posted May 15, 2009 06:50 AM            

(is mostly asteroids tho rather than planets/asc..is that just as effective?
thanks)

1st rule : my ASC trine his eros--1 degree

2nd rule : my NN conj his venus 0 degrees

his moon conj my psyche 2 degrees =10
his valentine sextile my valentine 1 degree=10
his psyche trine my eros 0 degrees=10
his juno conj my psyche 0 degrees=10
my ASc trine his eros 1 degree=10
my mars trine his psyche 2 degrees=10
his venus conj my NN 1 degree =5
his valentine sextile my nn 2 degrees=5
his moon conj my psyche 0 degrees = 5
my juno trine his union 0 degrees =5
my mars trine his psyche 2 degrees =5
my mars sextile his moon 2 degrees=3
his sun trine my pluto 1 degree=3

total = 91

posted May 15, 2009 07:19 AM            

It also seems to be not all that rare to have a result of 50 points plus, I think we found out that a result of about 100 was more realistic.

In your case it seems to be avery romantic soulconnection (Eros, Venus).

Personally I think it would make a difference if the high points consist of Moon-NN-Amor or Venus-Mars-Eros aspects.
In the first case it could very well be "only" SOULmates, in the other case it would be pretty romantic as well.

IQ,

posted May 15, 2009 08:19 AM              

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DD... it could be very romantic...if he wasnt on the run...sigh. but he must be missing the connection somehow since he s sort of talking to me again despite the fact that he still lives w her- not even a 30 on the SM calculator!-

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posted May 15, 2009 08:23 AM            

DD, I am satisifed with my calculator in say 80% of the cases but not satisfied with my calculator's performance in extreme cases. One extreme case is Lara who is on a thunderbolt karmic path and is attracting many soul-mates from past lives, so far none have been as happy as the scores ought to suggest. Am still hoping she finds a real Man who knows how to cherish a woman.

A pragmatic approach would be to check the strongest love Asteroids/Planets in the chart and then give more weightage to them.

I have done some work on this but it looks like an Algebra textbook...

I would also suggest doing Lexigrams and Numerology check as these show strong bonds between soulmates.

Alia, your connection looks good. In my professional readings, I also look at Draconic to Natal, Natal to Draconic and Draconic to Draconic check for the core love asteroids to enable a thorough reading.
For one client I even checked Heliocentric to Heliocentric. Sometimes a perfect reading comes just from the Sabian Symbol of the couple's composite Valentine!!!!

You too must make such an exhaustive check, it may take 3-4 hours but it will be worth it.

posted May 15, 2009 08:38 AM            

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If hes running away, I wouldnt too concerned about calculating if he was my "soulmate" plus hes with another girl..why are you bothering?

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writesomething,the running is typical of soul connections. read the story of fiona and robert.
http://stevegunn.net/blog/blog1.php/soul-shock-a-real-soulmate-story

posted May 15, 2009 08:46 AM            

yes the "running" part happens, but not everyone who is running from you is your soulmate, or even if he is, he may not be meant to be with you, at least not now.
Maybe he has some karmic lessons to learn with other people or on his own, and probably you also have your own karmic lessons to learn or things you have to experience, BEFORE a real merging can take place (if it is meant to take place at all; sometimes soulmates are not meant to be together).

If you are meant to be together, yoiu will be together, at the EXACT right time, if not you won`t, no matter how good the astrology looks.

Personally if you wanted my advice (I know you didnīt ask for it), I would not count on him coming back.
There is a reason he is with that other girl now.
He may be with you in the future, that is definitely possible, but there are no guarantees, and you deserve to be happy NOW.

The thing is you can wait for years for something that might never happen, no matter how strong the emotional connection is.

