posted June 07, 2009 07:57 PM         

Personally, I think that the planets are our primary energies, so that any of them falling on someone's DC is meaningful, but then our axis are actually the filter of our energies, so that when there's AC opposition, our overall energies are rather complementary.

posted June 07, 2009 08:08 PM         

Our Ascendants were in 16 minutes opposition and a 6 minute contraparallel...so they were in an occultation....or you can say that we eclipse each other. Her Ascendant in Pisces,and my Ascendant in Virgo.

She also had Jupiter square Ascendant,and I have Jupiter square Ascendant...our Jupiters conjunct and her Jupiter square my Ascendant.

She also had Venus in Taurus sextile Ascendant,and her Venus trine my Ascendant with 3 minutes of arc. That was the closest of our major aspects in synastry.

posted June 07, 2009 08:46 PM         

It's not just AC/DC stuff, as you might think. Conjunctions between any mix of the four angles seem equally gluey and significant.

In my (totally unscientific and unofficial) experience looking at a number of synastry charts, I've found that angle-to-angle conjunctions are the most surefire indicator of MUTUALITY. I keep seeing charts with planets conjunct the DC where, if I didn't know better, I would read it to mean mutual attraction and mutual connectedness, but sometimes only one person seems to feel it.

The importance of personal planets, nodes, or asteroids conjunct the MC/IC in synastry shouldn't be overlooked. Even though MC is supposed to mean career stuff, I think it can really increase the feeling of significance in a romantic connection.

It's so hard to test this stuff, because the people whose charts I look at are almost always one of the following:
-People who are about to get married and want to know if the partner is their soul mate
-People who are in frustrated "he's just not that into you" kinds of relatationships and are looking for astrological confirmation that there's some explanation for the depth of their own feelings

In case #2, there usually IS intense synastry that looks like it would be mutual, but sometimes the other person is just not as interested or invested anyway. Maybe it's also that intense people with 8th house or 12th house, Plutonian or Neptunian emphases in their personalities tend to be drawn to astrology, and sometimes the dorks they're attracted to are just blander and more noncommittal.

I don't know. But I would look in this order, based on my experience so far comparing synastry to relationships:
1) Conjunctions between any angles
2) Double-whammy North Node conjunctions
3) Double-whammy planet-to-angle conjunctions (A's ASC conjunct B's Sun and B's ASC conjunct A's Sun, for example)
4) One-way planet-to-angle or planet-to-Node conjunctions (and, beware one person really feeling connected, the other not being too into it)
5) Karma and Vertex aspects

I think conjunctions of the angles to the Sun-Moon midpoint might be key too, but I haven't looked at those as much.

Another thing I've found is that house overlays don't work out the way I might think--lots of times 1st, 5th, 8th, and 7th house connections can be about one-sided obsessions, while 4th, 9th, 10th, or 11th can make the people really want to team up in their daily life. It all depends on the natal charts, and on whether an attraction is mutually activated.

Astrology is never the only factor indicating how a relationship will play out and/or whether two people will find each other attractive.

posted June 07, 2009 08:52 PM         

my maternal grandfather and maternal stepgrandmother had Ascendant-Ascendant conjunction in Scorpio,and they were married for 40 yrs until my grandfather's death. They had 4 children together. My mother was from a previous marriage which was a sham. My biological grandmother married my grandfather for a allotment check when he was in the Marines. She already had a baby when they met. My biological grandmother wasn't even with my grandfather for a year.

it was like they just got together for my mom to be born, and that was it.

Raymond

posted June 07, 2009 08:57 PM         

The thing is, what if a couple falls madly in love but they don't have "soulmate" synastry? I've seen it happen, although of course with asteroids, hypothetical space objects, progressions, draco charts, etc etc etc you can almost always find something astrological to support ANY thesis...I mean, give me synastry between any two people and I'll be able to find "soulmate" evidence, or, for that matter, evidence that they might drive each other nuts.

What's important is not looking at astrology for proof of something ("my Sun-Venus are conjunct his DC--does this mean we're Destined to be SoulMates?")...what's important is looking at the relationship you already have, and then using the synastry as a tool to best work with the energies as they are manifesting themselves in your unique relationship NOW, in REAL LIFE.

posted June 07, 2009 09:06 PM         

I agree 100 percent with Lucia's wisdom!