us together at the house and she calls or text. he says shes a cool person.... he just wasnt in love with her and didnt want a future with her bcuz she was psycho and always fighting him. drama filled. loved to do the domestic violence thing. she really is crazy... he says he stryna break away from her without all of the drama.... on a neutral note so she doesnt try retaliating.

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posted April 14, 2009 07:31 PM         

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Well he has to break off cold then if he really means her. Lending her stuff or her having his major possessions indicates some sort of relationship there between them. The stuff keeps them "together", understand what I am trying to stay? This is beyond astrology now. This simply love warfare. Until he does something drastic to really prove that he's not interested, she will still hang around or otherwise, as I said before he's putting out signals of interest that you might not detect.

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posted April 14, 2009 07:32 PM           

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So I guess my question is do you guys think that I'm getting played? do you think I shud proceed with this? Under what conditions/ terms? What would you suggest my actions be? Do you guys know anything about aquarius females?

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posted April 14, 2009 07:37 PM         

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Well I don't know if you are getting played, I'm probably on the other side of the planet and can't see what is going on. However, until this possession issue is sorted, then you won't get a clearer glimpse of what is going on.

As for Aqu girls, I am one and so is Amowls. As for her hanging around, Aqu girls don't "pursue" like that unless she is really interested and is very sure that she is getting signals. I will tend to ignore and act cool. The fact that she hangs around and acts cool indicates a definite interest and possibly one that she can materialise and has already in your case.

As for your case, it's hard to say. Maybe you should let him know that you are still interested but maybe not get romantically get involved. However, there might be two results to that; 1. she may get him back; 2. the situation involving him and her will be resolved and you can move on with him only. We don't know what his intentions are so it's hard to say. As one woman to another, don't hang around if you think he's going to play you. If you do, then you really don't have any self-worth.

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posted April 14, 2009 08:02 PM           

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Thanx 23.... I dont think im gonna get played. I think she has this obsession with trying to prove that she is more important than me. He always drops whateva he's doing to come to do whateva I need and she always tried to find things to make me and him argue and turn us back at odds again but it wont work. She thinks he puts me on a petal stool. He has told her that he is not marrying anyone but me or having kids with anyone but me. He disrespects her in a way that he does not disrespect me and it ****** her off. I know this from voicemails that she's left for him. Shes always tryna out do me and be ME. She never cooked until she found out I did and she went out and bought cook books and like the critical virgo it still wasnt good enuff for him. She has tried dressing like me>>>> So sickening. She is trying to get a career in law enforcement like me now when she never had the interest. Its like she sees all the things that he brags about with me and she tries to mimic my every move. At first i was flattered but now im disgusted and annoyed. I know for a fact that she is hanging around on some other ish. But he said he wasnt getting back with her and this i overheard when he didnt knwo that i came into his granmas house while he was in the bathroom on the phone. He blatantly told her that he was not in love with her and that there was no future for them and that he was just being nice tryna look her out and let her use the car. But its nice now so in a few weeks you can catch the bus if you still dont have a car. So i do think that he's trying to severe all ties but i guess he just doesnt know eaxactly how to ago about and dont want to be bothered with the drama and the aggravation. She really does get psycho>>> she has no respect for authority so she will show out and not care about the cops being called. I wudve stepped off again if i felt like he was about to play me.... like i stepped b4 when he was playing the back and forth games. But i think its diff this time bcuz weve matured and he has calmed down from the cheating lifestyle and focusing more on getting financially stable and spending lots of time with me and my son. My thing is i'm not about to just step aside like I did before bcuz i think its diffrnt this time around and then she will try to move in when i leave that space. bcuz when im in the picture she doesnt get acknowledged. Our cordial relationship grew back into the loving one we once had before... hence the reason he felt the need to move out on his own. I told him he need some time to breathe on his own.... not in a relationship but single for awhile to make sure that he's ready bcuz once we tie the knot i dont have time for the bullcrap.... so right now we are building bcuz things got really ugly btween us and we now finally got the love back out in the open

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