I think it`s best to keep on loving him and staying open, but without clinging to any kind of excpectations.
Just moving with the flow of life. If it`s destined, you will end up together again. If not, nothing in the world can make you be together again.

posted May 15, 2009 08:49 AM            

what would you say are the strongest love asteroids/ planets?

posted May 15, 2009 08:58 AM            

you`re a fast learner.
It took me almost 20 years to learn the same lesson. *sigh*

I never understood, why he was popping up in my life again and again, no matter how hard I tried to detach from my feelings.
But that was exactly the problem.
I am not meant to detach from my feelings.
I was meant to accept that I have t hese feelings about him and that I sort of "love" him and that that is okay, but I also had to accept that we are not meant to be, and that even though there may be some sort of connection, we are not meant to be lovers. I am meant to set him free with love, and in that process I would be free myself. No expectations, no dreams, no illusions, you know?

posted May 15, 2009 09:12 AM            

i ll tell you hasnt been easy.

oh well i ll grow stronger!!

posted May 15, 2009 09:17 AM              

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I never understood, why he was popping up in my life again and again, no matter how hard I tried to detach from my feelings.
But that was exactly the problem.
I am not meant to detach from my feelings.
I was meant to accept that I have t hese feelings about him and that I sort of "love" him and that that is okay, but I also had to accept that we are not meant to be, and that even though there may be some sort of connection, we are not meant to be lovers. I am meant to set him free with love, and in that process I would be free myself. No expectations, no dreams, no illusions, you know?

It happened last year. Finally I got that lesson.
I feel better than I have ever done before.

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posted May 15, 2009 10:08 AM            

But I donīt want to be misunderstood. I didnīt put my feelings in a box and am sort of waiting, until I can get them out again, and I am not feeling frustrated or resignated about this (anymore).
I really accepted it, which also contains knowing an feeling that he is not the right one for me.
And I don`t regret that anymore.

posted May 15, 2009 10:29 AM            

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One extreme case is Lara who is on a thunderbolt karmic path and is attracting many soul-mates from past lives, so far none have been as happy as the scores ought to suggest. Am still hoping she finds a real Man who knows how to cherish a woman.

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oh shucks IQ, how sweet are you!

A REAL MAN - you said it.
High scores and deflated relationships urgh
I thought Gun Man (the one l had that valantine/NN DW and amazing synastry with was a real man but i'm not holding my breath!

posted May 15, 2009 10:34 AM            

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One extreme case is Lara who is on a thunderbolt karmic path and is attracting many soul-mates from past lives, so far none have been as happy as the scores ought to suggest. Am still hoping she finds a real Man who knows how to cherish a woman.

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oh shucks IQ, how sweet are you!

A REAL MAN - you said it.
High scores and deflated relationships urgh
I thought Gun Man (the one l had that valantine/NN DW and amazing synastry with was a real man but i'm not holding my breath!

posted May 15, 2009 11:14 AM            

theoretically I agree with your system, IQ, but I really can`t understand how I can have such high scores with celebrities.

I looked at two examples of celebrities and also at two with two colleagues of mine:

Jude Law: 127
another actor: 136
- in both cases the first rule is fulfilled

With my two colleagues,w hich I definitely like, but neither of them is soulmate-potential:

1st colleague: 103
2nd colleague: 96
(in the second case there is a Valentine-Karma-conjunction as well as Eros-Pluto-conjunction plus Venus-Union-conjunction)
- in neither case the 1st rule is fulfilled, so I think I shouldnīt have looked any further.

But I have been looking at 4 synastries, and in every case the score was higher than 50; and if this happens in my synastry, it will happen in the synastry of many other people, too.
So I think at least the score has definitely to be modified.

Besides even if someone on a "thunderbolt karmic path", I think an astrological theory should also work with them.

posted May 15, 2009 02:17 PM            

I think, though, oppositions and squares should be counted, and sextiles not. But perhaps that's because of the way my natal Venus is aspected, I tend to pay more attention to hard aspects. IQ, why sextiles (just wondering for my own edification)?

posted May 15, 2009 02:46 PM            

Seems to me that soulmates should be people we have to learn from, or from the experiances we have with them. These experiances can be difficult or pleasant, they can take form of a romantic relationship, friendship, mentorship, or any other significant connection. You know amowls i'm surtain these guy of yours just like this girl of mine are our soulmates, but we'll know what kind in time. In my own case i know the girl will change me i can feel that. Its not because i never felt like this for anyone before, but because i just sense that she will help me turn a new chapter in my life. I feel its going to be something new and beautiful. Whatever will happen i know it will be great