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Topic: Vir/Sco True Forbidden love or Virgo Obssession?
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kindredcayce Knowflake Posts: 6 From: usa Registered: Jun 2009
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posted June 28, 2009 01:30 AM
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kindredcayce Knowflake Posts: 6 From: usa Registered: Jun 2009
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posted June 28, 2009 01:37 AM
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Glaucus Knowflake Posts: 624 From: Sacramento,California Registered: Apr 2009
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posted June 28, 2009 01:52 AM
Transiting Uranus is conjuncting your Moon and opposing your Sun, and so that indicate the possible changes,unpredictability of feelings (Moon) involving men (Sun). It can be a that you feel the need to be independent and even experiment. Uranus is also considered the awakener. also transiting retrograde Jupiter-Neptune-Chiron conjunction in Aquarius is opposing your Venus,and that can indicate expansive confusion/imagination/idealism, and pain affecting your love nature. These transits altogether can indicate a potential affair, and so please be careful. Maybe it would be best to confess your feelings to the man, but it would also seem that confessing your feelings to your husband should also be the honorable thing to do. Most people would feel threatened to know that their partners are having strong feelings for other people.
there might be a need for relationship counseling. Transiting Chiron opposing your Venus could fit with that. also transiting Uranus conjuncting your Moon and opposing your Sun makes sense for turning to Astrology (Uranus) to understand your relationships with men (Sun oppose Moon) Raymond
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kindredcayce Knowflake Posts: 6 From: usa Registered: Jun 2009
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posted June 28, 2009 02:06 AM
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kindredcayce Knowflake Posts: 6 From: usa Registered: Jun 2009
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posted June 28, 2009 02:06 AM
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Lucia23 Knowflake Posts: 480 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted June 28, 2009 02:20 AM
A few words of unastrological advice--it's totally natural to be very attracted to many people over a lifetime, even when you're in a happy marriage. It's a myth that only unhappily married people feel those attractions. You have two ethical choices (unless you want to end your marriage, and it sounds like you do not)--you can talk to your husband about opening your marriage and having a non-monogamous relationship (I think there is a thread on polyamory in the Soul Unions section of this forum), or you can make the conscious decision that although you've acknowledged your attraction, you will not act on it. This is one of those cases where a reading of your natals and transits (as Glaucus gave) can help, and I think looking at the synastry is beside the point--you don't need astrology to tell you you feel a deep connection to this man, and--unless you decide to consensually open your marriage to act on your attraction--it does not matter AT ALL whether he reciprocates. The world is full of thrilling, breathtaking people and tantalizing potential for sexual and spiritual connections...we ALL can have more than just one "true love", the idea that love is so finite and limited is societal, not natural...if you decide to have a monogamous marriage, you cannot explore this connection. It's a tough choice, but there are tradeoffs. You won't be able to just stop thinking about him--it's a bit like having a weight problem and having to consciously remember to stick with a healthy diet even if you wish you could sit and eat a vat of ice cream. Also, it sounds like you want validation--from the Scorpio and maybe from finding out that it's astrological true love--that your feelings are reciprocated. Unless you and your husband decide to open your marriage, or you decide to leave your husband to explore this other connection, it completely does not matter whether or not the Scorpio feels the same way you do. Also--your feelings aren't "wrong", they are completely natural! IP: Logged |
kindredcayce Knowflake Posts: 6 From: usa Registered: Jun 2009
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posted June 28, 2009 02:29 AM
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future_uncertain Knowflake Posts: 75 From: Registered: May 2009
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posted June 28, 2009 08:50 AM
You want to know how the Scorpio feels-- have you asked yourself what comes next if he feels the way you do?Lucia, I love this: quote: The world is full of thrilling, breathtaking people and tantalizing potential for sexual and spiritual connections...
