posted May 03, 2009 09:51 PM         

He's wonderful, treats me better than anyone ever has, is generally considerate and really thoughtful. We're both divorced. He doesn't have any kids. I have one 10 year old that I share custody with. My boyfriend is great with him.

Here's the thing! I am not used to being with someone that doesn't want to marry me right away or doesn't want to jump in immediately. Not to sound weird but usually I have guys all over me and nuts over me. Brian tells me he loves me and we have plans for the future but there's a wall there sometimes and it confuses me. He's terrified of marriage after his last one. He talks about having kids one day but the next day he's scared crapless.

When we are together (about 50% of the time because when I don't have my son I am with Brian), I am his goddess. He cooks for me, makes sure we have entertainment, makes me drinks, pampers me, etc. We 'click' perfectly. We make each other laugh. We're constantly cuddling, watching movies, going out on the ocean, etc. When we are not together he is on IM with me all night, sending me emails, etc. Right this minute he's sending me texts on my phone telling me he misses me and that I put witchcraft on him. But when we're not together I get blue and 'doomsdayish'. I get really moody and then I start questioning what he really feels for me. I think that's just my issue but who knows? I really can't imagine NOT being with him. That would be unimaginably horrible.

I just wonder what our charts say or if anyone can cast some light on things.

posted May 03, 2009 10:09 PM         

I was also going through a Pluto square Venus transit at the time so that made me extra crazy.

posted May 03, 2009 10:17 PM         

Do you think the bad moods and stuff you're talking about when you're not together is like doubt about his feelings? I'm sensing it might be your Saturn square Moon that is causing some of this too.

Have you done a composite yet? Would you mind posting it? It might give a better idea about the combined energies.

posted May 03, 2009 10:26 PM         

But then he makes jokes like if we drive past a wedding on a weekend he'll say "ack - I should tell them to run" and then I get annoyed and confused.

posted May 03, 2009 10:28 PM         

My mom told me today my birthtime was 14 minutes different than I thought it was.

posted May 03, 2009 10:33 PM         

Yeah the Mercury/Uranus square might be the annoying stuff too when he says stuff like that.
I do think he's seriously considering marriage, otherwise he wouldn't be batting around so much, going back and forth. Sounds like he's testing out in his mind.
Possible that he's wanting a reaction from you also. Testing to see how you react.

With all that 12th house stuff going on in his chart there's probably an added level of elusiveness.

posted May 03, 2009 11:09 PM         

And his ears must be burning or something because he's been texting me nonstop the past hour telling me how much he misses me and that he's addicted to me.

posted May 04, 2009 12:55 AM         

It also seems that his father was missing somehow, even if he was home, his father may not have taken a very active role in his upbringing. If his father did take an active role, then he was extremely tyrannical.

There may be something public about your boyfriend or well known about in, there's some kind of publicity related to him or his relationships.

I agree with MyVirgoMask when she says that there's issues of freedom with him, especially in terms of romance.

I'm not saying that he won't ever get married again, but it's very important that you don't resemble his mother in anyway.

That's what the chart suggests to me so far without having a had a conversation with him. I hope things work out with you both.

posted May 04, 2009 09:20 AM         

That's amazing. He has parental issues. He's actually really not close with anyone except me.

His mom was divorced when he was fairly young and he's resented all her dating and men coming in and out of the house. That's partly why he's so mindful of my son. He won't spend the night here if my son is here (even after all this time) and he really tries to set a good example of an adult man for my son. Luckily, that's always been important to me. I never wanted Hunter to meet random guys which is why he's only met Brian.

When his parents got divorced, his father was pretty much gone until he was in his late teens. They work together now but they aren't close.

I think it's a little strange to him that I am so close with my mom and brother even though they live elsewhere around the country.

Public? Well his current business deals with the public in a way. He told me once that he used to be told to run for some local political offices but he never went that route - thank goodness.

At any rate - I don't think there's much of a chance of me being like his mother. I've talked to her a little and she's quite nice to me but Brian has told me before how differently I do things from her.