posted July 02, 2009 09:14 PM            

I read on an earlier thread that hard aspects to eros would actually be much more potent and note-worthy than say, trines and sextiles, but would that be the case if the Ascendant is involved? Would it be kind of like "wow, this person is really not my type but there's something about them that really turns me on kind of thing?"

posted July 02, 2009 10:18 PM            

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Would it be kind of like "wow, this person is really not my type but there's something about them that really turns me on kind of thing?"

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posted July 02, 2009 10:25 PM            

Well, yes I know that it's not the meat and bones of the attraction, and that it's just the icing. I was just wondering how exactly it would play out... It is at a 0 degree orb as well... There are several more potent aspects both with eros and other planets and angles... just curious about what this would signify...

posted July 02, 2009 10:45 PM            

And the thing with Eros (from what I read) is that the hard aspects are more potent...

The thing is I have this with my bf and he told me that when he saw me he immediately thought I was "smokin' hot" but one time when I asked him, he pretty much told me that I'm not his usual type (although he says he finds me extremely attractive)! ...which kind of hurt my feelings... my venus in aries NEEDS to be adored, and knowing that I'm not what he naturally prefers is sometimes a little bit of a blow to my ego... you know what I mean?

So when I saw this aspect in our chart, I thought maybe this could be the explanation of the erotic attraction despite me not being physically what he usually goes for?

posted July 03, 2009 04:40 AM            

I actually think your interpretation is spot on.
The square providing a lot of energy, but also that feeling "Something`s not right"; or he / she is so NOT what I am attracted to.

posted July 03, 2009 12:22 PM            

Well I sure HOPE it doesn't cause resentment!! I mean we've been together almost a year! It's not like he's repulsed by me or anything like that (at least I don't think so lol) It's just that I'm (relatively) tall, blonde and blue-eyed,late virgo or libra ascendant (still can't quite figure it out lol) and he's a cancer venus... meaning he's attracted to dark hair and dark features mostly...

So you see what I'm saying? I mean he's completely attracted to me but it's kind of odd, knowing that I'm not exactly what he usually goes for... which kind of makes me self-conscious sometimes...

posted July 03, 2009 12:58 PM            

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and he's a cancer venus... meaning he's attracted to dark hair and dark features mostly...

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Huh? Why would Cancer Venus mean that?

I think issues like resentment and frustration with ASC square Eros or similar aspects would play out more on the emotional level, even though the ASC does show how we experience someone on a surface/appearance-based level. I'm not sure the content of the frustration could be seen from that asteroid alone, but the quality of it could.

posted July 05, 2009 03:43 PM            

ex-valentine square someones ascendant
juno square someones ascendant.

posted July 05, 2009 06:54 PM            

Well Venus in a Man's Chart shows you what he's attracted to... so he has Venus in Cancer (as well as a cancer stellium)... and he's always told me that he likes dark hair and dark eyes... so wouldn't the embodiment of his venus be a woman with a cancer AC? and being completely opposite of that wouldn't it kind of explain the Eros square Ascendant... However his Valentine does conjunct my AC as well so would that modify it?

posted July 05, 2009 06:59 PM            

I think squares between love/sex asteroids and the ASC, MOON, SUN, or VENUS cause the asteroid person to feel an intense attraction to/interest in the angle/planet person, but barriers and obstacles (emotional or just logistical) keep coming up to block them from really playing out those feelings. (If it's a love object-Mars square, the frustration is mutual.)

I think for two young, heterosexual people, the boy being attracted to a similar-age blond girl instead of his usual similar-age brunette girl does not qualify as a "not my usual type" issue...if he was suddenly hot for an obese, 47-year-old, one-legged woman from a strange country he had never visited, who was a different race than his family and friends, to me that would qualify as "not his usual type." Uranus would be involved.

This Eros square ASC is playing out, I think, more in the following way: He is sexually attracted to her, but one or both feel a need to engage in some sort of sexual power-play surrounding the idea that she's not his usual type, which is actually a way to make a girl feel insecure.

posted July 05, 2009 07:45 PM            

lol yeah you're right! It does make a difference between the two physical examples you gave (i.e. the young blond girl and 47 year old woman)...

posted July 05, 2009 10:42 PM            

In my experience square/challenging sexual - angle/planet aspects aren't so much about the 'wrong type' energy playing out, but more about the difficulty/challenge in expressing that energy, specifically as seen by the points involved.