Why do you need to know how he feels? I'm not asking because it's an unusual desire, but because you really need to know the answer to this question before you play with that fire.For the record, I wouldn't be able to help myself... I like playing with fire just a little too much. IP: Logged |
crabbypatty Knowflake Posts: 60 From: New York, NY Registered: Apr 2009
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posted June 28, 2009 10:26 AM
I can relate to just wanting to KNOW how he feels, so you know if it's just you or whether this is the kind of energy connection that I was told by Steve Gunn I had with MY Scorpio obsession man (who is married as well).No judgment here; and it doesn't sound like you'd do anything to hurt your husband just for the sake of some momentary bliss with the other man; you just want to KNOW. I don't know what the astrology reveals, and maybe it holds the answer, but I happen to think that a legitimate psychic (I know a couple) would be in a good position to give you the answer you want through your spirit guide(s). IP: Logged |
Orange Knowflake Posts: 43 From: Georgia Registered: May 2009
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posted June 28, 2009 10:35 AM
Cayce, with that exact Venus/Pluto conjunction in your synastry, if you yield at this passion between you two and dare explore it on a deeper level, it would be all consuming and uncontrolable, life shattering. Venus and Pluto do that to each other. Think before you do anything, because it would be to late after that.IP: Logged |
VirgOh Knowflake Posts: 97 From: New Jersey, USA Registered: May 2009
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posted June 28, 2009 11:04 AM
I am sorry to bust your bubble Glaucus, but things are not as cut n dry as you put them whether on this thread or on the Michael Jackson thread. It's not all about transits.It's beyond me why you neglect to mention the simple connection between Virgo & Scorpio, as they were once the same sign? As a Virgo Male I feel at ease with Scorpio females maybe more than any other sign and for a strange reason there is always a mutual attraction and a flow of communication on many different levels, beginning with the eyes and the way we size eachother up. Not to mention how easy water and earth signs blend I think these things play a role in what she is feeling also, beside all you mentioned about transits. IP: Logged |
Glaucus Knowflake Posts: 624 From: Sacramento,California Registered: Apr 2009
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posted June 28, 2009 11:16 AM
VirgOh,You didn't burst my bubble. I don't know why you are pointing out the cut and dry. I understand that. There is no need to point that out. there are people that type a few details,and they know that it's not all cut and dry. I know that it's not all about transits I only just mentioned the transits because I was pointing out how she has some close ones....the Uranus ones. They can be in synchronicity with how she feels right now. I was leaving the natal and synastry stuff to somebody else. another thing...I don't put much emphasis on zodiac signs in Astrology. I put a lot more emphasis on aspects...I lean more towards a cosmobiological,geometrical approach. Therefore, I approach astrology differently I am not necessarily drawn to Virgos. it doesn't matter to me...I don't put much emphasis on sunsign compatibility. I never really did as long as I was in Astrology. I didn't have affinity with some Virgos. It really depends on what else is going on in the chart. I didn't have affinity with some Pisces too...nor Scorpios..nor Capricorns..nor Taurus. That's in regard to sunsigns. I felt some affinity with Aries,Libra,Aquarius,Sagittarius though. that's probaby because of other things in the chart. I don't generalize about sunsigns. I am no typical Scorpio myself,and I don't anybody to trying to fit me into a Scorpio box when I am beyond that. I feel that I can identify with my Sun in constellation Virgo. I have some doubt about tropical sunsigns....especially with people born in the Southern Hemisphere. we all have our views just like you said, it's not all cut and dry. I am open to both sides of anything
so alternative viewpoints are always welcome therefore, no bubble was being burst. Raymond IP: Logged |
mercuranian Knowflake Posts: 124 From: the 12th house Registered: Apr 2009
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posted June 28, 2009 11:21 AM
yep, it's that venus pluto conjunction!!IP: Logged |
meta_4 Knowflake Posts: 189 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted June 28, 2009 01:08 PM
kindredcayce,I'd just like to say that i know how you feel. First of all, you NEED to breathe. I understand that right now it feels as though the universe is playing a cruel trick on you by forcing you to feel this way toward this man, but there's really nothing you can do about it. You want him. Plain and simple. We cannot help who we're attracted to- you cannot stop it or alter it, so the only option you have left is to accept it. Second of all, you need to ask yourself, "What do i want from this? What do i want to happen? What outcome?" If you want to be with him badly enough, you will make that choice no matter what advice anyone gives you. But if you want to remain faithful to your husband, you need to cut this man out of your life. Completely. I am a firm believer that some people cannot be "just friends". When there are