posted May 15, 2009 05:25 PM            

Do all aquarians have the ability to drive you crazy with their confusion as to what they want out of a relationship or even what they call a relationship.

My gun man says that we are in a relationship yet won't expand to actually say what that means or entails LOL

He got me so confused that i sent him a multiple choice, thinking to myself "no way can he mess this up"
oh geez, how wrong was l !!!!!

Take a look:

a) i fancy u but we will never be anything but fcuk buddies
b) i like u enough to see where this can go
c) i like u lots but i've been hurt and i'm scared of u hurting me
d) i don't feel like i'm good enough for u and fail to see what u see in me
e) i made a mistake - i don't want anything with you

ANSWER:
a/b/c

LOL

My response"
"so you wanna be my f*** buddy AND see where this can go.

Surely if we are f*** buddies then c doesn't count!!!!!!!!!

and you already told me you didn't wanna be f*** buddies with me stating that it was spiritual cos after 5 months of no sex it meant it wasn't f*** buddies LOL

you can take out c cos i'd never hurt you. never. Why do you think i sent you that message on her yesterday if i wanted to hurt you. If l wanted to hurt you, i'd just use you!"

Him: a+b then

ME: baby, a + b don't go together!!! So, you wanna just f*** me but you don't like me as a person.

Him: corse i like u as a person.....so more b with plenty of a

Me: u confuse me

A = **** BUDDY which means just sex and is exactly what i told you i didn't ever wanna have with you! zzzz

So are you saying "i like you and would like to have a relationship with you in time" or are you saying "i like you and would like to have lots of sex with you but hey, i'm gonna **** other people and you will be like a mistress"

WHY on earth do you keep saying we are in a relationship then?

Him: im saying lets see how it goes.....xx

Me:
(trying another angle)
ok, thanks xx

so r we free to date/sleep with other people or not please?
Can we have some boundaries cos no boundaries is not good.

Him: wot do u suggest?

zzzzzzzzzzzzzz ok i'm getting bored and ****** off now.

Me: I suggest u slap urself round the face in the mirror and ask urself what u want!
Then pick up the phone and tell me in black and white.
If I'm interested, great! If I'm not, tough **** !
X

H.E.L.P

LMAO!!!!!

posted May 15, 2009 05:31 PM            

Obviously he likes you but you guys aren't in a SERIOUS relationship yet. So maybe all he's saying is that he wants to build on what you already have? + sex.

posted May 15, 2009 05:32 PM            

"i dont want to hurt u, i do want to sleep with u but i feel in tune with ur mind too.....casually sex is easy to find but u r soo different and fasinating....if all wanted was sex i wud have given up by now wuidnt i? we have had sex 0 times but i still want u.....see? x"

posted May 15, 2009 05:34 PM            

I think he must want to build on it too but it's interesting to me that he said "C" cos l always suspected that he was scared of getting hurt.

posted May 15, 2009 06:05 PM            

I would say don't sweat it. He's got some Venus/Uranus thing going on from what I recall, doesn't he? He won't be good at cementing something in words. But I think actions speak louder than words....so don't try and get him to sign on the dotted line for now.

And yes, you should be seeing other people. Period. Sorry, if he's not putting it out that he wants you as his one and only in the plainest terms, then as far as I'm concerned you are still 'single' i.e., unattached and can go out with whoever you want to. I'm not saying you need to flaunt it in his face (that would be tacky), but I think it takes the pressure off the situation a bit to keep an open mind, especially now. You don't even need to mention to him that you're seeing other people. Why should you? Why do you feel you need to set up boundaries, when he himself hasn't taken initiative to do so?

And I really wouldn't worry about it. He's in the bag, as far as I'm concerned (probably. 5 months of this? Come on). He just won't admit it lol. So don't try and make him. He'll do it on his own, I'm sure.
This is not a guy, from what I remember of his chart (and photos LOL!), who seems to have ANY problem with taking initiative or taking action when he wants to. So relax....

posted May 15, 2009 06:10 PM            

I so don't wanna lose this guy but i'll be damned if i'm about to just lay down and let him walk all over me

Yeah, he has venus in capricorn square uranus in libra. Moon in libra too!

So you think it's not just all about sex for him then? I don't think it is myself. x

OK i won't sweat it.. i'll just play along and go out and have fun for desert

posted May 15, 2009 06:15 PM            

No, I don't think it's sex only...I mean, there seems like there's something more substantial there to me.
Moon in Libra/Venus in Cappy square Uranus. So he can act unpredictable but still wants to please LOL! But methinks he wants a touch of the traditional too in a woman. So smacking his paws every now and again when he reaches for your leg might turn him on

posted May 15, 2009 06:18 PM            

It's so true... he said he was coming out of his shell for me so that is pretty unusual for him

I did tell him on the phone today that l was just going to walk away and he said "don't do a silly thing like that!" so he is hiding his feelings for sure. My aries stellium can't STAND it though

It wants to know now now now where l stand. grrr

posted May 16, 2009 07:01 AM            

a. Do I want him as a fcuk buddy?

No. I feel I deserve more. I pretend I like these situations but in reality I know I deserve more than being someone's "leg over" when the need arises.

b. Have sex together and see where it leads?

Well I know where it will lead. Precisely nowhere.As they all do. Because why would a man change an ideal situation? Occasional sex with a no strings attachment that also leaves him free to pursue other women which leads me to.....

c. Are we free to sleep with other people?

Please say no.

d. Do you want to disappear off the planet?

Heck no. Got it made here.

A few "don't be sillies" and a "You know I care about you but I'm afraid of getting of hurt" thrown in do not a relationship make.
Allow me to beat him to death for you with a "Whiny stick".
He will fight back with
"My last girl did a number on me" and
"My parents got divorced so I don't believe in marriage" but I will eventually whack him into submission.

Is this one of these internet romances a.k.a Male supermarket shopping?

Stop right there missy.

Lara you are a fabulous woman. Look like hell on wheels. Probably give the best sex ever and cook up a storm afterwards. Would make a man feel like a billion dollars so WHY oh WHY oh WHY do you keep putting up with these...I shall not call them men....children?
You have three already?
Wait for a man to say these three things.

1. I wan't to take you out, spoil you, spend money on you and I will not expect to stay the night unless YOU ask me.

2. Lara I do not want you to see other men.

3. I will be there for you. I know the package you come with and that's fine by me.

You will not get it from this AQuarian.
bunnies has spoken!

posted May 16, 2009 07:43 AM            

Lots of planets moving around in the sky right now which all looks neat and pretty, probably means something. Anyway....

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a) i fancy u but we will never be anything but fcuk buddies

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b) i like u enough to see where this can go

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c) i like u lots but i've been hurt and i'm scared of u hurting me

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d) i don't feel like i'm good enough for u and fail to see what u see in me

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e) i made a mistake - i don't want anything with you

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From what you wrote, you have been dating that guy for 5 months. If he isnt sure after 5 months, I guess he is there for sex.
It would have been better to give them options face-to-face as you can tell more of his response from his body language.

posted May 16, 2009 10:51 AM            

I did not really read your conversation, partially because I could not understand it.