those overwhelming, all-comsuming feelings of passion - whether it's from both parties, or just one- friendship isn't a possibility. Why? Because those feelings never cease. They may go dormant, or even fade, but they will always resonate within you. So, stop thinking of this with your heart, and libido, and start thinking of this with your brain. Try to be rational. If you want to find out how he feels, astrology can only help you so much. Inevitably the only real answer you're going to attain is through just plain asking him- which obviously you don't want to do. So, my next advice to you would be to do some charts. Log-in to astro.com, put in your data and his, and examine your natals. Then do a synastry chart. Next do a composite chart. Then do both of your Drac charts, comparing Drac synastry, and also Natal/Drac synastry. I'd use tight orbs- nothing over 3 degrees. Look especially for conjunctions, oppositions, and I PERSONALLY look at squares. You can also use asteroids, such as: Karma (3811), Eros (433), Psyche (16), Osiris (1923), Isis (42), Juno, Valentine, Amor, Destinn, Union. I might also even check Nessus, Dejanira, Persephone, Aphrodite, and whatever else might float your boat. Again, try to be rational. Think of this as an explanation for your feelings. When you think of emotions in a two-dimensional way they become much, MUCH easier to manage. If you need help, i'd be glad to lend a hand, though i am no expert. Good luck. IP: Logged |
Glaucus Knowflake Posts: 624 From: Sacramento,California Registered: Apr 2009
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posted June 28, 2009 01:11 PM
I agree with Lucia 100 percent on what she said. She doesn't really need astrology to know how she feels nor how to resolve the situation. Raymond
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Orange Knowflake Posts: 43 From: Georgia Registered: May 2009
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posted June 28, 2009 01:12 PM
VirgOh and Glaucus, after all you are a Virgo and a Scorpio. better make up at lastIP: Logged |
VirgOh Knowflake Posts: 97 From: New Jersey, USA Registered: May 2009
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posted June 28, 2009 04:39 PM
!!! lolIP: Logged |
glamgem25 Knowflake Posts: 21 From: Texas Registered: May 2009
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posted June 28, 2009 05:07 PM
Oh you don't want to know how he feels because it will make it worse. Was in the same situation but found out his feelings were exactly the same and there was nothing we could do about it. I think it's more difficult knowing. IP: Logged |
future_uncertain Knowflake Posts: 75 From: Registered: May 2009
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posted June 28, 2009 10:27 PM
Glaucus, for the record, I like your approach. It's different and I appreciate that.IP: Logged |
kindredcayce Knowflake Posts: 6 From: usa Registered: Jun 2009
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posted June 29, 2009 10:22 AM
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Lucia23 Knowflake Posts: 480 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted June 29, 2009 12:49 PM
quote: If I could figure out if this situation stems from simply my own fixation on him, and nothing recipricol, I could rationalize with myself, and tell myself that it's just me, there's nothing there BETWEEN THE BOTH OF US, and I think I could be able to move on.
Are you saying that if this is reciprocal, you plan to choose this relationship over your relationship with your husband, and/or open your marriage? Like I said, there are hundreds of people in this world we will each be attracted to or even in love with, so this is a two part process: PART 1: decide whether you want to stay with your husband. PART 2: if you decide to stay with your husband, then decide whether you are going to be monogamous, or whether you want to open your marriage to include other lovers. If you decide to leave your husband or open your relationship, the next step (after talking with your husband) is to determine whether the Scorpio is interested in a relationship with you. If you decide to stay with your husband and NOT open the relationship, exploring your romantic/sexual connections with other men, including finding out whether they are mutual, is cheating. It is a good way to destroy a marriage...even if you keep it hidden, you are forcing your husband to live with a betrayal he doesn;t know about. Feeling a MUTUAL attraction or love outside the marriage does not justify cheating. The only ethical choices are to leave the marriage, consensually open the marriage, or gently close the door on that other mutual attraction. I personally think more people should try opening their marriages--it's just that it's much harder work than simply lying and cheating. This way, it's like you're saying, oh, I'll stay in my marriage UNLESS this more exciting connection is mutual. That seems very unfair to your husband. You can assume that this attraction is mutual, and that even if it isn't, both you and your husband will meet many wonderful people during your lifetimes who you might have great, mutual romantic and sexual compatibility with. Monogamy is not always natural or easy--it involves making a choice and commitment--but the difficulty does not justify deceiving the other person by exploring other connections (even just emotionally) while pretending to be committed. IP: Logged | |